When we were young, we have some friends we play with. When we fight with them, we would want others to fight with them too as a way of getting back with those we fight. Let's just say we were still ignorant then. What about now that we have grown up to understand life?
I watched a movie last night and I love this quote;
"The enemy of my enemy is my friend"
Many people including friends and siblings expect that when they are at odds with someone, you also should be their enemy because they don't want you to associate with who they are fighting with. I mean, do you expect me to also be in a fight with someone you fought with? Why should I? Are you serious?🧐
Most of us have been in situations where we tend to hate or dislike people our friends or families do not like or have issues with, I am sure right now you are feeling guilty? After reading this, your mindset will change for the better.
I have a friend who had issues with a neighbor in my hostel and because of that, she told her younger sister never to associate with the person. Thank God the sister is a wise person who understands that "my sister's enemy can be the one to lift me up tomorrow"
She never allowed what her sister told her to affect her relationship with the person and they are both talking and doing fine.
I have also been in a situation where my very good friend had issues with a young man and for no reasons, they stopped being in good terms with each other and sub consciously I started avoiding this young man because I wanted to stay loyal to my friend, I am glad I am not that way any longer.
Talk about loyalty? Inheriting people’s enemies might seem loyal to us but in the actual sense of it, it isn’t. What is loyal about avoiding or distancing yourself from someone who hasn’t directly offended us but because they aren’t in good terms with people close to us.
To worsen the situation, we do not care even when our friends or families are at fault, we just inherit the situation.
There are situations where we should come into the situation and hear from both parties then come about bringing peace in their midst if it is really important to do that and there are times, we just need to respect our loved ones decisions and look away.
For no reason should we hold grudges in the first place. Why do we fight each other? Do we even find peace within us? If at all you are having issues, that doesn't give you the way to tell others to be an enemy with such person too. Your own enemy is my friend provided that we never fought before. Do your own thing and let me focus on mine. We are two different people.
REASONS WHY WE SHOULD NOT INHERIT OTHER PEOPLE’S ENEMIES
Sometimes you do not know what transpired between these two parties in the first place, it is not enough that you observed both parties not being in good terms and you care less what led to that, you just assume your friend is on the right side and then you extend the issue to your side which doesn’t sound smart enough.
There will be times when your friend and the enemy will reconcile and you will be left in the middle or stranded not knowing what to do. In some cases, your friend and the enemy might as well gang up against you, in the end you lose.
Inheriting people’s enemies is as good as loosing your peace and opportunities. There are times that opportunities we need to move up is in an information format from the enemy, that is how the opportunity will pass one by.
Stay away from picking enemies of other person just so you can be loyal to him or her especially when you haven't known the real cause of it and to know the story behind it. Some of your sources, friends and families are toxic and unaccountable all at the same time.
To crown all these said above, whenever you see your friend and another having issues, you should be a point of peace to settle both parties on all grounds, you have done well by doing that.
Thanks for reading from me again.
|September 10, 2021|
It's not really good to join in someone's fight and have them as your enemies it's not cool at all.. You're just adding more woods to the burning fire if it's like that