Hello everyone, how are you doing today? I was quite busy today because I was running errands for my mom and I also had to visit someone who I haven't seen for a while. I was finally free later in the evening and I felt like relaxing my brain before interacting here on readcash, what better way to relax than with a movie?
The movie I watched is called transcendence, and it's about a man that got his consciousness uploaded into a quantum computer by his wife to save him, but that turned out to be a very horrible choice. The main actor is Johnny Depp and Morgan Freeman also starred in it, it's a great movie overall.
I couldn't finish the movie because I had to figure out what to write this evening, and I decided to sniff around nairaland for a juicy article and I found one. A lady narrated the horrible experience she has at a job interview recently and I felt really sad for her.
When she got to the interview, she met a man and two ladies, they are the people that will be interviewing her. After a series of questions which she answered excellently, the man suddenly asked her if she was married and she replied that she's currently single. He then asked again if she was married in the past, she replied that she was married and she was still explaining that she had to leave because of domestic violence but the man didn't let her finish.
He cut her off mid-sentence and said; "young lady there's no need to go ahead with anything else again. Since you couldn't manage to stay back and remain married, is it the company that you can be able to manage?" He ended it with; "just forget about the job". The two ladies that were there with him were shocked by the whole thing.
The young lady held back tears till she got home and cried her eyes out, that was a very devasting experience. The interviewer was very callous for making such remarks about a person's past marriage, what right does he have to judge her managerial skills based on a failed marriage? I felt really bad for the way she was treated, now imagine how she will be feeling.
Some people will tell you to ignore what people say and just focus on yourself (I agree with that as well), but do you know that it's not actually easy to ignore? Sure, you might not react right there as the person says those words, but you will end up thinking about them later on, where it becomes a problem is when you let the words weigh you down.
There are usually two ways to handle such situations; you either let those words keep you down or you pick yourself up and keep moving, now which option is better? Again, it isn't easy to just pick yourself up but no one said it's ever going to be easy. You will always come across people that will be rude and insensitive with their words, you just have to remain strong hence you fall into depression.
Things like these are even worse on social media, you will come across all form of cyberbullies who hide behind their keyboard and throw words around like grenades, not minding who get caught in the blast. The keyboard warriors who are prepared to kill with their words all in the name of catching "fun", they forget that not everyone can take those cyberbullying.
Some people have developed thick skins and are impervious to the sharp edges of cruel words everyone isn't the same and some people break down easily and fall into depression. I remember a case some years back of a model that committed suicide after she was verbally abused on Twitter, someone even said "go and kill yourself".
Now she's probably on the brink of depression and that push was all she needed to take her life. It's like a person standing on a cliff and wondering if she should jump or not then suddenly, someone pushed her from behind, that's the power of words, it can take lives.
Depression is real and sometimes it takes just a few words just for a person to start getting depressed. You might say some words to a person and it will seem like they aren't affected by it and don't react negatively, but they will end up thinking about it eventually and those that aren't strong mentally will fall into depression.
Minding the way we talk isn't rocket science, you don't know what the next person is passing through and the least we can do is to be nice to everyone. The male interviewer didn't have to be insensitive and wicked, he could have kept his thoughts to himself but he just had to open his mouth and spew rubbish which wasn't necessary.
The lady has probably been traumatized by this experience and might be reluctant to go for another interview in the future. Words are very powerful and can cause a lot of damage, so we should be mindful of the way we use them. You don't know the effect your words will have on someone's life, so why use them wrongly when you can be nicer?
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Tuesday May 3rd, 2022
No he visto la película, pero debemos de ser sutil a la hora de entrevistar a alguien, las palabras han marcado la vida de las personas, es más destrosan hasta el Alma, hay que saber decir las cosas para no marcar la vida de las personas.