Earlier I was reading some article, until I got a notification from @Marinov 's new post, if you want to read it, then you can see it here

It was all about how parents must raise their children, and the realities of how some parents tolerate their child. I am not yet in the parenting stage, but I agree with what she said. I can relate to it, but not personally because God is so good to provide us with parents who discipline us as well, but I can relate it to my bestfriend's experience.

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My best friend has a boyfriend who is very nice to her. Their relationship, however, became toxic over time. She visit me, and even came in smiling from behind, but as soon as she walked through our door, she burst into tears.

She is always talking about her relationship status and how her boyfriend has cheated on her numerous times. Another thing that broke my heart was how her boyfriend's mother treated her. She was mistreated, and only show kindness to her when she have something to give, like money. Her boyfriend's mother even spread rumors about her, claiming that my bestfriend was cheating on her son, which is untrue. She tolerates his son and always defends him without knowing the truth.

I always tell my bestfriend "break up with him!"

If before, I could always see something to defend their relationship and advise her to keep going because it is a part of a relationship, but now I can't. Her boyfriend's family has deteriorated, so there is no reason for her to cling to it just because they have come so far. She must prioritize her freedom and self-care. And she did it; she ended her relationship with the boy and felt free.

But life was full of trials, she found out that she was pregnant by her ex. It causes him to experience depression, but she was strong, and God is so good for her to be able to overcome it. Now that she has given birth, the boy keeps running after her through chat. Imagine their house is not that far from my bestfriend but he don't have the respect and guts to face them. But it's too late; my bestfriend refused his proposal because she doesn't have feelings for him. She doesn't see her ex as a father figure, and she risks having a bad life if she lives with the boy's family, especially with the mother.

My best friend expected to live a peaceful life, but the boy keeps spreading rumors about her. He keeps posting status claiming that my best friend is hiding the baby when, in fact, they are not. It's the boy who went far to escape his responsibilities.

While her ex boyfriend was ruining her life on social media. The back-up, who is the boy's mother, was also spreading rumors among their neighbors. She even stated that my bestfriend's family behaves as if they are wealthy despite the fact that they are not. And my best friend admits that they are not wealthy, but it never pushed to them to beg for money. They are not wealthy in terms of money, but they are wealthy in terms of love and discipline. And that is what they intend to demonstrate to her child.

As of now, my best friend was fine and contented taking care of his 6-month-old baby with the help of her family. The boy was still not providing financial or moral assistance. They had the right to complain and question him about it, but they didn't. Her family dislikes conflict and prefers a peaceful life. And I do support her morally, as I said to her "it is better to raise your child with your family, than to be in a wrong company. It was still not a broken family, because they don't make you feel like family from the start."

In this experience, parents have a significant influence on how their child grows.

In the side of my bestfriend's ex-boyfriend. He has a mother who allows him to do bad things. But how can she teach good things to his son if she doesn't know how to handle herself too?

While in my bestfriend's side, I can feel the goodness in them. I see it in how her parents treat me when I visit them, or simply when we pass each other on the street. They treat me as their daughter, and I feel their respect, even though it's my obligation because they're like parents to me.

Lastly, all I can say was, A good tree will always bear a good Fruit.

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Author's love message :

Hello lovely readers!

How was your day?

I couldn't think clearly for some reason and couldn't even finish one article. I have a lot of ideas in my head, but once I started and finished one paragraph, I couldn't move on to the next. I feel bad, but still I try to make one and by God's will I was able to finished this one.

Life must go on, and we must face each day with optimism, and that's the best I can do for myself.

Hope everyone was doing well too.

GOD Bless!

Sending hugs.

September 11, 2021

-Ling