Nothing is ever enough in the world we live in. We always want more of everything and after we set targets on what to achieve, the moment we meet those targets, we set another. That's a good thing because it keeps us moving and that's life, it doesn't stop. Just when you think you have attained a pinnacle, the moment you just want to take a moment to relax, other things stare at you in the face and you just want to keep going.
Success sometimes doesn't seem satisfying. I got a notification yesterday that I've had more than 10,000 views and the first thing that came to my mind was, I want 100,000 views. It was the same back then when I started on Steemit in 2016. The reputation was 25 for starters and I kept going with so many achievements updates being sent to me. It was like fuel to me to keep going and going and I am still going.
That's with many others too because we sometimes see the achievements of others and we want it to motivate us to be better too. We don't want to rest on our laurels as we constantly strive to be better than the person we were a day before. There is a need for constant growth daily and others can motivate us. There is, however, a fine margin between comparison and motivation.
Your motivation must and should come from within you. What makes you do the things you do? Why do you want to do the things you planned to do? Whatever your reasons are, let your motivation stir up from inside. I understand that others can inspire us but that's all they can do but only we can motivate ourselves. The competition must be from within and not from external forces. The moment you lose that fire from inside you, there is nothing anyone else can do to get you back on track. Only you can help yourself in this regard.
Most people make the mistake of confusing comparison to motivation. I've been there before too. I see my friends working and I wasn't working then, so I started feeling depressed. I kept comparing my life to theirs and felt they had it better than I back then. Everyone is going through something they can't discuss with others and we need to stop assuming and wishing we have the life of another. Each man or woman with their stories and you can't desire their success if you don't understand where they are coming from, so you need to allow their stories to inspire you while you ruminate on it to motivate yourself from within.
There must be a reason as to why you want to do certain things. Do you want to buy a car? Why? To show off or to ease your movements? Do you want more money? Why? To help your family, yourself, others? There is always a reason why we want the things we want and how genuine your reasons are would determine how sustainable your motivation from within can be.
We shouldn't feel threatened when we see others attain some level of success. Most people think they are failing because they could only afford a smaller car whereas others are going for the latest.
I heard a story of a man earlier from my brother's wife. Apparently, the guy is a family member of hers and they noticed many years ago that this guy just got into money without anyone knowing the source of it. Presently, he has been sick and has been trying different ways to have people visit him...maybe to renew whatever he had done but no one seem to desire to go because they all knew who he is. Imagine someone on the outside would have seen this man live that life of affluence and think they are failing without understanding the crazy things he had done which he is presently suffering from now.
It's okay to see someone drive your dream car and tell yourself, "One day, I will own this." It means you opened up your mind to the possibilities of getting it not because you want to go out of the honest way to attain it to impress those who are not even looking at you.
Never compare yourself to others because it has its way of reducing you to nothing and denting your confidence. Once your confidence has been affected, it's hard to achieve those goals you have set out to achieve.
I know while growing up, anytime we failed we always have our parents compare us to others doing well. We have even had parents compare siblings to each other and I know you can understand how horrible you felt. Your friend got admission faster than you or a friend got married earlier than you or a friend completed his house when you have t even bought a brick. You have seen those who post pictures of their summer abroad whereas you haven't even stepped on a plane not to talk of owning a passport. Is it a friend who gave birth whereas you got married earlier than that friend? Do they have a job or a booming business? You have a friend even here on read cash that you both joined together but is earning more than you? I can go on and on and on...
The situations would always present themselves for us to compare ourselves to another but we shouldn't fall into that trap. Let other people's success inspire you rather than cause you to resent them. Let it fuel a desire in you that would motivate you to be better rather than depress you. We can all succeed together and you don't have to drag others down for you to succeed. Dragging others down doesn't guarantee success because we are all unique and have a different path.
Stop the comparison and start working.
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It is so easy to compare ourselves to others, I notice that I do it a lot and it hunts me but I have come to realize that everyone has their pace and comparison only puts you on a hot seat.