Comparing: Positive and negative impact
Date: June 22, 2022
In life, we cannot deny the fact that comparing happened, happening and will happen. We tend to compare things over another thing. Comparing someone to others and the most common is to compare ourselves to someone. It is a part of our life.
Have you experienced that other people are comparing you towards others? What do you feel? How about when you compare yourself to others? Is it giving a positive or negative impact in your life?
Hello read.cash family. Its been raining here in our side this time, not just rain but a heavy rain with strong winds. Even our small house is new but because of the heavy rain, the water slip from the area where nails is located. So there is some rain drops inside, lol.
Earlier this morning I came across with @Gaftekloriginal 's post about some reality of life. It is about comparing himself to others. I can relate with it and I'm sure you do too. His article lead me to write this topic.
Comparing is normal and it is part of one's life. But having this comparison will give positive and negative impact on our lives.
When someone or even me compares myself to others it gives myself a positive and negative impact.
Negative impact
When my aunt compare me to my cousins who have a good job and making a good money I have felt self pity thinking that they could buy what they want and they could go wherever they want to go.
It makes my self worth down thinking that I can find a job if I want but still I choose to be a full time mom and housewife.
Positive impact
On the other hand, comparing ourselves to others will also bring positive impact if we look at it as a challenge and inspiration in life.
When I see my friends posting pictures that they travel to a wonderful place, I don't think negative but instead I make it as an inspiration and a challenge to find some source of income, learn to save, so someday I can visit that place or I can travel too.
I am also being challenged to enjoy and be grateful for what I have.
A message for you and me
There were times in our life that we compare ourselves to others.
Life is wonderful and full of blessings but it will depend on how we look at it.
Let's take a moment to think about this.
They have a big house and lot while me living in a small house in a squatter's area waiting for a demolition team.
I have a small house to live in, a shelter in the time of rain and can protect us from the heat of the sun.
Others are living under the bridge, sleeping along the roads with some carton and sacks to protect them from cold.
They have a good paying job while me unemployed, house wife and full time mom.
I am unemployed because I choose to take care of my son. I am with him since he was a baby. I know when his teeth starts to grow, I first heared his first word - mama, I see his first ever step, I heared his first ever laugh and saw his first ever smile. I can play with him along anytime of the day. I can give him food when he is hungry and give water to drink when he is thirsty. I can give him the miraculous healing when he is hurt by something. My hug and kiss will stop him from crying.
Some working mothers wish to have that moment with their kids.
They could eat in a fancy restaurant, can afford different fast food while me will just depend on what I and my husband will cook.
I am thankful to eat food that we prepared. Grateful to God for giving food on our table and never leave us hungry.
Other people don't have even porridge to eat.
They could buy nice clothing, shoes and bags while me having a simple dress, one pair of shoes and a single bag.
I am happy to have clothes to protect my body, shoes to protect my feet and a bag to put my things.
Others don't have clothes and just walking everywhere bare footed wishing to have atleast a slipper.
The simpliest thing that you have, others are wishing to have it.
Let's be grateful and be contented for what we have. Being contented does not also mean that you will stop in there, but instead you will continue to do your best to make your life more better. Be happy for them and make them an inspiration to strive more.
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I love your contribution dear. Sincerely, it's normal to compare but we shouldn't let it affect us negatively.