Young Love

Most people say that your first love or relationship teaches you a lot (that's if you learnt anything from it). That statement holds value to some point.

Young Love can be described as your first time of feeling a strong affection towards someone. Some call it love or lust but you can call it whatever you want. All teenagers have felt this kind of feeling before. The feeling you get when you see that girl, when she smiles especially at you. Her eyes, the look she gives you when she is angry. You feel head over heels for him or her.

The whole experience teaches us a lesson both in the easy way and the hard way. Some of us stupidly fall in love and do foolish things for the ones we love and most times we regret it when we look in retrospect. That is why I always say that we are foolishly in love at that point in time.

Even at that, our first love is probably our truest form of love. When we genuinely care and love the person, no ulterior motives at all.

All in all we learn lessons both good and bad from this experience but it is important that we all go through this. It is part of life and a form of passage of rite into the relationship world. To tell you the truth you will need the knowledge. To know the kind of person to trust, suspect, give your all too and who truly cares, respects and loves you.

The Experience

There was this girl that I had a crush on in secondary school. Her name is Jessica. She was very pretty, dark-skinned or was it ebony and was blessed in every aspect if you know what I mean. We became close friends in our final year even though we knew each other since kindergarten.

I had feelings for her for a long time but didn't have the courage to tell her. My friends said that I should stop being a coward and tell her. That the worst thing that could happen was that she would say no and I wouldn't die. Still I didn't do it.

I knew other guys in my class liked her and some of them were already making moves but she kept rebuffing them. I prayed every night for her to keep saying no but I didn't know for how long it was going to continue because she was already showing some of them greenlight. I knew that if I didn't shoot my shot now, it would be too late.

I told my friends about my plan to ask her out and they gave me some advice, some being useful and others being downright crazy. I took some of them in and threw majority of it out. They weren't going to put me in trouble in my young age.

I went to the local mall to go shopping for the gifts that I'll give her when I ask her out. I got her a diamond necklace, a box of chocolate, a pair of earrings and lip gloss. I asked my sister for things to buy and she suggested those not after forcing me to tell her who I was buying all this for. I told her on the condition that she wouldn't tell our parents.

It was on a Friday afternoon after school that I told her. I called her out after our last class away from her friends, took her to the back of the class and told her I wanted to tell her something important. She already saw the gift bag in my hand and was getting suspicious. She asked me smiling mischievously who that was for and I told her it was for her. She was surprised. I then confessed my feelings towards her and told her that I've been crushing on her for a long time. I toasted her until she was blushing from cheek to cheek and then asked her to be my girlfriend. That is when I received the shock of my life.

She told me that she was already seeing someone and that I was too late. I asked her when this happened and she told me that the guy asked her out just the day before. I then asked for who he was and she said it was my best friend Daniel. How could Daniel betray me like this? Just because I was delaying to ask her out he decided to go behind my back and date her. What a friend indeed.

My relationship with Jessica and Daniel broke down shortly after that incidence and I was happy when I heard that they broke up. That serves them right. "You don't treat your friends like that and get away with it" I thought.

I learnt a lot of lessons from this experience both good and bad. Also I think that's one of the reasons my future relationships haven't ended well. I haven't been able to trust any woman after that experience. Hopefully one day I will get over it and move on.

I would like to appreciate my sponsor for the support.

Another time, maybe another experience.