Self Care or Self Absorption? Bored even of myself... We're in a point of time where we are constantly reminded of our own importance, and mostly because of not so innocent motives, as there are a lot of brands that try to push new products into the markets and get us to buy them through their marketing campaigns, using messages like "Treat yourself" or "You're the only one that matters". I'm not saying that focusing on yourself from time to time is a hurtful practice, as It…
The reality of risk It doesn't have to be that scary Let's be honest, how many of us are living the life we really want? Probably not many, and obviously everyone wants to be in the other end of this conversation, working in the profession they really want, surrounding themselves with the right people and meeting the person of your dreams. However, the main thing standing before us and our goals is something pretty common, fear, usually clouding our minds with the question…
There's a real person at the other side of the screen It still hurts... Social media has presented Itself as a great platform that can be of great use when It comes to staying in touch with our loved ones and sharing our passions. However, what happens in It is not so innocent. These websites and apps, even if made with a positive motive in mind, have represented a vessel for the insecurities of the current generation and many others, making up for a gateway to not only hide…
How to make habit change easier The past and the present vs the future Why we always seek the most entertaining and easy thing instead of the ones that will really put us to the test and make us improve as well as our situation in the whole run? Well, this has to do with a lot of factors, most of which are present in our environment, as we're constantly bombarded with publicity about every trend and every new product that promises to bring us an extra layer of comfort and…
Regret of Wasting your life All those years to the garbage bin Feeling time slip out of our hands, a common occurrence that happens to us as we look back to all the missed opportunities and the success we could have achieved If we did certain thing, being miles away from where we are right now and closer to our dreams, in this way aggravating your perception of the future and making our lives more miserable. Well, beating yourself up over this won't make It all better, and…
The Power of Your Expectations Is not what happens, Is how you react to It: We all want good things to happen to us, however, whether good or bad things occur has to do with what you expect rather than with the events Itselves. With this I'm not saying that you should just wait for fame, riches or well being to come to your door without putting any effort. What I mean is that your body and mind respond to any event according to a combination of what really happened and how…
Pace your steps Don't burn yourself: If you find yourself with irregular bursts of productivity followed by periods of feeling tired and not being able to focus, you might have to ask yourself If you're pushing things too hard. With this I'm not meaning to reward you for doing nothing, though to analyze If when you approach a certain line of work you tend to burn out in the first parts of the process, privating yourself of the necessary rest and distance to get effective…
Simple Changes for a Better Life The tinier things make up for the biggest results Most of us think that the difference between a good and a bad life has to do with a lot of big decisions, and It might be right in some cases, though most of the times this contrast has to do more with the little choices we make day to day. From little changes in your enviroment to carrying or not carrying things with yourself, It just takes a little tweak in our routines to make our lives…
The importance of Uploading Content Does sharing memes count as content creation? We know that in order to have a better life we have to initiate at some point. whether It is by changing our behaviour in the form of improving our diet, exercising, reading, meditating or having meaningful interactions with other people, all these practices can make you give positive steps towards your desired life. However, what If I told you that between these habits we can find one…
Know what are your real needs. A new TV won't take off your anxiety Even though It makes life much more easier and can be a pathway for future improvement If used in the right way, one of the worst beliefs you can have is that If you reach material wealth It will automatically erase all your problems and relief all your depression and anxiety, at the end of the day making you more susceptible to ads that procure to sell you the cure to everything. If you reach a point where…
Useful Tools and Distractions in your Phone Should you degrade? One, If not the most groundbreaking invention of the 21st century is the smartphone, a tiny plastic, crystal and silicon square in our pockets with the information of the whole world within Itself, something which has greatly improved and at the same time made our lives more miserable, stagnating the quality of our relationships and our mindfulness. However, this doesn't mean that you should go back to using a…
You should steal to find your style You are a combination of your influences When you present them your Ideas, many people, including yourself, will tell you that to stand out from the rest you have to be original. However, this sounds better said than done. To find your own identity in a world where whether you want It or not you are bombarded with a lot of things that influence you subconsciously you have to pass through a series of stages that will take you to your unique…
The fallacy of "Being Yourself" Don't Let "yourself" fool the real you All across our lives when we faced difficult situations in the social realm and we sought advice from our peers, they always told us the same thing, "Just be yourself", which, even If well meant was a statement so vague and at the same time counterintuitive when It came to our interactions with others, not recognizing that whether we want It or not, we're more akin to chameleons when It comes to talking…
The Truth about Success Your only success comes from within To this day, many people have a distorted perception of what success means, so they resort to the default "Having as good a life as the famous people I follow on Instagram" or "having a lot of moneys" answers. However, you'll see that If you dedicate yourself consistently to your passion as a lifetime project for a long enough period of time most of the times you won't get as far as them, and this doesn't necessary…
Turning tragedy into opportunity The blessing of perception As i've pointed so many times before, reality is a function of two things: What happens to us and how we interpret It, and It's a great mistaks to underestimate the power of being able to change the latter. By changing your perspective about the world and the way in which you react to the unexpected, you can make the pain bigger or you can try the opposite, to actually turn the source of the distress into something…
Get It Off your Chest To keep It will just make It worse In a world where mental health discussions had been normalized and the search of one's own spiritual freedom, we find that as every day passes people are less fearful to share their feelings, and that's a great thing. However, If you're still struggling to communicate what causes your soul pain, this article is for you, telling you how suppresing something that might be worrying you for days and days can escalate if…
Sacrifice for your calling in life. You're compelled forward by your interests Humanity has faced a lot of different poblational problems of over the course of history. From plagues and slavery to segregation, ideological hate and misunderstandings, all which had led to violent responses which resulted in significant changes. However, one thing that has always lingered over the mind of people and It hasn't been talked about enough until recently is the pursuit of a…
What advice you would give to your younger self? There had been a lot of mistakes Everyone has done things in their earlier years that they feel regret of, and this is entirely normal, as no one understands how the world works until they're faced with the sight of failure. In my case, my teenage years were filled with a lot of self loathing, resentment and the avoidance of social interactions to instead play video games and indulge in all kinds of vices. However, I've…
Don't Judge a Book by Its Cover Get past Artificial Hate There's a lot of hate on the Internet nowadays, sometimes directed to a famous person because of an unpopular opinion they shared, and sometimes towards one another in comment sections because of an unhealthy dispute or "Trolling". However, even If people might have their own pathological or even self serving reasons for making demeaning remarks of strangers, there Is still a principle which, as old as It is, still…
Are you asking yourself the right questions? Are you really living the life you want to live? Whether we want to admit It or not, we like to lie to ourselves a lot when we look at the mirror, telling us things like "I'm doing great" or "You're going to be someone" and in an hour or two doing the same thing that we shouldn't be doing, procrastinating instead of putting in practice those good habits that are going to do the best for us. Well, It doesn't matter how much you try…
Be able to say No The worst kind of lies We like to think that the consequences of lying are pretty much minimal and can be easily overlooked. However, that's not the case. When you bend reality through deception, It will surely snap back at you sooner or later, whether in the form of the people you try to hide things from realizing they were tricked and confronting you on It or in situations going sideway, creating a much more abrupt response than the one you were so afraid…
Failure is better than success Before you say something... Since the dawn of times most people has associated the word Failure with negative connotations, making It seem like commiting an error will bring consequences that can't be fixed and that the mere hint of failing is unacceptable, all which, If helpful to some extent, has a much more contradictory effect than you expect. If you tell someone that not meeting a goal represents the end of the world and that It didn't…
Practice Makes Perfection You won't reach It in a single day When we see someone who is incredibly talented in our social media, whether It is playing an instrument incredibly well or achieving physical feats that are seemingly impossible, we get a burst of jealousy and motivation at the same time, in which we tell to ourselves that we can do just as good or better, all to forget It after and not even trying to start because of the fear of failure. Well, as dated as It might…
There is more than one way to do It Look for the back door For most things in life, we have been told that to reach a particular objective we can only do It through a narrow set of alternatives or just a single one, being either going through college and landing a job in a good company, starting a business, working at the family store or jumping straight up in the workforce. All these previous options might sound like the most logical option just because most of the people…
Life is Hard, so What? It goes on... Whether you're a man, a woman, old or old enough, you know one thing: Life is hard, thought that can be a source of distress and anxiety for many when contemplating the uncertainty of the future, anxiety that can paralyze anyone when the unexpected occurs. In spite of that, we still hear stories of people that had faced a great deal of life's worst calamities and still thrived, getting to a point of unprecedented success and wisdom,…
Does the other person feel comfortable? Just look at their body One of our main concerns when It comes to talking to other people is how they perceive our presence, either welcoming our company or closing themselves to our attempts to form a conversation. If you find yourself thinking too much about how things turned when approaching someone you like or enjoy spending time with, you just have to look at their body language when they see you. That's why in this article I will…
The importance of eye contact A look away from friendship Many of us feel awkward in social situations, not knowing about the other person's cues and body language at all, so they can't paint an accurate description of what the other person finds interesting in the conversation and If whether he/she wants to continue It. Well, there might be one thing that unironically you might be "overlooking" and that's looking people direct at the eyes. I know It might be a little weird…
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