3AM:A Random Thought 🛎️

It's been a while read cash fam, emm back ❤️

LET'S TALK ABOUT FRIENDS.

Nakakalungkot lang isipin na minsan hindi vina-value ng iba yung mga kaibigan nilang madalas magbigay at mag-effort. They are just simply referring to their friend as 'reserved' pag needed na nila, pero pag hindi na you are just entitled as a 'friend'.

Recently, I just talked to one of our young people and asked me about it. I understand yung rants at hinanakit niya kasi kahit naman sino masasaktan kapag wala kang masabing 'kaibigan' sa oras na kailangan mo sila.

But on top of that, I let her define her own definition of "Friendship", and says:

"Uhm.. I defined friendship as my home, kung saan kapag dumating yung storm meron kang masisilungan, may aakap sayo when you feel fear. May mag pupush sayo na kaya mong gawin na hindi mo maisip na kaya mo. Tinuring ko na rin sila na parang kapatid ko na. In my case, I felt unfair lang kasi they'll never ask me what's going on. Ang mahirap po kasi na nasanay sila na ako palagi ang sumasalo sakanila na nakalimutan ata nila na tao rin ako, kailangan ko rin ng masasandalan."

That's a sad reality. Pero bakit nga ba kailangang malaman ang definition mo ng friendship? Simply because, "Your expectations depends on how you define your friendship."

Like, if you expect them na dapat lagi silang nanjan para sayo, then you define friendship as "my comfort zone" kasi di mo kayang wala sila, kailangan lagi silang nanjan for you kasi kung hindi you will not feel comfortable.

So, It is really important to know what "Friendship" really means to you and your friends. Kasi baka mamaya magkaiba kayo ng definition, so magkaiba rin ang magiging expectations niyo sa isa't-isa which is dahilan kung bakit maraming friendship ang hindi nagtatagal.

Kaya nga dapat tandaan na: Sa lahat ng relationships, mapa-family, friends or romantic man, dapat lahat clear both sides. Di pwedeng 'feel ko lang'. Always consider clearing things up para whatever happens, you have the same heart or kung hindi man mag-work, atleast maaga pa lang alam mo na at maiiwasan ang future damages.

And of course, You should learn to balance relationships. Kasi kung ang ending ay ikaw ang dehado, meaning di ka naging balanse. You give more but less to yourself. Kasi you cannot value relationships, until you value yourself FIRST.😌

Kaya nga ang hirap noh? Kasi we should not judge people/friends. Ang laging unang ieeevaluate dapat natin is yung sarili natin. Kasi, we can judge ourselves but not them. Sabi nga, we cannot change the situation but we can change our heart. So always start withing yourself.

"REALIZATION, THEN TAKE AN ACTION."

Kaya sa lahat ng nakaka-experience ng ganito, maging matapang kang harapin at tanungin ang mga kaibigan mo. Walang masama don. Kung masakit man ang malaman mo, then take it as positive pa rin. Kasi God removes unhealthy people around us and replace it with the best of bests!💛

As Proverbs 17:17 says,

A friend loves at all times,

and a brother is born for adversity."🌿

Been blessed by few, knowing they really loved me for who I am❤️

Palaging ngumiti! Nakakaganda 'yon :'>