To Manage Your Dating Anxiety, Read This As a hopeful romantic, I dreamt of my fairy tale ending long before I would have it. I was hyper-aware of romantic love all around me. Couples holding hands as they walked. Friends giddily sharing stories about their partners. My parents continuing their decades-long marriage. I wanted badly what they had. And I went on more dates than I could count to find it. Some made for great first-date horror stories. Others were unremarkable. A…
@Khamus in September 2020
Overwhelming Sadness Today, I sit on my bed smiling. Suffering from depression, I’ve lived with the feeling of being trapped in a glass box for years. It gets hard to breathe. It gets hard to see things clearly. Everything is distorted, even your own reflection. The reflection staring back looks so monstrous and so broken to you, some part of you believes it deserves this box. You live years in this box and at times you find yourself banging on the walls, screaming to be let…
You are lovable You were born totally, wholeheartedly, fully lovable. You and the rest of us. Have you ever looked at a baby and considered how unlovable they are? I am going to count on it that you said no. It is because everyone is born lovable. And nothing ever changes. As the baby grows and develops through life, their worthiness and lovability never changes. What does change is that person’s self-image. Every person develops an inner blueprint that consists of how…
This One Truth Can Change Your Life You are lovable. That is the truth. As you read those words, it is a normal response to cringe, deny it, or simply disregard them as rubbish. Many people identify with the belief that they are unlovable. Does that include you? Whether it be the way you experienced love in the past, the words that you were told as a child, or the way you were conditioned to think about self-love, somewhere along the line, you began to believe that you are…
Reasons Why It’s Okay To Cut A Toxic Family Member Out Of Your Life For Good I have gone through my entire life thinking I had to keep someone in my private sphere just because they share a bloodline with me. Well, guess what? That’s not the case! Once you realize this, every emotionally draining family tie you have comes into question, and a sense of relief hits you. Here are five reasons you can justify ignoring your great aunt Cathy at the next family gathering: 1. You…
A Story From Survivor's Daughter A story of fear and despair that turned into a beautiful miracle and the gift of my father’s life. What are three words you never want to hear come out of a loved one’s mouth? “I have cancer.” In mid-April of 2018 I received a call that forever changed my life. I was in my apartment in Paris studying for my upcoming final exams when I received a text from my dad asking if I was available to talk — he said he had a miracle he wanted to share…
Ways To Have Better Relationships As a child who’s just beginning to wake up to the fact that she is, in fact, 26 years old, I’m often appalled by how complicated relationships in the adult world can get. I’m literally no expert at managing relationships, but I do have a few ideas about them that I think help me keep my life peaceful and I hope will help you too, so here goes: 1. The obvious golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If we are truly able…
A Dad Should Do The Following To His Daughter 1. Remember every single birthday 2. Thoroughly celebrate every single birthday 3. Listen more, yell less 4. Read bedtime stories (sober) 5. Show her how much he adores and values her mama 6. Write her handwritten letters of encouragement 7. Be involved with her education (or at least know her college major and go to graduations) 8. Show her how important it is to take care of herself, hygiene and all 9. Take her shopping for…
My Dating Life Come one, come all to the freak show we call my dating life! It’s a place full of wonder and where dreams cease to exist. Where there is darkness that fills the air and you will find traces of regret and despair. You will find mystical monsters of all kinds and even sometimes, you hear a rhyme. And of course, this is the place where love comes to die. This freak show is a place full of the craziest creatures of the most peculiar type. A cheap seat allows you…
When You Get wat u want that's God Direction, When u don't Get what u want, That's God protection
Life Some things in life are best left to be felt than to be understood. cleverness has led us astray to the disarray of this world, and perhaps it is time that we create a new one. an abysm of dark spaces that are illumined by the goodness of our spirit, and not further blackened by the guilefulness of our reason. a union of fields with humble warriors marching to the sound of their own beating hearts. a terrestrial body where its limbs work to alleviate the plight of…
Heart-thinking Some days I feel like I can conquer the world, and other days I’m not really sure how I am even continuing to function. Some days I feel like my heart is light and full of simple melodies of peace and calmness. Other days, I feel like my heart is so heavy that it is weighing me down and I’m carrying everything. There are days where it is hard for me to express myself, and there are days where I’m too assertive. There are moments when I can’t seem to make a…
I Want To Be Friends (Even Though It’s Probably A Bad Idea) I miss our conversations tinged with sexual tension. I miss flirting with you. I miss touching you. I miss kissing you. But above all else, I miss having you as a friend. I liked you as a person, not as an object, not as an almost. Even when our clothes were fully on, even when nothing exciting was brewing between us, I enjoyed spending time with you. I liked being around you. You were one of the rare people with…
Good Morning Assalaamu alaikum, A glorious life, A relaxed mind, A peaceful soul, A healthy body, A brighter future and Allah's protection are my wishes for you and your entire family today and always! GOOD MORNING MY BELOVED BROTHERS And SISTERS AND HAVE A NICE AND BLESSINGS DAY
I'm thankful I can’t help but smile and ponder about how thankful I am. I was able to discover myself. I was able to give myself more love than I have ever given myself in the past. I was able to finally realize how important it is to put yourself first. No, it’s not selfish, it’s self-care. Because how can you give something you don’t have yet? How can you expect someone to love you if you can’t even love yourself? As you continue on in this beautiful journey of yours,…
A prayer Daily and consistent prayer provides focus, clarity, direction and vision, and continually reminds the believer that life on earth is temporary, a journey and a passage to be travelled intentionally and gratefully for the greatest good and for growth, that the experience beyond be unencumbered with attachment and the soul thus free to ascend to its highest potential. May the Almighty Allah (SWT) solve your simple and most difficult problems, worries, calamities,…
You Should Never Go Back To Someone Who’s Hurt You Sometimes we get attracted to people who are simply bad for us. No matter how badly they treat us, we continue to fall for them. What makes these people so irresistible? Their charm continually sweeps us off our feet and their apologies and promises never stop sounding sincere. Even after you leave them, the temptation to go back to them is overwhelming. Here are the 5 biggest reasons why it is never worth returning to a…
Good Morning May the Almighty Allah (SWT) be with you at every step you take, guide you in each decision you make, help you when life gets rough, bless you with what is sufficient, protect you at all times, hear you when you call, soothe your hearts when you don't understand and put you among the inhabitant of Al-Jannatul Firdaus and your Family. Ameen!
Don’t hate the experience that shaped you. It’s what the Almighty wants for you. That’s why He sends specific tests to each & everyone of us. Everything happens for a reason. You may think it was a painful experience but if you bear patience, you’ll emerge a much stronger person!
The Broken Path That Lead Me To You You say, “I’m difficult to deal with..” I say, “That’s fairly obvious..” You don’t listen to half the words I say, You ignore most texts and sometimes forget we were supposed to hang out that day, I don’t even know if you know my favorite band’s name, And yet, here I am waiting on your next move and this is where I plan to stay. You say, “I have a lot of demons that you would have to deal with..” I say, “Don’t we all?” You forget that I…
Good Morning May the Alighty Allah (swt) Open for you the doors to everything good .. And the doors to peace and security, And the doors to health and wellness, And the doors to YOUR blessings, And the doors of YOUR barakah, And the doors to strength and perseverance, And the doors to love and care, And the doors to YOUR mercy, And the doors to YOUR sustenance, And the doors to knowledge, And the doors to YOUR forgiveness, And the doors to JANNAH ! Ameen
Good and bad people An old man sat outside the walls of a great city. When travelers approached, they would ask the old man, "What kind of people ... Story: What Is Important In Your Life Color your mood An old man sat outside the walls of a great city. When travelers approached, they would ask the old man, "What kind of people live in this city?" The old man would answer, "What kind of people live in the place where you came from?" If the travelers answered, "Only bad…
Joy of love If you've ever been in love with someone, there is always an atmosphere of mystery and joy. What's a safe way to solve this whole puzzle? Check it out on your social media account and see all the photos you have posted since 2011. If you say you have never done this before, you are probably lying. Why not subscribe to some social networks? If there is a lot of information about this person that you are interested in ... it is almost like a small book about his…
Online dating We behave in such a way that we cannot get out of reality, but the more time we spend in this misleading reality, the more we get used to such labels. The Internet allows us to act without feeling the burden of action. Exploring relationships in a room where social etiquette is not clearly defined can be frustrating, awkward, and fun. Inspired by my own experiences and the anecdotes of my very thoughtful friends, I've compiled a list of ways dating in the age…
What am i saying? We are more annoyed by the transitional season. Clicked more often than usual or left unwanted comments. It's important to understand that stress can push us to be vigilant and make us act out of anger, frustration, or fatigue. Calling the season what it is will make it easier for your partner to speak hurtful words or play with your character. We need to apologize and apply the “reverse rule” to return anything that comes out of our mouths, anything that…