Relationship: If you're softhearted, you're finished

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If you're soft, you're completely finished.

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We are in the era where a lot is happening in the relationship/marriage world, where;

• People no longer consider cheating as irregular act,

• where people break heart for a living,

• Where People dribbles the dull and softhearted ones as Ronaldo with Football.

Everyday we here about cheating from both genders, both the married ones and the ones in Ordinary relationship (should we consider that as cheating as people say?), And the worst thing is that even the people we look up to, such as religious leaders and highly respected persons are found in this category and this has made a lot people to see relationship/marriage as hell or an institution that can't survive without cheating. Yes, people now go into relationship or marriage with this mindset and a lot of people have given up on anything called relationship because the end product will always attract "breakfast".

With all these, a lot of people also have given up on anything called being faithful to love in relationship, People now look at someone giving attention, love and faithfulness as a weakling. Do you blame them? No! Guys have seen a lot and not ready to be played. Infact from a good research, it shows that ladies love a guy more when he's weird (not softhearted).

I really don't understand WHY ladies love it when a guy is toxic, it baffles me always because I fall in the category of the "gentle" and things always turn out sour. But that's not the case with me anymore because I've improvised means to hide this softness 🥳.

• Let's look at the case of this young man seeking for advice on what to do about his girlfriend

Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.

So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.

I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.

She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.

Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without br*, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel s*xy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.

She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.

Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or am i my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house.

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This is a case of a soft guy being obsessed with his girlfriend and trust Ladies na, once they see that you are soft and love them so much, they start manifesting.

I'm the softhearted type(though I have mastered my heart🤪) and. I've faced this kinda thing some times ago...not in a "serious" relationship though. Once you start exhibiting too much love and attention and them feel you can't live without them, mehn you're finished!

I'll blame the guy for still pushing ahead to save a dead relationship, the first red flag should be okay enough to get the clear signal. But he foolishly stayed all in the name of love. To be sincere, the possibility of the lady meeting another man over there is sure...THE CHEATING come to play again.

I went to read comment and see the advice People rendered to the young man and 99% of the advices were based on the guy to leave the guy because he's too soft for her and she has seen his weak point and the lady is catching her cool time with rough guys there, also, he shouldn't kill himself on a lady that's still in the market 🤪.

Na this kind advice I dey like🤸🤸

I wanted to be share my experiences on being the softhearted guy in some of my Adventures but...🤣🤣🤣

Thanks for reading

9th June 2022