Don't Shock Your Children!

The article raised some good discussion! I did not read the comments but I tipped them because having discussions is good! Thanks for your article @Luna1999

Each person's character is indeed different in existence from a family background that has been passed down from generation to generation for everyone. the main question in this topic is whether the character of an old person or person can be changed? maybe this is heavy, the impact is very fatal when they educate their children in their own way. this may be a problem in every family that can cause the child's behavior to deviate in a negative direction. parental education is very necessary but the character of each parent is different and this may be a problem for some families in this world. The thing that must be done is to give special advice to every parent in every activity, both within the organization in the community with the topic of how to educate children properly. this is a very important topic of discussion, friends and very good appreciation, I hope every parent who can read this and everyone can continue in every moment in online and offline media. very good topic friend and very useful even though I am also not married but have enthusiasm in this matter. 👍👌

Well, I do understand where your are coming from as I was once a child and was subjected to this too. However, as time passes by I would like to present something else being a parent myself. Though my situation will have a different level of bearing considering I am a single mom of two. True, we need to "give and extend our patience" as our children is growing. Giving them ample support, morally, financially and et al. However, you see as we are trying to provide everything the child's needs there are also limitations on what we can do. Say, I as parent, I am subjected to a lot of stress everyday, granting of course this was my choice however like I said, no matter how much I intent to give patience... there is just so much we can give. You see there are a lot of factors why patience is often "for children" see it almost non-existence. You see, human as we are, -though its not an excuse, we are... there are actually a lot on my head. I am alone so I have to ensure everything is running normally or at least balance. I have to provide everything from provision to safety. Oh no! this is a long discussion but let me point at one. You see, being a parent is not a one-sided affair, while we are thinking of providing for our children "money-wise", this alone is so much to bare. Please remember, working is not as easy as it goes -i trust that some and many are working even if single understands that our bosses may be difficult at most times only a few are lucky they won't be stresed out with boss they. This alone is already eating us alive, then we have to stretch our budget - we all know that living in this part of the world, income is always short. Good if we can augment it but what if we cant? Then everything escalate, having a partner, too can be stressful, i believe anyone who had been in a relationship will understand its contribution as a whole. Back to finances, if short, debts - piles up just about everytime income is insufficient.

It really will become a very long discussion, though bottomline, I'm glad my time with my boys are mostly all good. We have moments of ups and downs but you see, children need to grow up and find ways to overcome all these. Coping mechanism is somehow very important in coping. By and by, self-confidence, i really dont know where its found but i believe in contentment and "never" compare yourself to another person because all of us has our own gifts and talents, we have to ensure to make the best out of it. Comparing will never do you any good. Though I was able to overcome all these while my mom was a perfectionist and most of the things written actually cannot relate but seeing how my siblings are having a hard time even to this point, perhaps they share the same story too. All I can say is that, its a profound topic and everyone has a different reaction to this. One thing for sure, it matters on our outlook in life and how we see things.

Perhaps accepting our parents faults is part of growing up and stop blaming them for being so this and that. It is also part of our responsibility to ourselves you see. If you still find it in your heart to blame, its understandable but still "children needs to grow up". Perhaps, at some point you really have to level your understanding with parents to understand where they are coming from too, that way you show them you are capable of thinking maturely too and trust is built from that point on.

Ahh...can't agree more. People think that they own their children. But the truth is they are separate being from us, they have their rights too. I hope your writing will aware some.

I totally agree that children need our support and patience. Patient approach is very important for their development and expressing their feelings in right way. If we are nervous we should calm ourselves first and then try to calm child with understanding.