Have you been in a relationship and it feels too comfortable but you don’t get the meaning of what is happening... like seriously what is the meaning of this, he touches you in weird places and calls you so many disgusting names...
Please can we have sexual maturity in our age gap, another thing is you need to stop letting grown men or ladies control the narratives. You are going through a lot of pressure to make sure your relationship stands, putting in a different character, going beyond what your believes where..
If you where being called those names by a different person would you take it, I’m sure you’d lift up your hand up to give that person a hot and resounding slap... but because he is the one making the provision, you try to cover up.. I encountered something much worse today and that was the main reason for this topic, judge this case with me..
So a lady came out of a mall and she was walking out with a guy whom I supposed was her boyfriend and the next thing I saw was he pushing her towards a vehicle forcefully pulled up her clothes right in public and it felt like a normal scene as people kept walking past them.. I don’t know if that’s normal to her or to me but it’s not, These character traits won’t stop no matter how hard you try to convince the person about it..
Let me tell you what the problem with the society is, that we stopped using common sense a long time ago and we get to the place where we just start to do everything on the sides of the adversary not knowing that it breaks you completely.. you’ve got to put up boundaries in your relationship.
You’ve got your standards to take this to marriage and suddenly you fall, or you want to just live in peace but that doesn’t work either...
what you’ll do is to fold your arms and watch the humiliation, and watch them call you all manner of things.. I wish I could mention them here but that wouldn’t be allowed.. As humans we have our way with a lot of things and think we can get away with it, it always ends in shame when you are being controlled and you say nothing about it...
life happens and when you have the blue prints of your life, it changes when you meet that person... anything that’s worth having is worth waiting for, I am not a relationship advisor but I’m not going to avoid not saying my displeasure towards this issue.. he calls you a whore, a sex machine and every other unspeakable things..
Your objective shouldn’t change because of a 1 month pleasure you would get.. I’m preaching now stay with me, instead of that why don’t you wait and don’t dive in rough.. he be playing you for weeks and you didn’t notice it.
You’re a damsel, you’re beautiful and no one should harass you publicly like that... That’s just the reality In the word, it feels a lot better when you use every opportunity to cause pain... But this isn’t always normal, most times it’s what we see in pornography or what we have seen physically in our dispensation that comes with a devilish character..
Make sure the person is cleared from any psychological problem before you engage in any relationship, don’t be a slave to anyone...
The lady would have chosen to be free, I still don’t get why she let him do that... but it’s not my case to look into, maybe she has a different taste entirely... in as much as that area was public then I doubt if she was truly knowing what she’s doing...
Thank you for getting to this point, and it looks as if I’m a bit all over the place... sorry about that.
November 2021
Staying in an unhealthy relationship would just ruin your life and wasting your time. It's not easy though, I can't judge the girl coz he maybe love the boy. One day when she realizes her worth, she would definitely sacrifice the love and chose her life.