@NOmanktk 17 September 2020 more from that month

It starts with you if you want something new

Look around. Look around. What are you seeing? I'm not talking literally but figuratively. What's missing out on your life now? What will make life full for you? Putting aside the new pandemic constraints, think about something you wanted that hasn't happened yet? There is a false belief that we will be happy when we get what we want. Experience has taught me that it rarely increases my yearning for something missing in my life. There must be a deeper desire, consistent with our core beliefs, to modify our conditions. If we want to change things, it has to start with us. Sometimes it may result from dissatisfaction with how things are, or something is realized  Lost. missing. If we are lonely, for instance, we may want to be in an romantic relationship to make up for our loneliness. But are we making the right choice, or are we seeking to fill a hole that another way can be accomplished? For example, by volunteering to a charity, where we find greater meaning and intent, we might take up a hobby or lend our support. Here, since it is not our primary objective, we can or may not draw a link. Our goal is to ease our isolation, and to be around like-minded people. Think, for instance, about trying to solve a problem that didn't work out as planned? Have you considered options, or have you been fixated on a single outcome? What I'm trying to say is this: if we want to change our lives, we have to keep an open mind and consider other possibilities. Lamenting how things are is a prescription for disappointment without taking action. This means taking life into our own hands and looking for answers. We will not know what is the best outcome until we try it out on the road. So, by means of a friendship, seeking to cure our isolation comes with its problems. Similarly, there are also issues giving our time by voluntary work, but the benefits are greater. Agree with the core principles of Unfortunately, life isn't as well-organized as we want it to be, although there are advantages that we may not understand. If we understand our acts, however, We can't win or lose, as future learning experiences. In which case, when a scenario does not turn out as planned, we adopt an positive viewpoint. Are you satisfied with this notion, that making mistakes is okay, as long as you learn valuable lessons and don't beat yourself up? Life can be an imperfect school, where every experience is a springboard to further development and growth. Since that puts pressure on us to succeed, we must not perceive our experiences as winning or losing. And performance, as you know, is the sub-product of repeated failures and loss. I can relate to this because I made so many mistakes in my 20s and 30s and felt I was cursed or condemned for failure. Although looking back, I can see how these events had to take place because I had developed the wisdom and understanding not to replicate them. So, whatever you miss out on in your life, consider three alternatives. Don't be quick at jumping to the first that comes to mind. Take the time to test drive it, as suggestions on paper or as friends and family consultation. You can not take any action, since doing nothing may often be a blessing in disguise. Before committing yourself to a specific direction, I would urge you to report your thoughts on paper.