The Problem with some people in relationships is that they fail to do the needful at the earliest moment and then later in the future, they start to blame each other for it. The truth is that both are to be blamed. A story about two lovebirds (Jack and Margaret) written by @Davinchysax in his post here
Jack and Margaret met themselves in the college and their love keeps growing till they graduated and were working. Their relationship has gone a long way (more than 5years) before they could remember they hadn't gone for their genotype. This ofcourse stopped their marriage because both of them weren't compatible.
The story though was fictional but it really do have meaning and also a red signal for people who are still in relationship.
I also read a novel titled "Tears of a Woman". They have gone deep into the relationship before they remembered they need to go for their genotype. It was really a painful moment for both of them because after years of loving themselves and concluding, they are getting married. Is this what would stop them from getting married?
It is always very hurtful to realize you both aren't meant for each other due to non compatibility with genotype but still, it's still something worth breaking up for because the future is going to be dangerous and risky for both. Many marriages are in dilemma because they were blinded by love that they forgot to check their genotype or perhaps, they never took it serious when they were still dating or courting. "All will be well" "Nothing will happen" "We will find a way to solve it". etc. These are common words they end up assuring themselves of that they aren't mindful of the children they are bringing to this world.
It's a pity to see many marriages going through hell by spending money in the hospitals rather than taking good care of themselves. Many families have gone bankruptcy because they do not want their child who is a sickle cell patient to die. But in the end, the child gives up. Who is at fault? Everyone will then start blaming both couple. Or perhaps the husband starts venting his anger on the wife or the wife doing otherwise and it causes chaos in the home.
It is always important to take genotype serious like someone going for an interview. If you do not take it serious today, it will show its real face in the future. By then, what will you do? You will then start blaming the love you had for him or her.
A movie I watched sometimes back titled "Strain" This was the same thing that happened and when it was getting worse, both of them started blaming themselves over their son who was a sickle cell patient. Let me make clear something perhaps it works. It can only be better if both parents are wealthy and take the necessary steps by administering drugs for the victim, but most times, the child might not make it.
Same thing with this couple. When it was getting worse, they went for the best solution to them which was "BONE MARROW TRANSPLANT". It is like a blood being donated to the patient and siblings are the usual for it.
Not everyone can afford this and what if the patient is the only child? Where do they get the transplant when the only effective one is from siblings.
This is a mistake I will never do. Inasmuch as we believe in miracles except on cases like when God is involve and He tells you to go ahead and you both are destined for each other.
Don't ever try to make the mistake of saying "YES, I DO" when you both are not sure of your genotype or you already know and you want to risk your future with it. The end is not something desiring at all. You are just placing your children's death in your hands.
When you both are starting your journey, it is important to go for check up in the hospital instead of going on a date for the first time. Date will always come but when you make that mistake, you can never rectify it because at that time, it will be too late to turn back. Don't ruin your marriage. If you aren't compatible, thought it hurts but what is better for you. A broken relationship or broken marriage with regrets?
Thanks for reading
|June 26, 2021|
What you do today will surely affect your tomorrow. So it's better to make hurtful decisions now that to regret for the rest of your lifetime. This is a good read.