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Tolerating is a Bad Habit

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I was watching videos on Tiktok until I came up with a video of a cute little girl who was so angry to her mother. She talked like an old woman, who have an explanation about everything. Then where I remember my cousin.

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I have this cousin who is naughty, from the moment he was just a toddler, until now that he is already nine years old. Let's just call him Dem.

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It started when he was only two years old. He became their neighbors' alarm clock, not because of his cry, but because of the bad words he uttered when he awoke. They live in a neighborhood where every house is right next to the next. Children are excellent imitators, and he copied it from their neighbors. Unfortunately, his parents tolerate it; sometimes they will simply say, "no baby, that's bad," and then nothing else.

Years had passed and it become worst. Although we are far from their house but the news about him always reach in our family.

Most of the time, he punches their neighbors who are the same age as him, and he has become a bully to the point where even his parents are afraid of him. He is too young, but he has control over his parents.

I once encountered how spoiled he is when I visited them. Her sister enjoys doing make-up, so my cousin and I are the models that time. Everything is fine until Dem stands above the table, faces us, and pees.

Kelly(not her real name), who is only three years older than him, has a cat that she has always cared for, until it was lost one day. They were all worried about where the cat was. The next day, when my grandmother went to get some clothes from their cabinet she saw the cat inside; so weak and was rushing it's breath. They already have a gut feeling that Dem is the cause, so they ask him, and he says "yes."

The following month was the worst, because he found the cat again and brought it to their house. When his parents returned home, they discovered that there was a lot of blood inside. Dem was asked what happened, but he remained silent. Until Kelly told them that her cat had a lot of wounds and that there's big possibility that it was my spoiled cousin who did it. They asked him again the other day, and he said "yes."

That's the only good thing about him, he is honest that he do all those bad things.

Last year, when he went to my grandma's house; they are just neighbors. My grandmother has just finished washing the blanket and does not want Dem to step into it because his feet are filthy from playing. Instead of listening, he stepped into the blanket and continued to jump. My grandmother became angry and grabbed a softbroom to spank him, but he shielded himself with the thick blanket. My grandma still spank him, but we are sure what she did is not painful, as my grandma didn't use to do it. But Dem stand up and run. From that day, he never talk to my grandma, until the Christmas day celebration. Since Christmas is all about love, we told him to say sorry to grandma but he only said "no!".

My grandma loves plant, but when she's not around Dem always cut the leaves of the flower. When he was caught, he will just run so quick that my grandma can't reach him.

I already told my parents, that it is not all about being spoiled, but it's already a disorder. Everytime he made a mistake, his parents will only say "No Dem, that's bad", but when they are in a bad mood, they will hit Dem too much, thinking about the mistakes he did weeks ago.

We cannot scold Dem because his parents will defend him. One thing for sure that their life will become worst if Dem will not change.

Dem didn't do anything bad in me, except for that one time when he peed in front of us when we were younger. There are times when they come to our house and he is perfectly behaved, which leads me to believe that the problem is with his parents and surroundings.

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If care is not taken Dem would become worst than that and bully alot of people

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1 week ago

Parang itong mga alaga ko sissy, pero tinuturuan namin mgsorry, kung makasigaw sila sa parents nila akala mo malalaking tao na, ayaw kasinv pagsabihan ng mga magulang. Minsan kapag pinagsasabihan namin sabi lang ng mama nia hayaan na lang daw kaya sinasabi namin na kapag ang kahoy lumako na nakabaluktot,mahirap na ituwid kapag matagal na

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1 month ago

Parang parent ka na talaga niya Sis no, pati sa pag desiplina ikaw na ang gumagawa

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1 month ago

Siya lang ngluwal sissy ako na lahat kahit may sakit ako parin

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1 month ago

This kid should be discipline when it's young and tell them what is wrong to right Coz there will be a possibility that they will brought this kind of behaviour as they grow up.

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1 month ago

True Sis, I told my parents that it's a kind of scary when he grow old, he might hurt his parents.

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1 month ago

Dem is a really spoilt lad and his parents arenโ€™t helping. It might become worse when he grows older

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1 month ago

Yeah, and a big problem to all of us.

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1 month ago

Parents and environmental factors have a strong influence on children personalities. Dem could have easily been stopped of that bad habit had the parents enforced strict measures on him. We all have bad sides and if right from childhood we feed those bad sides it can be very diffieto rid of it in later life. I wrote an article titled "can he be helped" that discusses effects of childhood behaviours on later life, you can check it out on my profile. Dem parents should do better.

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1 month ago

Yes Doc, but instead of doing the right thing they tolerate it. And thanks for sharing, I will read it:)

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1 month ago

When the consequences come knocking they might be the first people to open the door. thanks for reading.;)

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1 month ago

The parents is the problem must be discipline good our children when they young ,bit him if we need, I think so if he grow will give big problem for thier parents

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1 month ago

True Sis, pinapalo nga nila yung tudoยฒ pero after weeks pa pag bad mood sila.

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1 month ago

Mali eh di din naman kailangan na paluin ng tudo Tudo yong display na Tama ,

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1 month ago

Naging ganyan yung ugali ni Dem dahil sa mga taong nakapaligid sa kanya. Kung noon pa lang siya dinidisiplina nung nakikitain siya ng mga maling gawa, hindi na sana lumala yung ugali niya.

Ang kabataan ngayon iba na kaysa noon, kung puro lang salita, labas tainga lang nila yan. Kaya kailangan din disiplinahin paminsan-minsan para di lumaking suwail. Pag nagpatuloy yan, laging sakit sa ulo ang dala niyan sa pamilya niya.

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1 month ago

Oo nga Sis, kaya di ako mahilig sa mga bata, bukod sa walang bata sa amin;di ako sanay, mostly sa kanila spoiled, then pagpagalitan mo, lumalaban ang parents.

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1 month ago

Yun Ang problema sis eh, Mali na nga Ang bata, kinakampihan pa ng mga magulang.

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1 month ago

Parents should teach him a good morals and behaviors. It will be complicated if they will tolerate with his attitude. His parents should discipline to him and it's for his own sake..

I hope Dem will listen and change his attitude. Parents should be the first do the actions for disciplining their children. If not it will be worsen.

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1 month ago

True Sis, I hope his parents will listen to advices. Baka magsisi pa sila sa huli

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1 month ago

Yes sis... Dapat turuan talaga habang maaga pa baka balang araw maging worst.

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1 month ago

Dem is just like my little brother. Whenever I disciplined him, mom would always get angry and side my little brother though he's at fault. That's why my little bro became fond of doing bad habits because he knows that my mom would always side him.

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1 month ago

They love their kids so much, to the point that they are spoiling them

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1 month ago

Ay naku maling mali talaga ang magtolerate sa mga maling gawa ng mga bata sis.. gaya lng yan sa article kong what you allow will continue.. kaya may mga batang lumalaki na wlang desiplina kc pinapabayaan ng magulang..

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1 month ago

Oo nga Sis, nakakalungkot kasi maraming parents ang ganito. Kahit sa mismong kapitbahay namin meron

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1 month ago

Dapat po talaga sis habang bata pa ay tinuturuan na ng tamang asal...Kapag mali ang bata dapat dinidisiplina na ito ng tama para huwag lumaki na ang pangit ng attitude....Yong mga magulang din niyan ang mahihirapan pagdating ng araw..

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1 month ago

Matapang kasi ang parents Sis, kaya di din mapagsabihan

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1 month ago

It seems like it was her parents that spoilt her to the level of not listening to anyone again meanwhile there is still time to change her before she get older than that

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1 month ago

I'm hoping for that time too Sis, you're right.

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1 month ago

Yeah

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1 month ago

Hala same din yan sa kapatid ng bf ko. Tinotolerate masyado ng parents kaya masama ugali kahit 3 years old pa lang. Spoiled masyado at palaging kinkampihan ng magulang kahit sya yung mali. Good luck nalang pag laki

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1 month ago

Oo nga Sis, naalala ko din kapatid ng bf mo sa kanya. Yung ikaw nalang talaga ang mag aadjust

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1 month ago

It is good the he is honest about it, he can still change with time. Just that he needed to be monitored

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1 month ago

We're hoping for it. We may not know he will change :)

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1 month ago

Some one must monitor him

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1 month ago

True. Huwag dapat etolerate ang mga bata dahil lumalaki ang ulo. Magiging kawawa ang mga magulang pagdating ng panahon at huwag din sana espospoil dahil baka isang araw mawla ang pera hindi sanay ang bata at may magawang mali dahil sa nakasanayan.

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1 month ago

Oo na Sis, kinatatakot lang namin baka lumaking barumbado

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1 month ago

What a naughty boy he is tsk tsk.. Soon the parents will get in trouble, maybe not now but soon. Nong wla pa c bb kulot at kala ko isa lng anak ko pero di tlga naspoiled eldest ko ng gnyan. Dilatan ko lng ay titigil na kundi mapapalo tlga.

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1 month ago

Sissy di na siya makuha sa tingin e. Kaya sabi ko sa parents ko baka magkaproblema pag-iisip niya

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1 month ago

Nasa bata din yan sissy pero dumaan ako pgkbta pero di ako gnyan pti eldest ko.. Parents din nya mgsusuffer

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1 month ago

Dem should be discipline, Pag hindi yan maagapan nako problema talaga yan. May pinsan din ako na ganyan, ganyang ganyan talaga, pero pag pupunta sa bahay pinapagalitan ko pag masama ang ginagawa.

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1 month ago

Mabuti at pwede mo mapagalitan, ito sya hindi, kasi lumalaban yung Mama nya

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1 month ago

100% agree with you, there is a saying in our local language that I'm gonna say in English "If you can't bend them while they are still plants, then you cannot bend them when they become a tree" using it a metaphor for kids too, discipline young, otherwise, later the society and police will have to disclipline them

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1 month ago

Love this line, I have read something like this too. Looks simple but the meaning says it all.

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1 month ago

I don't think tolerating is a bad habit, the parent didn't give him the good morals at the right time. It is the habit in him that is bad. A child should be monitored of his behaviors when it is first noticed and giving the right discipline would help the child adjust to life in a good way. Parents need to always keep watch of their children's habit and help them change the bad ones to the good ones. It starts when the child is still very young.

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1 month ago

They love my cousin Sis, to the point that they tolerate him doing bad things. They have different style of punishing him, why my cousin came up with this.

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1 month ago

Dapat maagapan na yan si Dem..kasi kapag pinabayaan yan na ganyan yong attitude baka mas lumala pa yan lalo paglaki at mas mahirapan sila..

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1 month ago

Ngayon palang nga Sis nahihirapan na kami, sana nga gumawa na nang way yung parents niya.

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1 month ago

May panahon pa sis para magbago si Dem sana maagapan niyo kasi mahirap na kapag tumagal at ganyan parin siya mas lalong lala lalo na kung malaki na mas mahirap ng disiplinahin... Kaya lumaking ganyan yung bata dahil siguro sa mga nkakasalamuha niya yung environment na adopt ng bata..sana maayos at sna pag lumaki na siya ay maisip niya na mali ang kanyang gingwa.

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1 month ago

True Sis, di rin kasi namin alam kung ano ng takbo sa pag-iisip niya. Lalong lumalala kasi e

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1 month ago

Ganun b sis dapat may gumagabay sa kanya sis nkakaawa naman kung hindi maagapan..

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1 month ago

Yes dear. Absolutely right. I am against it. It only increases the odd things. We should raise the voice. Tolerating every single situation is not good.

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1 month ago

Hopefully his parents will understand this:)

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1 month ago

Ouch! That was a nasty behaviour from the little young cutie to have stood on the table to pee on it hmmmn. Anyway, such is life. Sometimes in our lives, we do come across some certain persons that might remind us of either our beloved ones we know or our friends that we all know and the funniest aspects of it is that these ones may well be sharing the same behaviour with them

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1 month ago

Yeah, actually having fun is good. Maybe for my cousin, he is just having fun, but too much is not good.

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1 month ago