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Newborn Moms Must Read This!

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3 weeks ago

I read @gertu's article about her pregnancy and birth story earlier and I could not help but comment how I could relate to her experiences and thus it prompted me to create this article. Being a mother, a first-timer is not easy especially that it was in the middle of the pandemic, I was living in our small condo unit the entire pregnancy with little to zero exercise and almost all day of eating. I ended up giving birth to a 4.5 kg baby boy.

But I won't talk about my birth experience instead, I will share some of the things that I would advise to those who are expecting to! Our first time to take care of a newborn sounds exciting but scary at the same time so this article is dedicated to the expecting first-time moms with the hope that you'd learn from my experience and apply it to your own as well.

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1. Expect sleepless nights and days.

The baby had been in the solace of our tummy for nine months, it's dark and comfortable of course so they have no single idea what's day and night. It is important to understand that the baby will be awake whatever time he or she wanted, don't worry, they'll soon realize that there's a time to sleep and a time to be active, it may not be that fast but they'll learn.

Also, when the baby wakes up, it is a good way of preventing Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. If you are not aware of that yet, do ask help from Mr. Google and we all hope our babies won't experience that.

2. Ask for support and help.

In the first few weeks, either you delivered the baby via normal or CS, you'd be tired and needs healing, the fact that there's a huge wound down there that needs recovery means you only have to worry about yourself and the baby. Ask for help, your husband is the number one that should be there for you, cooking for you, cleaning the house for you, washing the dishes, doing the laundry. If you are blessed to have family members who have volunteered to help, accept every single help possible. Don't think that you can do everything because it is impossible.

3. Growth spurt is just a phase.

When the baby learns a skill or is to reach a milestone and they become fussier, this means they are going through a growth spurt phase. This can happen during the first week but also many times during their first year and it can become exhausting. It takes a lot of patience and remembers that this is just a phase, it will pass.

4. Hiccups are normal.

There are several things that our elders would let you do so to get rid of this but this is not something that you should be scared of. I know, the baby looks pitiful with all that going on but the solution is to feed the baby or you can just wait until it goes away. It will surely go away after a while, don't be disturbed by it.

5. There's no specific time of bathing the newborn.

Yes, this is very surprising because we have been trained to bathe ourselves in the morning before we start our day and we have tendencies of applying the same to our babies but there's no specific time to do it. You can do it in the morning or afternoon, do it whatever suits your time as well.

6. The baby wants you to carry him or her.

Don't believe in the saying that those who would always carry the baby build a bad habit. Come to think of how long the baby had been used to being inside your womb and how it felt your every move. He or she wants the same after being out into the world. You are his home, carry the baby and let him or her feel your warm embrace.

7. Try your best to breastfeed.

Breastmilk is still best for babies. Look at your formula boxes and look for the big words that are printed. Breastmilk is what's best for your baby, it contains all the necessary nutrients that the baby needs, it has antibodies. And breastfeeding creates a bond between you and your baby. Get the proper education in breastfeeding, invest in it, and have a mindset that you must breastfeed your baby, it is what's best for him or her.

Note that I am not against bottle feeding but before resorting to that, try breastfeeding first.

8. Take a lot of pictures and videos.

The baby grows up way too fast, you just wake up and found your baby is now able to walk and talk. Savor each moment, make every milestone memorable, capture the first smiles, laugh, words, and make sure to keep them safe, upload them online, make photobooks from it, invest in hard drives or online drives, they'll be handy in the future. And watching the videos or scanning through the pictures will rekindle many memories, it will make you laugh or cry.

9. Connect with the right people, have a support system.

It is important to be in a circle of mom friends with whom you are comfortable sharing things about your motherhood experience. You may have a group of friends already who had become moms themselves that you can chat and call about what you are going through, talk to them and open up. You need a support system. When in doubt, you can also go online with some communities that are willing to answer questions and inquiries.

10. Motherhood is a learning process.

My baby is still 14 months old and I have been learning every day, I am also adjusting daily. Perhaps the one thing that I have learned throughout the 14 months of becoming a mother is that mothers' love is sacrificial. We give ourselves completely to our children, we think of them first, our bodies are not our own anymore, and we are okay with it because we love them.

As the days go by and even if our children become adults, we will continue to learn because everyone is a work in progress. We need that to be able to provide the love that every person needs.


In conclusion, do not compare yourself to other moms out there. Do not feel guilty when you are exhausted and want to give up, that's just a phase, and will surely overcome it. Cry if you want. Mental health is important, be happy and enjoy yourself, you are the best mother to your child.


xoxo,

mommy jean of momentswithmatti

Love harder than any pain you've ever felt.

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Motherhood is the best profession talaga of all. Sabi nila, pag breastfeed baby daw clingy. For me? Okay lang! Mabilis silang lalaki. At dadating ang time na pag malaki na sila, mamimiss natin yung pagiging clingy nila nung time na babies pa sila :).

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3 weeks ago

yes tama ka po mommy.. mabilis nga at nakakamiss ung hugs nila..

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3 weeks ago

Truth sis.. I cherish lang dapat ang moments

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3 weeks ago

Relate much jud ko ani sis. Pero I wish I had that support system sa time nga bag ong panganak ko sa akong 2nd baby. Dli unta ko Maka experience ug post partum depression.

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3 weeks ago

Well thanks for the tips. It definitely isn't easy being a mother so it's helpful to read abt these.

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3 weeks ago

yes sis..ready ka naba? hahaha

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3 weeks ago

Ah parang ayoko pa. Hahahaha.

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3 weeks ago

Akong gallery halos puro na gyud nawng sa akong baby sis. Tinuod jud sis. Kanang magtan.aw ko sa mga video sa akong baby sa kadtong mga panahon nga gamay pa siya kaayu, grabe dili jud nako masabtan akong gibati. Mura kog kahilakon magtan-aw.hihi

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3 weeks ago

kong gibati. Mura kog kahilakon magtan-aw.

huhu tinuod jd na sis.. bisan gani karon magtan aw kos first videos niya hala uy makahilak jd..samot ug makakita kos akong nawon nga stressed kaau katong time-ma..hahaha

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3 weeks ago

When we became a mom we became a wonderwoman.. and we also need moral support from time to time

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3 weeks ago

true sis.. we need a lot of support...

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3 weeks ago

Yung pictures talaga eh , isang "titang ina" ako kaya sabik akong kumuha ng pictures talaga sa mga pamangkin ko💗😂

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3 weeks ago

ikaw pala ay isang "tinang" hehe

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3 weeks ago

This is worthy to be noted. Thank you sis! Getting pregnant and becoming a mom is not easy and most say it is the most fulfilling event despite all the difficulty, struggle and body changes a mom has to undergo. Kudos to all moms in here and all around!

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3 weeks ago

ay it is the most fulfilling event despite all the difficulty, struggle and body changes a mom has to undergo. Kudos to all mom

true sis.. especially eh body changes ..haha kasi nakaka insecure talaga.most moms are not able to bounce back to their prepregnancy bodies.

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Most of my friends become rounder after giving birth and never bounced back, mahirap daw. And so as my 2 elder sisters. But I think it is okay, a great evidence that one has given life to another and that is what really matters :)

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3 weeks ago

Dun ako sa hiccups talaga nag panic sis hahaha lakas kasi ng kay Prince tapos ang tagal pa mawala

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3 weeks ago

hehe ako din tapos ung pag hiccup nya parang malalim ung nasa dibdib na part..hehe

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3 weeks ago

Indeed it is a learning process. Kids today think it's easy being a parent until they realize that it is not.

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3 weeks ago

you are right sir..naku ! mga bata akala guro nila madali lang...

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3 weeks ago

As time goes on the baby will still understand the basics of life. But now can still do what they like, they wake anytime they will.

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3 weeks ago

thanks for reading and commmenting!

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3 weeks ago

True that, sis Jean. Si Arianni nun halos oras oras may pic hehe

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3 weeks ago

diba nakakapuno ng phone memory heheh

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3 weeks ago

weekly transfer sa usb, sis hehe

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3 weeks ago

hehe kaya nga sis noh

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3 weeks ago

Marami din talagang need e consider pag Mommy kana ano, ang daming ganao aguy. Pero ayaw ko pa ring mag aanak haha.

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3 weeks ago

hala ka pag sinabing ayaw dadating daw yan madam.hehe

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3 weeks ago

Grabe sobrang na-underestimate ko mumsh yung sleep deprivation. Hindi ako naging handa haha. And very much agree to your number 3. It really takes a village to raise a child.

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3 weeks ago

true sis.. naku sinasabihan pa ako nuon na uy ienjoy mo ung tulog na yan while buntis..ahaha

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3 weeks ago

as if naman masarap din tulog ng buntis. puyat puyatan din diba lalo na sa last trimester hahaha

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3 weeks ago

Feeling ko sabay kami maggrowthspurt eh hahahahahaha

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3 weeks ago

hahaha

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