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What it means to be a (fur)Mom

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Written by   225
3 months ago
Topics: Animals, Children, Pets, Love, Motherhood, ...

This was written throughout my morning so the times are a bit mixed up, some while home and some while at work!

I was in the bathroom last night, my Fiancé and I on Skype - he was sorting his shower out, I was already in my shower, relaxing my shoulders and back...the hot water falling down across my body into the plastic container we use to catch and recycle the water (so romantic 🤣).

He says to me:

I love you.

I am halfway through replying with love and sincerity:

I love - oh sh1t, sh%t!

I run out the bathroom and to my bedroom to check that the charging cables were in fact up and out of the way for chewing distance of my puppy. They were...of course they were...it's habit by now. All cables live hidden away and turned off when unattended, did that matter to me then? Nope! I'm a paranoid mommy and will rather break my neck running out the shower with slippy feet on the tiles to make sure my puppy isn't going to chew through something and electrocute himself than trust that I've moved the cables. You see, I'm not sleeping very well lately so I'm doubting everything and double checking everything...

Do you know what I did? I walked back into the bathroom, grabbed my towel and went and cleaned up my dripping wet footprints across the floor (naked bum in the frozen air, with all relaxation completely left my body), then quickly leapt back into the shower hoping he hadn't noticed I was gone for too long. Still trying to make sure we have our intimate moments of sharing our long distance lives together. Of course he noticed I was gone, because we have our routine...but he laughed knowing something had gone on to make me do the in-and-out thing. So when I got out the shower we were talking to each other as we dried ourselves...next thing I hear my little Floof's cry at the door. Everything is dropped and baby gets let into the bathroom and he sits staring at me while I dry myself. I didn't really get very dry, the clothes were thrown on after having a towel roughly dragged across my skin 🤣

It reminded me of one the funniest things I've ever seen...I felt like the lady in this clip yesterday:

It doesn't matter how many times I watch that video, tears of laughter are rolling down my face again. That lady, she needs a medal!

Side note, these people during lockdown (I saw this video while searching for the other one) 🤣😅

I love my Floof!

Being a fur-mom has a lot of similarities to being a mom of a human baby. I've been in the position with my ex where I helped to raise his 5 year old daughter and I was exactly the same with her as I am with my baby pie. She is now 19 years old, and even though him and I broke up over a decade ago...she still calls me and we still talk. I'm still a version of mom to her. Some may think that it's weird or impossible to love an animal the way we love humans...but I am one of those people who has no desire to have a child. I don't dream of being a Mom, and if I did, it would be a nightmare. I admire the women who I know (and have read about here) who have sacrificed everything to be a Mom.

Please check out this post by @Eybyoung it speaks about such a true and pure love that captures the relationship between Mom and Child so perfectly.

https://read.cash/@Eybyoung/motherhood-take-away-my-freedom-but-i-found-my-purpose-88d238e9

Screenshot of Eybyoung's post

For me? The title of her post also speaks about the way I have been with my furbabies, except now...it's even more so. I'm an adult now, he is technically my first baby. I chose him, I'm raising him, of course with the help of Mom and Dad who care for him and nurture him when I'm at work. Here is my Mom in the morning now while I'm getting ready for work, with her son and her grandson 😅

I'm fortunate that my working day ends (most days) before 3pm, so I have more time with him than most people get. This is my child, my son:

He has fallen asleep on my lap now while I type this on my Dad's bed. Dad made us a beautiful pot of fresh coffee this morning after I woke up and he's watched the news while laughing at me laughing so hard at the videos I shared in this 😅 I've always been an early riser, but most mornings I'm up now between 2:30 and 3am...being Mom to this little sweet Floofy...he has helped me so much.

After losing my baby, he's helped glue my broken pieces back together again

I wrote about losing her here: https://read.cash/@JustMyRambles01/my-baby-is-gone-and-i-am-broken-22534ac3

Photos and memories is all I have of her now. After 25 years of cuddles, life, growing up, going from a kid to a teenager to a working woman...she was there for me through everything. She was always there for me to cuddle and hold and she always comforted me.

I wasn't coping without her

Some people can live without that special furbaby. Some people say they won't get another pet after they lose one. I was battling to get out of bed every day and couldn't function at work. Walking in at home there was a giant hole in my life, there is still a hole in my life of where she was. She still isn't there, but the difference is, this little guy is:

Nothing and nobody could ever take her place

Just because I've got my puppy now, doesn't mean I'll ever forget her, or stop thinking of her and remembering the times we had together. It just means that I can have a bundle of energy to love who comforts me through everything.

Being a fur-mom means that you will lose babies in your life

Animals don't live as long as humans. That's a sad and horrific fact. It would be easier to deal with if a dog or a cat lived to 60, or even 40. Then we could get a baby who would be with us until we die. Unfortunately that's never going to be possible.

He completes me...

I'm standing outside now after 2 cups of coffee and half a cup of tea clearing my head before I have to leave for work. I hate having to leave him, but I'll grab my strength from the nature in front of me...

And know that I'm leaving to make sure I can provide for him, for my Mom's boy, get them treats, and make sure my family is healthy, happy, comfortable and secure with no worries 🌻

Have a beautiful day everyone!

Keep smiling, and hunt for the light and positivity in your day! I'm at work now and mustering the strength to get out and up to deal with the chaos of the day.

It's a cold, wet and windy day here. I hope your day will be filled with success and joy 🌻

Thank you for your support

For the likes, comments, upvotes and sponsorships 🌻 you all keep me motivated and I'm so thankful that I'm here with you ❤

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OMG! I need to watch the videos! I love those haha. Anyway, it´s really nice that you are Skyping like this with your boyfriend :) I could not talk to anyone while taking a shower though. I even hate when someone needs to use a toilet while I´m in the bathroom. 😅 Your new puppy is so cute! I also can´t imagine myself having an actual baby (I hate kids, they scare me) but I want a cat or two to take care of. 😊 I have a bunny now, because I´m still living home but when I will have my own place, I need cats as well.

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3 months ago

I don't have any accompanies but i do loves not also pets but also every innocent animals. Few years i had a pet(cat). But she died because of illness. After that my mom didn't give me permission to have one. It's really cool of you that you've created pretty much bonding like family.

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3 months ago

I really am amazed with people like you who have found love and everything in creatures other than human. You seem to love your pet like how a mother could possibly love her child. They are lucky to have you.

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3 months ago

Being a fur parent is therapy for me. I have my four bunnies, a dog, and a cat at home. I considered them my children. All my stress at work will all be gone when my little angels cuddle me. They know they are loved so much when they also let you feel the same way. I did not regret raising fur babies, with them, I find happiness and contentment in life.

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3 months ago

I have a pet too. He's name is Iking. And I also found him so affectionate. Sometimes, my fiancé will say, "Don't get so close to him." Hehe, I really just think he's jealous that I am close to my pet.

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3 months ago

Some people are funny like that I'm sure they jealous! Haha my Fiancé knows better though. From the start he knew I don't want children but will have animals forever 😅 what type do you have? Dog or cat?

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3 months ago

I have a dog sis.. Aigoo! My Fiancé wants a baby, so as I. But unfortunately, we still don't have one. Hehe..

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3 months ago

Thank you for featuring my article, I've known some people too who chose to raised dogs than having a child. I respect their views and stands when it comes to that matters, and it same goes to you. I admire your love for your fur babies. 😊

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3 months ago

Your Article was so special to me and I loved reading it. There are so many things you said which made me think of my parents and sacrifices they have made for me. You also opened my eyes to why and how other women have such a passion for a child, yet I don't...it is wonderful for me to learn understand everyone's perspective. Absolute pleasure 🌺

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3 months ago

Oh my Floof is so cute that even me cannot live without her. I have 3 dogs and the bond between us is different. I don't dream of having a child too because I feel like I am mom to my dogs already. Being a furmom is fulfilling m

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3 months ago

I feel like a human child would not work with my life and what I want to do. We will definitely go to the bush and be in the middle of nowhere and it would be too dangerous and unfair on a little child who would need to study and have a life. My babies are perfect! Are yours big dogs or little ones?

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3 months ago

That's what I think of too. Hmm I have one big Labrador while the two remaining ones are just little.

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3 months ago

Wow, the bond between humans and fur babies has grown so much but yours is unique.

I know what it feels like to lose something that has become part of us already, despite the fun in the article, I could sense emotions in it. I wish you a great day and I believe that your fur babies misses you when you are away as well.

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3 months ago

Ahhh thank you! Yes I hope they do! They have the cutest little barks and whines when I come home, it is so sweet. From the gate I can hear them and it makes me so happy. The house is so full if energy with them in it.

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3 months ago

I get you, have a beautiful day..

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3 months ago

I'm also a fur daddy, I have this dog which had breed of standard Shi Tzu but she's big. She's so clingy and always wanna play with me, she's so fluffy specially her fur. Sadly my other dog aspin died a few weeks ago, maybe he eat something that's why it's hard for him to poop.

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3 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss xxx

The Shi Tzu breeds are beautiful and so loving! Would love to see photos 😃

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3 months ago

That's why I am not adopting small dogs HAHA and I decided to taking care of cats instead because I can't make sure to my self if I can really take care of dogs because it was a though work and when something bad happened to them, I will blame my self. 🥺💔

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3 months ago

I totally understand how you feel. I'm fortunate that Mom and Dad are retired and we live together so life is much easier 🤩

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3 months ago

I loved reading this. And I wanna be honest. I am undergoing a tough emotional state right now. It's hard to explain. I had to let go of my kitten named Mia, and it was last Sunday. It broke my heart multiple times, and I always cry every night because I've been so used to her favorite spots, and how we both slept beside each other. She was such a sweet and playful cat, and I never got tired od talking about here even in my noise.cash post. One month.. one month was enough for me to be so attached to her that whenever I saw cats, kittens or her pictures in my phone, it hurts so much.

I don't think nobody can ever replace Mia in my heart. It's the first time I've ever loved a feline yet it was short lived. I am doing my best to cope with it everyday.

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3 months ago

I am so sorry 😢 I can feel the pain in your words...it is devastating when we don't have them there anymore. It is so difficult, especially when we have bad days, please reach out if you need to talk. You're not alone, in some weird cyber way I'm happy to offer a long distance hug and chat if you would like to🌹

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3 months ago

Thank you so much. I appreciate this. 🤧

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