Imposter syndrome, is it Real?

Hello there dreamers, how are you today? I hope that everyone is doing good and able to enjoy their Saturday. Time so flies, we are two step closer to the new month. I can also feel the Summer feels now because it is so hot here. But so sad because it seems that our planned vacation will become drawing again haha. Virtual outing I guess lol.

Earlier, me and my friend had a casual conversation in Messenger. She is a psychologist student and she is also one of the Junior speaker on the event that I shared to you last day. She accepted that " Mental and Emotional Welfare seminar" and I refuse even I wanted too because of the conflict on my schedule. Also because they want to the speakers to give some advices personally and I can't travel to the province now. But I believe that there's still a next time especially that they always do it every 4 months hihi. Back to that friend of mine, she consult to me about her topic to be discussed. It's about " Imposter Syndrome". I honest don't know about this syndrome, I even asked her " Is it real?" Then she send her manuscript about it. Of course, I searched about it so I can give my opinion about that. I need to give a realistic opinion to her so I need to understand that well.

" Are you always doubting yourself ?"

" Did you blame yourself even in a smallest failures and mistakes you did?"

" Do you much believe on luck than your abilities?"

" Do you afraid to be judge?"

Do you feel like you are not enough at all?

Based on what I've searched , Imposter syndrome is a condition where you always doubting yourself especially your abilities and you feel that yourself is not enough to achieve your goals in life. Mostly, women is the one who experiencing this one. You know the feeling when you achieve something but you can't still able to celebrate because you are not happy at all. It seems that there's something holding you back. Sometimes you can't avoid but to compare yourself to others.

The image above is some of the symptoms that you have already experiencing imposter syndrome. But I guess, I can choose some of this to discuss tonight. Note that I'm not an expert about it and it's only based on my understanding and somehow of my experiences. At some point ,I guess I've been experiencing this kind of feeling before but I'm actually not aware that it is a syndrome.

1.Undervaluing your skills and abilities

Some people tend to not appreciate the skills that they have. They think that it is not enough so it leads doubting ourselves. Sometimes we even ask ourselves , " Why am I only like this? " You feel your weaknesses to the point that you can't even recognize your strength. It's funny that some people already compliment our abilities but here we are, we still serve it as a joke and we endlessly doubting ourselves. Instead of undervaluing, try other way to enhance or improve your skills and abilities because it can be your weapon in life especially in working place. And never ever compare yourself to other because you and them is different.

2.Setting very challenging goals and feeling disappointed when you fall short

Setting goal is a good attitude for me but take it easy. Maybe at some point, it also becomes our motivation to double our effort to achieve those goals but we should not forget to be realistic. Start to small ones and then gradually achieve those bigger ones. Also remember that achieving goal is not an instant, it's a process actually. There's no shortcut to success. You might fell down , you might be disappointed but as long as you stand again, you can achieve that one. But don't be so hard to yourself too. It's not a bad thing to work hard but don't push yourself to the limit okay? Still, prioritize your well -being.

3.Feeling unworthy of success

For you, what's the real meaning of success? How can you say that you are already a successful one? As for me, success doesn't only mean achieving your own desire and goals in life but rather success is also the point where you can able to give back to others. Also I believe that success is the moment you feel a peace of mind and you are genuinely happy and contented with your life. I observe that some people, even they are already achieve their dream profession or other desire, they still feel unworthy. It seems that there's still a gap in order to celebrate that success. I think that the best thing that we can do is to recognize ourselves even in a small achievement. Hey, even it is a small one, it is worth to celebrate. Clap for yourself for doing such thing.

4.Hiding failures so people can't recognize them

I believe that most of us are afraid to be judge by others because of our past,mistakes and failures. Because they can used it against us , they will used that as our weakness. So people tend to unrevealed their failures. We are afraid so we just keep it within us to the point that sometimes it leads to anxiety and you want to explode. But you know what, sometimes you should also shared your failures to other because it can be an inspiration to them. After all, everyone is a victim of failures and mistakes. So let it out and let them realize that it's actually your strength because you are able to overcome that.

5.If it isn't perfection,you don't want it

You don't need to be perfect but you just need to be true to yourself. Even on those imperfections, you should still choose to be grateful on life. I guess there's also a good thing to be a perfectionist sometimes but what is important is " The more you are satisfied and happy enough to yourself, the more opportunities comes to you". Instead of trying to be perfect, why not try to be better at least?

At this point, I want you to say this words to yourself

Maybe I'm too far from my goals but now I embrace the skills and abilities that I have,

No to self-doubt because this time, I will give a self-worth,

I'm not perfect but I'm willing to be better,

I commit mistakes but I learn from it,

I don't need someone's approval to be happy because I can give it to myself,

It wasn't luck at all because it is because of me, my capabilities and talent,

There's no room for feeling guilty because this is me, this is the Real me and I embrace at all cost.

I hope that I share to you some good realizations about your life. Life is too short to be always doubting ourselves, so live with a meaning reason and purpose. I also share this to my friend and she said that she will add this one to her speech ahha. But I can't deny that I also learn something new because of her. Knowing those symptoms is a big step for us to heal ourselves from within. Yeah, Imposter syndrome is real but don't worry because you can overcome this one. You only need to believe and love yourself despite on your flaws and imperfections in life. 💚💚

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