Be Unique But Don't Stop Learning.

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We all have the individuality that makes us unique. In a good way most of the time and yes, in not so good a way sometimes for most. Most people with toxic traits and character would still tell you they want to be accepted the way they are. In as much as I respect their right to be different, we can't forget the importance of learning in life. We must desire to be better and do better.

I shared a post yesterday regarding integrity and I enjoyed every comment from those who engaged the post. You can read about it here.

From the comments, it shows we are all different and unique. We might have similar traits and think alike but still, there would always be those who would desire to do things differently. They might be wrong but you can't ignore their rights to do things the way they feel. With an open heart, they would pick up the lessons and then try to improve.

We like to protect our space while gaining control. We want to do things our way without being told what to do and that's humans for you with our uniqueness. There is no need to try too much to change another person. You can only point them in the right direction and watch them go all the way. The lessons learnt and their determination would enable them to know if they can go all the way.

Most people try to fit into a box and it's like struggling to fix a round peg in a square hole. It's a battle that would never end and it would not only leave you defeated but exhausted. The best route to failure is when you leave your uniqueness to try and be like someone else because you feel they have it better or they are lucky.

I like balance because a lot of people try to hide under being 'unique' without leaving room for growth. In our uniqueness, we should keep growing by adding values to ourselves. Imagine a football player knowing how good he is with his feet and speed, he needs to first accept the things he is blessed with before he can improve on the things he isn't good at. It is not about 'copying' another person but about improving. They are different and a lot of people confuse them. Just as low self-esteem is different from pride. Pride is thinking of yourself more than you ought to and low self-esteem is thinking of yourself less than you ought to.

I am sure many people must have read from my posts how I am a laid back person; more of an indoor person. It would be unfair for me to expect everyone to be like me just as I wouldn't expect others to make me be like them. Acceptance goes both ways I would say. We have to accept others the way they are while pointing to them where we feel they can improve which still has to be left to them to accept or not, and also we have to accept that not everyone can be like us.

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Most of the issues we have in the world today apart from the comparison is that we want people to do things the way we would have done them but the truth is they can't. Apart from certain conditions being responsible for reasons why some do things differently by the virtue of the pressure they face, they can't do things the way we would have.

I shared yesterday how I returned the money my former company mistakenly paid into my account. Yes, I mentioned that I value integrity above all and I understand if anyone would have kept the money without alerting the company. I imagine it would have been different for others especially someone who has a wife in the hospital and he is cash strapped. He has been running around and no one to come to his aid. Imagine that alert coming for him, he would brood over it and decide to go all-in at least to save his wife. A decision like this can be tricky I would say.

What works for me won't always work for others especially when we have different circumstances to deal with. Some like going out and their outward disposition had connected them to some high profile individuals and if I want to be like them then I would end up hurting myself in the end. I might improve on myself while trying to balance my indoor personality with the outwards and that's why we need balance in life even with our uniqueness.

While growing up I have seen so many people try to be like others and it ended up costing them a lot. While I was young, I saw how some children get home late and I would stay at the balcony and watch how they stroll back to the house without any sense of urgency. The day my brothers and I tried it, even with our late sister then, we blamed ourselves.

We went out to greet another friend down the street and they have this giant fruit that we call 'fruit'. We stayed all evening throwing stones at it and we got a lot that we are it there. We lost track of time and we got home I think around 7:30 pm. Dad was already home by then and there were no mobile phones back then so I can imagine how visibly worried he must have been because we were not home which was strange. We received a serious beating that day. A non-African person might call it "Assault" hahahaha but if you are African, we call it "Hard Reset". You can't remain the same again after it. 🤣🤣😂.

Be the best version of yourself but stop striving to be like others. Has it ever happened to anyone that the moment you decide to do what you are not used to, that's the moment you will be found but those who always indulge in it are still yet to be found out? 😂🤣. Just stick to being you and try to do better.

Thank you for your time.