Story time: Discernment

Some 6 or 7 years ago, a dear sister to me almost married wrongly. She met this guy who seemed to tick so many boxes. A veterinary doctor with a successful practice based in Abuja. He was dark and tall, with a good body build. Seemed responsible enough. Was already building his own house in Abuja. And to cap it all, he seemed a good Christian. Very active member of Full Gospel Business Men Fellowship. In fact, he was a member of the executive. And she had met all his family members. Everyone loved and adored this sis of mine, including his mother. Her own family was very receptive of him too. I interacted with the guy and he seemed cool, to be honest. He is still a Facebook friend till date.

Then a "prophet" came to pray for the girl's family. And went on to mention that the guy coming for her was her husband. And pointed out that he was at the verge of getting a car for her. Which the girl admitted for the first time to the hearing of everyone that the boyfriend, indeed, had such plans. That was the final confirmation. He must be "the one" for the prophet to "prophesy" this secret she was yet to share with anyone.

Wedding preparations went into full mode. Dates were fixed. Introduction was done. Everyone was warming up for the traditional marriage. The asoebi material had been bought. Her ladies notified. All of a sudden, she calls it off. That she can't continue with the wedding. She had been ignoring all the subtle alarms in her head until God drops 2 Timothy 3:5-6 on her lap. That got her brain to reset. It was too risky. She admitted ignoring so many red flags one of which is emotional abuse. Wedding got called off.

A year later, she met her now husband through his mum and aunt. Granted, he seemed a less preferred choice in comparison to the first guy. Was driving a beat-up Toyota Camry car then. Some inches shorter than the first guy. Wasn't bad looking though no match in facial features and body build in comparison to Vet. Dr. He lived in rowdy Lagos that she swore never to have anything to do with. He was a "normal" Christian with no title in church or fellowship plus no "prophet" gave a word over his head. Anyways, this was the one she finally married and they are living happily.

We know no man after the flesh!* We refuse to evaluate by outward appearance! We refuse to marry based on what a mere human recommended! Until we get our convictions, we make no step!! Until we hear from the Lord, we remain single and satisfied!!

This is why we pray! For discernment. For sight to see things and persons the way God sees them. For sound hearing. To pick even the slightest of God's sounds. For sensitivity! To pick the leadings of God. If for any reason, Samuel was hard of hearing that day or assumed the voice he heard was not God and went on to anoint Eliab, he would have thwarted destiny and ruined God's plans for Israel at the time. But Mercy said No.

O Lord! Save me from myself. Help me not to lean on my own understanding.😭😭😭_

Since you think you know how to pick rightly, how come you are no different from the Samaritan Woman at the well? You have been in 3 or more relationships. You dated 7 men with a dozen undefined ones. And you still think you are a good judge of character. Isn't it high time you admit you make terrible choices and relinquish that privilege to God?

To God and not to ANY MAN! Not to any prophet. Not to any seer. Not to any spiritual authority. Not to any parental authority. I don't care who they are and what they embody. If a whole Prophet Samuel almost crowned a wrong King, why do you think that human figure can never walk in error? *Humans, anointed or not, should confirm what you already know or will soon know...from God.* You cannot afford to walk into marriage based on someone else's convictions or based on their prophecy or discernment. *You should hear God for yourself.*