"How long a Courting Stage should be?"
Courtship is a period where a couple develops a romantic relationship with a view of marriage or to be in a relationship. Usually both couples are going out for a date for the purpose of " getting to know each other".
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I decided to write about this topic when I read @Kushyzee article earlier entitled " Why do women always do this?" It somehow mentioned courtship which made me ask myself. How long should a man court before a woman would say YES?
As we all know, courtship has eventually evolved from generation to generation. Way back before during the time of our Grandparents courtship takes a long period and it usually happened at home. A man would visit the woman he likes into their home, talk to her parents and even ask permission from them. A parent's decision, opinion or decision was indeed important . I can still remember what I usually see in movies before men even rendered services into a woman's family. Maybe to have their approval too.
There are even times that it was the parents whom the guy is courting with and upon getting their approval the woman doesn't have a choice but to say yes. It happened to my half-sister. It was her Mother and Grandma who decided for her.
Fast forward when I was a teenager, courtship was through love letters. With those colorful and scented stationery. Keypad cell phones were already in trend back those days but they were pricey. I was studying in a public school so most of us couldn't afford it.
It evolved into texting when I was in college. No more courtship at home. I bet some parents are even clueless that their daughters/sons are already in a relationship.
See? The courtship became easier as the years passed by. What more today when the presence of social media? With chat and video calls it was easier to set a date.
Yet the question is how long should a Courting Stage be?
I was curious so I asked my bestfriend GOOGLE, lol! It says it should take a minimum of six months. Yet it also says that it varies on the ages of partners. If they are 22 to 24 it should not be longer because they are already married. It also added that they might get distracted .
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Do you agree?
OMG google! Seems you are telling me that I am already too old when I got married because I was older than 24 when I said " I DO".
Aside from both couples' ages I believe that " Nationality" has something also a factor in courtship. I know there are some countries that are already liberated and they have another way of " DATING" or Courtship. Far different from us here in the Philippines.
What else? Maybe the beliefs and tradition where both couples were raised? I mean if I am from the countryside and you are a city boy for sure I would have some doubts and trust issues. Also we have different points of views so we believe in long courtship.
Most of the time our oldies are telling us not to trust a city boy as they are usually cheaters. I don't actually know where the idea came from. ( I know this is not true as there are also a lot of cheaters in the countryside, lol).
Aside from that many people believe that a long courtship period is a must for both partners to know each other well first before being in a relationship. Then you should have at least years as a BF and GF before getting married.
What was my opinion?
I don't believe in a long period of courtship. Why? Simple because it is COURTSHIP! Have you seen anyone who shows his/her bad side during that period? Maybe some but I am telling you most of them don't.
Some only ended up still being cheated by their partner whom they don't know better. Maybe not cheated but discovered some attitude that causes the break ups. Most of the time we will only know our partner after living together on one roof.
So I would end this up unanswered, haha I just realized I myself didn't know how long a courtship period should be.
Ehh,, for me a month is okay, how about for you?
05:17 PM
05/15/2022_Manila_Philippines
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Dpende din kase yan sa transparency ng ugali madam. Although sa unang meet niyo, may initial impressions na kayo with each other. Mas maganda din na friendship muna ang foundation ng relationship para mas makilala niyo ang isat't isa.