After her Death

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You get to realize every promises made by people are just fake. Many do not stand on their promises and they all are empty at the end. This was a true life story about myself and family after my Mum's Death in year 2016. This was when I knew "I will act as your mum" is just nothing. Let me tell you this: "No one can stand in your parent's gap" they can only do that for a while and then, they forget their promises and be like "Was I the one who killed them?" That was when I knew human beings.

Before her death, we were all living happily and I never had to worry about anything because she is always there to help and strive hard to make things work for us. Suddenly, death took her away from us and it was as if life has ended for me especially. Thank God I just graduated from the college of education to obtain my NCE CERTIFICATE then, It would have been a tough time for me. We are five children left with our Father. The first child which is our elder sister has graduated from the University then and almost through with her NYSC. My two younger siblings were in the village with Grandma then and this was because to relieve my Dad of the many struggles to feed us. So, I was left with my Dad alone while the other daughter born after me was studying in the University. My Dad do not have any work to do. Though, I was staying with my Aunt in another state then to help her. It was after Mum's demise, I was told to stay with Dad in Lagos. Things weren't going so well together and we were only surviving with the bread business my Dad suddenly took up to start fending for us. I would be with him on the road to sell the bread and we go home at 10pm daily. The profit we get is what we manage with.

THE ISSUE BEGAN

After three months of the burial, my Dad was called from the village to come attend an event which according to them is a must for all children to attend. My Dad refused and told them he won't come. He was still mourning his wife and you are saying he should come for an event in the village. Who does that? Everyone supported my Dad of not going but this Aunt (his younger sister) who I was staying with disagreed and entered into everyone's heart except for the younger brother who said nothing of such would happen. He was like "How could you all be so mean to allow brother to come home at this moment?"

My Aunt couldn't take it anymore and then I received a call early in the morning and she told me not to bother coming down to her place again if my Dad didn't go for the event. I couldn't understand what was going on. What has my Dad's issue got to do with me not staying with you? I asked myself and I thought it was a joke until the following week, she called again and said she has sent my belongings to the park so I should go and wait for the bus from Ibadan to Lagos to collect them. I couldn't believe what my Aunt did until I saw my belongings in my hands. Still, we stood on the ground that nothing was gonna change my Dad's mind of going. Let them do their worst.

My younger siblings staying with my Grandma were also sent away to come back to my Dad. Their thoughts was that my Dad wouldn't be able to cater for us but God is so good to leave His children alone. That was when I went in search of a teaching Job and to God's glory, I found one. With my Dad's bread business and my salary, we were coping.

Though it was not easy, but at least we were surviving and they didn't look back to see if we were living fine. Then, after some months, my Aunt wants me back but I refused. Why does she want me back? After all that happened and yet she wants me back. She sent my belongings to me and definitely she isn't wanting me anymore. I stood on my ground not to ever go see her. Does that mean I am holding grudges? No, I don't think so. It was after everything died down, they settled the dispute. My Dad finally talked to me to go and live with her but this happened after gaining admission into the University because I couldn't stop my teaching Job to stay with her. Since then, I have been going to meet her from school.

Something that has held me on was the fact that God never leaves His Children. He understands everything and it is only when we realize this truth, we would enjoy Him. People may come up with their disappointment, but God never disappoints at all. It is still this same God I hold onto till today as He is never tired of me. I still miss my mom everyday but do I have any choice?