A concerned lifestyle.

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

John Wooden

This is not my way of bragging or sugar-coating my lifestyle. I am very simple and feel concerned about others. I am not selfish or act as if I don't care but taking me for granted is what I wouldn't accept or tolerate. I love to show sympathy and at the same time, empathy because I feel we all are entitled to living a good and best life.

There is something about me with people, and it is that I care to the extreme level and that is what makes me unique. Yes, I am so unique and my lifestyle is nothing but good.

I was inspired to write about this experience of mine after reading the post by @Olasquare titled “Complaint and Compliment.”

He talked about a friend who lived with them for some months and never contributed anything to the house and he felt comfortable eating their food. That is a bad behaviour if I must say because these people showed great concern to live with them without collecting house rent from you and you do not feel shy not to at least support them with money to get some things you know would benefit you too.

This is not me. I am always shy of staying in someone's place and not trying my best to support them in my little way. I don't feel comfortable in someone's house even if I am staying for a few days and not doing anything.

Even staying with my aunt, I know how much I have spent to support her. She isn't my mother and so, being with her, to me, it's like an inconvenience even though she asked me to come. I don't feel too good not contributing when she is feeding me and my brother. I have it and so, I should support her too because I know it isn't easy with her.

The last teaching practice I did was in another state and city (my friend's family's house precisely). The three of us all agreed to go to the same place and one of us allowed us to stay at her family's house.

There was her grandma and Aunt living there and so, the two of us stayed there while my friend who gave us the home stayed in her parent's house that wasn't far from there.

I wasn't comfortable with that as they kept cooking and feeding us with their money. The first support I did was subscribing to their GOTV for them when it got expired. I also filled the gas for them. At least I was trying to support in my way for them while the other friend wasn't doing anything. I don't know how someone would feel so comfortable with that. Though, I understand she doesn't have enough but trying something would do a lot.

We stayed there for six weeks and I knew what I did. There was a time we went to school and while returning home, I branched into an eatery and bought food and drinks for everyone including my friend who hosted us.

The other friend wasn't around and when she returned the next week, she could have just bought bread along to give them but she didn't.

I did my best as I saw it as my way of helping and appreciating them for hosting us for such weeks. I enjoyed my stay there while they enjoyed us too.

You wouldn't bring me to your home to stay for a few weeks and I wouldn't do anything. Even giving me food for a day would be uncomfortable for me to eat because my conscience would keep telling me to do what is right and I wouldn't rest until I do something to show my gratitude.

Yes, you don't owe anyone but it is your responsibility to support especially when you are staying at someone's place. They could have disallowed you from living with them and there's nothing you can do about it. It is very bad sleeping, eating in a place not meant for you and no iota of support from you. They wouldn't ask you because they believe you should know what is right to do.

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