Your relationships are probably going to be one of four possibilities: the right person at the wrong time; the wrong person at the right time; the wrong person at the wrong time; or finally (and hopefully), the right person at the right time.
The right person but the wrong time leaves you thinking, “If only I could have met themat another time.” Perhaps you met such a person when you were too young, too broke, or too afraid. You end up with a lot of “what ifs,” and this illusive person stays at the forefront of your mind for months.
The wrong person at the right time can lead to some disastrous results. This can be very painful for you if you have high romantic hopes and they have none. You may try even harder at this time to make a relationship work.
Sometimes you begin wondering what is wrong with you! The real problem occurs because the desire to settle down and get married is so strong that you tend to be less objective in your evaluation of the other person.
The desire to be married takes precedence over properly evaluating the person. The statement “I just want to be married” is said with such intensity and force that it’s apparent the screening apparatus has been put in neutral. I’ve heard many women say, “I’mnot getting any younger.
The window of opportunity for having children is slowly closing, and I need to get married in the next two years and have a baby right away if I don’t want to miss out. I need a marriage-prone man right away.” This need can become so intense that you may decide to fall in love with the next romantic interest that comes along.
Several men and women that I saw when they were in the midst of a divorce made virtually the same statement: “Whatever possessed me to marry that person? He/she wasn’t really the person I was looking for. My head must have been in the clouds. I guess I just wanted to be married so bad I took the first available one.”
For many singles, their life seems to be a continuous pattern of the wrong person at the wrong time. It’s especially difficult when there’s a strong attraction to the person, but you know that’s not the person for you. Fortunately, most of these relationships are short-lived unless one person hangs on because “any relationship is better than none.”
Sometimes, though, I’ve seen relationships last for years where one or both persons keep trying to make it fit together or feel, “Perhaps someday I will really love him.” Sometimes relationships develop into lasting platonic friendships which at least fill that need for the couple. Naturally, you want the right person at the right time. And this is possible
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