Are you willing to give a second Chance?
Seeing the quotes above, yes I was referring to LOVE and second chances. I was on lunch break together with my officemates the other day and they were actually talking about marriage life. One of my female colleagues was actually talking about something rated -SPG or that with mature content. She was even discussing how to be a PRO in satisfying your partner and the proper way of doing it. Lea ( one of my colleagues) even told me " Lhes , you should try this and that and this is the proper way" with detailed demonstration. And yes, while I am eating my lunch. Gosh, she is really polluting my mind. Then they kept on teasing me since I am the youngest in the group and lack of experience as they say . She even suggested that pineapple juice and snowbear candy which was trending on Facebook.
Sometimes I could not believe that these ladies are naughty as they had that strict aura when it comes to work.
So I just smiled and gave some side comments but at the back of my mind I was thinking maybe I gonna try it when Hubby got home. Oh, akala niyo huh? hehehe.
Then the topic was diverted into cheating as one of them saw a random post on Facebook about it. So this is the question.
If you caught your partner cheating, are you willing to give a second chance?
If I were to ask, my answer is it depends on the level of cheating. Few years ago, my husband and I just started our relationship. Like we've been together for only a week. Our officemates didn't know about it as it was against our company code of conduct. One must go. Then we had an outing one summer time and it was agreed to have a night swimming. Everyone was enjoying themselves and I already felt cold so I decided to get up from the pool and have a bottle of beer. Then I was surprised when Cristina got my attention and told me to take a look at the pool. She actually knows that my husband and I were already in a relationship. To my surprise Rhea, one of our workmates was hugging John (my boyfriend) on his neck. They really look intimate! I was so mad, yes she didn't know that we were together but she knows that John is courting me. Speaking of John, he didn't even make a move. Looks like he was enjoying it too!
So I got mad and didn't talk to John till we went home. We are staying in a staff house but male have a separate house. The next day, Rhea went to me, she was actually the niece of our branch manager. She told me not to get mad at John as she had no romantic feelings for him. That there was no malice in her actions. Me being a b!tch told her " Oh common Rhea, don't me. I am a woman too. You should have some decency. Don't talk to me now as I am mad. Besides you're such a flirt"
Am I too much? I am just telling the truth. I actually saw her that night trying to sit on our colleague , Mark's lap. Thinking that Mark is already married.
All of my housemates who are also my officemate, were shocked as I was straightforward. So Rhea walked out crying.
For me it could already be considered cheating. Imagine flirting with someone in your girlfriend's presence. I actually want to smack John's head. He reasoned out that he was just trying to be a gentleman. As Rhea hugged on his neck because the pool was too deep for her. What the heck! What a lame excuse, I could even see her boobs pressing against John's chest. She was actually seducing him.
At the end, I chose to forgive him and gave him a chance. A chance to prove his love and how sincere he is.
So what was the level of cheating I could not forgive?
Well it is when my husband got a mistress or even just casual s3x . OR worse if he got someone pregnant during our marriage. I am a possessive type, what mine is mine and I don't like the idea of sharing when it comes to my lover. There's no way I would let anyone taste what's mine. So in any case (knock on wood) it would happen, I am 90% sure our marriage will be broken. I am too good at history, I might forgive but I won't forget. There is a tendency that it would pop up in my mind out of the blue and then I will be mad again. We will only end up having an argument. Besides I don't think so I could still be intimate to my partner as while doing that I will remember, hey! They did that too. See, our relationship will be toxic. So better to end the marriage and let's part our ways.
What I shared is only my point of view and others might not agree. Some may believe in second chances as what the quotes above says. Some say time heals all the wounds. So who knows, you might not forgive your partner now but maybe someday. Then, you two could have " Way back into Love" as your theme song.
That's all for today and thanks for dropping by.
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Only while you are in the center of the problem you will be able to make the decision to forgive or not, and this depends on the behavior that you will forgive or not, is it forgiven or not, is it with previous intention or inadvertently happened and is it worth it or not, all of these questions need answers before making the decision to forgive or not and in the end the amount of your love for the person has the biggest role in the decision to give him a second chance or not