The more chances you give, the more they can Abuse you

Good evening dreamers! How's life recently? I hope that despite of chaos and emotional breakdowns, you can still cope up in life. Don't let those struggles be the reason why you give up but instead used it as your push pin to do better. Life is not easy so don't be too harsh on yourself. Take some rest if you really need to.

Is there an exact number of chances that we should give to someone? Second chance? Third? Or as much as we can still forgive those person? Actually it became a debate before if everyone deserves a second chance. Some say that we should give a second chance to everyone because it's natural for us to commit mistakes sometimes. On the other hand, some proves that not everyone deserves a second chance especially if the mistake he commit is really unforgivable. I believe that it would be a unending discussion if we are talking about it since everyone could have a personal perspective regarding this matter.

Personally, I believe that it depends on the situation. I'm the kind of person that would give a second chance instantly but not everytime. There's also point in my life that I didn't give second chance to someone because I feel like it is something too much to asked for. I forgive her but it doesn't mean that I will allow her to be part of my life again. Actually, it cause me emotional trauma to the point that I lost my confidence in everything. So, it seems that I forgive her because I don't want to carry all the burden she gives to me and I also want her to move on from that mistakes. But our relationship? I think it's better if we don't have a second chance on it.

Do you believe that the more you chances you have, the less they value you? So for this one, I also believe that we have different opinions. I survey some of my folks here in the house and they end up debating to each other haha. Sometimes if we give so much chances to someone, he will think that we can't let go of him and worst, he might abuse that chances. I remember a line on a movie na " Kapag mahal mo, patatawarin mo". You prefer to be in pain rather than you'll be the one who cause pain to someone. Sometimes because of love, you tend to give chances as much as you can until you realize that someone did the same mistake over and over again. You've done so much but it's still not enough. There's also a point that you will realize that it seems that he didn't value at all since he didn't change at all. He is just complacent that you will give him another chance again. You are ready to be martyr just to be assure that he will never leave you so you give endless chances to him. But is it really the right thing to do?

Giving chances should also have a limit. Sometimes, you need to make them realize that you can ignore of them. That not everyone, we can tolerate them mistakes. If they can't give value or respect to you, maybe it's the right time to let go. Someone said to me before that " You should not invest too much love to someone who can't give the love and value that you deserve. Because at the end, you slowly hurting yourself". It's not a sin to give love to someone but probably it would be a problem if you losing yourself because of that love. In any kind of relationship, it should not only about the chances you give but also it is about how the person make a move to correct mistakes he have done. Don't wait for the time that you also lost respect to yourself because of giving chances to others. Your kindness and understanding should have a limitations too. Hey, know your worth. Learn to walk away if you know that someone can't appreciate you anymore.

That's for tonight's article. Thank you dreamers for keep motivating me. Have a great sleep to us!