Guide to love

Hello community of readers, I am an analytical person and I like to think about topics of interest, every day feeding on the information that moves in the world without stopping, I hope you like my personal opinion of what should be done for a marriage or a couple relationship has great chances of long-term success.

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At the beginning of a courtship, it is very easy for everything to work well just by feeling physical attraction for the other person and having some interests in common, but what happens when a couple wants to have a long-term relationship or get married and wants to know what their interests are? probabilities of success to have a successful marriage, it is normal in the world in which we live where so many marriages fail to have this kind of fear and the first thing to understand is that there is no mathematical formula or we are part of the matrix a machine will put a program that gives us a perfect life, or is it that if we are in the matrix this is a question that sometimes does not let me sleep at night, but we will continue we are human and we can make mistakes the important thing is to have the maturity to accept these mistakes responsibly.

there are about 8000 million people in the world, so there is no excuse to find love, as long as we are sure that we want to be with a person and form a home and achieve that unique feeling that cannot be explained with words and each person has their unique and special way of feeling it.

Of all these recommendations that we have heard, I want to present my 5 aspects to have a good marriage.

1) Have common interests and know what they want in the long term in life, this is where as a couple you have to ask yourself a series of questions to assess if there is compatibility.

1- They want to have children, how many children and at what time, because if one person does not want to have children and the other does, it is an obviously opposite situation

2- Long-term work and financial plans, an important aspect of every marriage is money and it is important to know what the economic objectives of each person are.

3- They fervently practice a religion and how important or time they dedicate to religion

4-They have a passion for a sport or recreational activity to which they dedicate time or resources

5-How is your circle of friends and how much time do you spend with friends.

6- How important decisions are made about children, such as education, religion or sexual orientation

7- Are you part of a political party or an activist group?

8- consider hypothetical scenarios such as the decision to emigrate from the country

9- Talk about past traumas or problems, to face them as a couple

10- See in a hypothetical scenario a separation or divorce and analyze how to deal with the situation, and evaluating in a special way the performance in case there are children in the marriage, and causing the least emotional damage.

2) Family dynamics

This is an aspect that is very difficult to determine in theory, you can have an idea but only by living as a couple can you evaluate the functioning of all these family dynamics, the housework, the food who cooks, how the shopping, cleaning the house, how to determine or assign the different tasks.

3) Communication.

We have always heard about the importance of communication in the couple and some experts indicate this aspect as the most important for a marriage to work and although it is a very important aspect personally, I do not think there is an aspect that is in the first place, because they are a set of elements that have to work together for a relationship to work, how fluid and open communication should be, speaking to the couple with total sincerity, but this is the difficult part of communication knowing how to accept what the other person says, it is not always easy to accept mistakes and then what is communication about, having the maturity to recognize that we can make mistakes and having tolerance and acceptance of some things that we may not like about the other person , and thus be able to make the necessary changes to demonstrate with actions and not with words that we can do what is necessary to make the relationship work.

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4) Sex and intimacy

The principle of most all relationships is the attraction to the other person and having some interests in common, but as the relationship progresses and you get to know the other person more, you can evaluate the chances of success, sex is something important and it is not about seeking perfection, you have to seek to have a good sex life with your partner and always seek to conquer and feel the other desired person, there may be problems in this aspect, in fact it is normal but always with good communication You can solve these problems one day at a time, if you want you can, the important thing is to feel like being with your partner and seek to make her happy.

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5) laugh

This is an aspect that is rarely seen in articles that talk about a successful marriage, but personally I think it is very important in any personal relationship and especially that of the couple to know how to make the other person laugh, but that feeling of being truly happy and enjoying being with your partner, I'm not talking about the photos that are taken for IG, I mean those smiles for simple things like getting dirty with some food, a silly joke or laughing at the pranks of children, a couple who smile together is a couple that will stay together, it is also about seeing the positive side of things and not letting some bad moments turn into something permanent and if you have a positive and optimistic attitude it is easier to smile at life, as we learned in the movie life is beautiful, you do whatever it takes to see the people you love smile.

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What are you thinking, let me forget about the experience, this is another very important aspect because it is part of our personality and our way of thinking and doing things, experiences in life leave us with lessons and if we are intelligent, we know value everything we have done and all the good or bad experiences, this is where the fact of having learned from our mistakes so as not to make them again is put to the test in a relationship, many marriages fail because they are very young and do not know how to value the sacrifices of the other person or they do not really know what they want in life or what the future plans are and they get carried away by passion and that is fine for a courtship but for a marriage or forming a home with children, they require a series of elements that work together for a good marriage.

I wrote this article with love and trying to make a quality contribution, with my own content, I have always liked to analyze topics of interest to be able to leave a positive message for the community of readers, love is a very important topic, especially in these moments that We live in complicated and dark times, due to some events that happen in the world, but family and love will always be the most important thing, to continue fighting for these people we love and everything that can be done to help others, is something that benefits everyone, when we help someone our values ​​as human beings are strengthened and that is something that we can teach our children, love for others.

In the middle of the week I wish you a week full of good times and that every day we can learn new things and take advantage of the lessons that life gives us, for those who are looking for love I hope that these words that I wrote here will be interesting, a hug virtually everyone.