I want stability in a man.

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β€œThe greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.”

Natalie Cole

Yesterday, I couldn't believe today will be Saturday. How time flies so quickly! When did we start this week, and we are ending it in a few hours.

This is the reason we should keep going with our goals because time waits for no man. Before we know it, this year will end and we start a new year. Above all, what matters is that we are still alive and breathing. That's something we should always be grateful for because we do not deserve it but it's Grace.


Every lady wants the best, including me. We all want a man who is doing okay, and not the one struggling to make ends meet. Such a guy does not even need to have a girlfriend or fiancee yet, or else, both of them might suffer.

Some ladies have a principle now; if he doesn't have it all, I won't love him. A real man will never accept you too if he discovers the reason you are in a relationship with him.

But despite all of these, don't you think a lady would be deceiving herself if her love is based on a guy's stability? I mean, she is loving the guy for all he has which I would say such love can never last.

A woman also needs to fend for herself and not go with the mentality that the man should provide all for her because they are in a relationship. A lady should work to be independent. At least one plus one makes it two which is better when supporting each other.

Even aside from meeting a man who is in all areas stable, would you still go ahead to cheat on him?

Love shouldn't depend on how much a guy has. Everyone needs to work hard to help each other and not leave the task to the man alone. Even when he has it all, he would still appreciate it when his girlfriend does something for him. Don't just be with an empty brain in your relationship.

Also, cheating when he has everything would make you lose all.

There was a lady in a movie I watched. It was obvious she loved him for his stability. The guy has everything a lady wanted to care for her. He loves her truly but she fucked up when she invited her ex into her fiance's home.

No matter what you do or trying to do, it's risky inviting an ex over to your man's house. What effrontery? If it's with your man's permission, it is still allowed but if not, you don't even have any business with your ex.

Someone ask me a question; Will you still be friends with your ex again?

The thing is this; it's not a bad idea to make friends with your ex after a breakup but be careful. If you cannot handle or control it, you should decline such an idea. It takes a mature person who isn't controlled by anything to do that. Even aside from that, your meeting point should be at an open place and anything aside from that, you are calling for big trouble.

The ex explained he had got a Job and can take care of her. Why did they break up? The lady looked less on him and taught him he wouldn't become someone, and she went for a man who could provide all her needs. She still loves him but didn't have a choice.

The ex wanted her back. They both kissed and that was the end of it.

The real man got to know she was only in his life for his money and nothing else.

Some ladies are just not contented. Even if you are with another person, do away with your feelings for the past relationships and start a new life with someone new.

A man's stability shouldn't determine if you should love him or not. It's bad because such a relationship will never last.

To be sincere, I want a man who would be able to provide for all my needs, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't help too. Not depending fully on him earns me some respect. Don't you think?

Ladies, know what you want in a man first even before you opt into any relationship with him and if you think you just want to spend his money and later leave, that is a bad intention from you.

I was happy to see @fantagira came around yesterday. She renewed my sponsorship which I really appreciate. It's been a while ma, and I hope you are doing good?

Thanks for your time

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Every lady wishes a perfect person in life. Not deceiving type but a caring and loving person indeed. The same is expected by a man. Some relations get well but some break up due to lack of misunderstanding.

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2 years ago

You are right. We all want the best but we must also be careful not to lose our worth. Understanding matters.

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2 years ago

I want a man who is god-fearing and loving. He should also have a good job for us to live satisfactorily plus I'll be working too.

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2 years ago

Exactly. We shouldn't carry all our burdens on them.

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2 years ago

It's funny because most people are confused. They don't even know what they want or maybe they know what they want but they are masking it by deceiving others but in the end, their intentions always show.

I am friends with my ex but I keep them at arm's length. I wouldn't say buddy buddy kind of friends but people I relate with once in a while...when occasion calls for it that we should talk. It's a tricky part and if you can't handle your emotions like you say, just don't be friends with them because you will always get drawn into that old life again and mess up what you have going and still, they won't still be with you in the end. Losing on both ends.

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2 years ago

Losing on both ends, Uncle Ola! πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

Controlling our emotions is important oo so you aren't washed away.

It's not bad keeping your ex as friends as long as you know what you are doing. Thank you, KP 😊

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2 years ago

Exactly...as long as you know what you are doing. Some can't keep their emotions in check...it's better for them not to be friends with the ex at all.

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2 years ago

Time is running at its own pace but seems to be passing too fast for us. No one can trust an ex easily because there is no guarantee that someone who leaves hurt once will not come back and leave again.

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2 years ago

We only need to be careful.

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2 years ago

Having a partner in life there's a lot of consequences that be needed to done. If your partner had a good heart and have a stable job, oh it's your lucky man. Not all men are like that sometimes they will mocked you down. Don't have work or cant help some financial expenses at home. Better to be single lol.

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2 years ago

Exactly πŸ˜…πŸ˜… better be single if you aren't ready for some commitments in relationship. You shouldn't always be at the receiving end always.

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2 years ago

Girls should not use as ladders those boys who have money. Girls who work hard and hustle hard know their worth and a man with money is just a bonus. We should know the essence of helping each other in a relationship, and it's a good thing that I and my partner help each other, especially in financial matters.

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2 years ago

When a lady has everything, a man with money is a bonus. I love that.

We should complement each other by supporting ourselves.

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2 years ago

Ladies need to know this abeg, the guys too are wise now and wouldn't want to date a liability. Ladies should be independent and don't depend on any man to feed them. I see no reason to be with your ex, it's an ex for god sake and that should be bygone. The feelings will surely take over if in a quiet place and something must surely sup.

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2 years ago

Naso! Just like I said, there is nothing wrong with being friends with your ex, you should be matured enough to handle yourselves in case of anything. If you can't control your emotions, then move away completely.

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2 years ago

Having a man who is financial stable is a good wish that every woman desire to have. But the bad side of it is when a lady put all her load on the man. It will be better if the lady is also rendering a supporting hand into the relationship.

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2 years ago

The lady will never earn his respect whatsoever. A lady should be able to fend for herself too without the man sometimes.

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2 years ago

You know what, almost all ladies know this truth that they become more valued when they don't totally depend on their man for everything. They know also that it's not good going into a relationship because of money but the problem is that, MOST of them don't adhere to these. This world would be peace of ladies follow some of basic principles of life

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2 years ago

You are right. Ladies should always go for being valued in a relationship. It's a plus forever when you don't have to wait for him to give you. Be an assets too. Men loves it.

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2 years ago

Yes princess you're right. Both should helping each other. We shouldn't rely what our partners had. We must use our initiative that we must do an action to help and support of our partners.

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2 years ago

It's all about support for our partners and not thinking we should always collect from them without contributing our parts.

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2 years ago

Yes princess that's true.

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2 years ago

When it comes to love,it doesnt matter for me of what a man has or any material thing he has.look at his inner side and the attitude thats the best asset of a good man for me ,,hello sis!

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2 years ago

Exactly. When you love, be opened to good behaviors and attitudes in a partner or else, one will suffer. Lol

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2 years ago

Heyyy Princess! Sorry, I have been away for this long. I had to reorganise my life and deal with some issues. I had no headspace for reading or writing. Hoping to be back in full swing now 😍

As for the men… well, I’ve grown to be independent to the extreme. I only ever depend on myself, but that is tricky place to be in, cause asking anyone for help is extremely difficult for me. Finding the balance between the two approaches would be ideal. Maybe I’ll work it out before I decide to move into my next relationship. For now I’m enjoying my single life again πŸ’™

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2 years ago

As for the men… well, I’ve grown to be independent to the extreme.

This is what I am always working on too and I don't want to be dependent on any guy. At least if he is helping, it's a plus but I won't have to depend fully on him.

Single life is interesting to some extent πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

I love your ways and I hope God gives you the best man too.

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2 years ago

All will happen in perfect time as always πŸ₯°

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2 years ago

All ladies want it. Nowadays, we should be practical because love alone can't feed our hungry tummy haha

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2 years ago

🀣🀣🀣 You will starve if you go for love only.

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