It's better to remain friends

This question is for the guys, ever been in a situation where you didn't date a girl because you feel it will ruin the friendship you have with her? I had someone like that when I was in my second year in the university and right now we are really great friends and I didn't regret my decision.

She's my classmate and I knew her when we were in our second year and we became very close. She was always around me and it's only natural for people to assume we were dating, and it doesn't even help that I tend to flirt a lot with her 😆 I didn't actually think about me and her in a romantic relationship but after hearing some persons referring to her as "my wife", I started thinking about it.

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I tend to like someone that has a good sense of humor and she has a very good one! It's very easy to make her laugh and that's one of the things I love about her, as well as the fact that she's smart and hardworking (very hardworking), so what more could I ask for?

The thought of dating her was very enticing but one day I just sat down and thought a lot about it; is a romantic relationship more valuable than friendship? I know there's a big possibility of me ruining the whole thing once we get into a romantic relationship and then we break up, I will end up losing her forever.

But it will be very hard to lose her as a friend, I tend to be very loyal and the problem I have is that I don't usually stay in touch with my friends 😆. So I finally decided to just remain friends with her and I never regretted it. We tend to have an off-and-on relationship but when either of us needs something, we will always be there for each other.

When we were in Lagos for our practical training, I spent a lot of time with her and I started to reduce it because my girlfriend was getting super jealous and I had to explain to her about our history and why I am very close with her. "You're always going to her room and she always give you food, and you say you're just friends, are you sure nothing is going on between you two?", She asked me one day.

Some of you might recall that in some of my articles last month, I sometimes made mentioned that one of my classmates gave me food, well she's the one. I don't think I cooked up to 5 times when I was in Lagos because she gave me food most of the time and my girlfriend covered the other part as well.

I remember the day I came back from a meeting very late and stressed out because of Lagos traffic and I wasn't in the mood for cooking, she just came up to me and asked; "will you eat rice?" I felt like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders and I immediately nodded my head in affirmation 😆.

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Some weeks back, she chatted with me on whatsapp and said she need me to help her in designing some flyers and product packaging for her products. She makes liquid soap, hand wash, disinfectant, and other household cleaners. I was into graphics design a couple of years ago but I abandoned it and went into programming.

Some persons have begged me to help them design but I always tell them that I am no longer into it but after my friend begged me, I found myself reinstalling all the tools I used back then as a graphics designer 😆 I knew quite well that she will do the same for me if it was reversed, so I decided to just help her.

And besides, it's just the little way I can help to promote her business. She told me that she have met some other graphics designers but they charged her so much money for the designs and she don't have a lot of money, so I just decided to help her and I told her to worry about the payment later.

I was chatting with her this evening and we were reminiscing about some things from our childhood and we were laughing about them. I started thinking; would we still be together till now if we decided to date years ago? Will the relationship be better than what we have right now? I guess we will never know, but right now I love the way things are.

Thanks for reading 💖💖💖

Wednesday April 6th, 2022