The Backstabbers, Is Saving The Friendship Worth The Effort?

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February 23, 2021

Have you ever experienced being backstabbed by someone you thought is your friend or by those you considered as a family?

When you are around, backstabbers will say good things about you, will give you a helpful attitude, treat you as a real friend, or even let you feel like you are as close as a family to them, and promises you of trustworthiness. But when you turn around, they will gonna stab your back and will tell others how a hopeless waste of space you are.

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At work, backstabbing is a way to make you look bad and the backstabber appear better. Those people are actually coward and want to gain an upper hand and garner more power. They like making up stories or exaggerate minor mistakes to stir up conflict and drama. They want to pull you down so they can replace your position. Because they are insecure and envious. But many don't know that those kinds of people are actually vulnerable and angry with themselves and the world, so they want to see other people going at each other's throats or seeing other people falling.

A backstabbing friend will tell lies about you to take the upper hands and to destroy you. What is more hurting is when you showed them kindness and considered them as friends, but when you're not around, they will indulge in poisonous gossip about you. Discovering the dark side of a friend will make you think if saving your friendship will worth the effort.

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Backstabbing has become part of our lives already because this act happens to almost everyone at some point in life. However, the betrayal of a trusted friend or even colleagues only inflicts pain and will cause an untreatable wound of stab at your back.

Do you have friends who are full of flattery only to win your trust and disguise their unsavory motives?

Do you have friends or colleagues who always deny their role in spreading bad rumors about you?

Do you know someone great at making at you but will act like a guilty party when you confronted her/him?

Then you have backstabbers in your life.

This can also happen in the virtual world. You feel comfortable and thought you are part of the circle of virtual friends, but on the other side of the group, they are actually gossiping about you. And some will misunderstand your actions and they will pretend that they are on the same boat as you, that they are in favor of you, that they look after your best interests. But on the other side, they are deeply jealous, envious, and pathological, and will create a misconception about your actions.


Do you think you are not a backstabber?

Thinking negatively and telling lies about others is backstabbing.

Being unhappy and envious of other people's success is backstabbing.

Wanting to gain the upper hand or outshine others is backstabbing.

And pretending to be so good in front of others is backstabbing.

When you feel like you have been backstabbed by someone, you think of the negative thoughts you had about that person. That is because we are all connected. That is because our thought is projected out into the world and it can bounce back through other things like KARMA. It can be through the physical body of other people which will serve as a way to reflect back on your own thoughts.

People gossip and badmouth others, and the misconceptions can also ruin the integrity and reputation of other people, and even the smallest thing can make the situation worse. Do not let your friendship ruin by rumors, gossips, misconceptions, and backstabbing.

Just always remember the golden rule: "Do not do unto others what you don't want others done unto you." Always do good things so GOOD KARMA will bounce back to you.

Thanks for reading @Jane

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I haven't experience being backstabbed and I don't think I backstabbed a friend either. But there's someone here, a neighbor, our family was so nice to them. Wala silang connection sa kuryente so pinaconnect ni papa for free pero isang ilaw lang and that's better than kandila ang gamitin nila, pero instead of being thankful nadiscover namin na pinagnanakawan pala kami ng kuryente kung ano anong gamit na yung sinasaksak nila without our knowledge. They also act nice, pero pag umaalis kami, yung mga gamit namin ninanakaw, I guess that's backstabbing πŸ™„

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3 years ago

Good for you......keep singing that song

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3 years ago

Hala grabe.. Until now anjan padn? Kapal moks yun

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3 years ago

My notification to this was got trashed with the lot.... I loved this one. Precisely true that the backstabbers will do all these things. But the world we get and see is the one we create for ourselves through other. They are us but they don't really matter,we control everything so when we let go of control flow steps in and when flow comes to play oh it's a whole new consistency.

This is the best of your work. Its true and pure to the last bit!

Good read!

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3 years ago

I don't know but I feel like someone is doing it to you. Just an observation in your posts. πŸ˜…haha. If there is., it's his/her loss. Eto yung mga taong mahirap makita sa una pero pag tumaggal you will feel it na lang. haha. Sana tumigil tigil sila kakaganyan dahil madami nang problema mga tao para dumagdag pa sila. haha but yeah most of them are working in a company. Yung mga taong puro salita pero kulang sa gawa. πŸ˜… tapos kapag ikaw naangat eh dami napupuna tapos sa iba ipagsasabi. Naku, naku makapastress. haha

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3 years ago

You think so? Kahit naman cguro sino nan backstabbed na.. Kahit ako, ikaw, tayo dto..d natin namamalayan Kc naging normal nlng yan sa mundo. Pro kung yun ay makakasira ng reputation at dignidad ng ibang tao.. Anay unacceptable yun.

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3 years ago

ay totoo yan. Yung ipapublic pa lahat ng mga napapansin sayo ganun. πŸ˜…di na lang nila sarilihin eh kaso magkakaiba talaga tayo eh. But did you know na sa Japanese normal yung ganyan sa kanila? Nung nabasa ko to sila una ko naalala based on my experience.

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3 years ago

Oh, been there! Nkaranas na rin ako walking at work like a headless chicken. And im so sorry for that person, coz Ive seen her how she suffer when bad karma hit her back.

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3 years ago

When karma hits tlga. Mas malala pa sa ginawa

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3 years ago

Ever. I even received frequent stabs from behind. I was excommunicated for telling the truth and a friend who is a liar is accepted by many friends because his tongue is sweet and clever to make other people happy.

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3 years ago

They are the dangerous kind of people in this world 🀣🀣

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3 years ago

do not give them resistance, just know that they are not good, and close yourself from them, sensitive things you should never reveal so they don't know more, Remain a good friend, but must take care of yourself, keep up the spirit.πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡πŸ˜‡πŸŒ·πŸŒ·πŸŒ·

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3 years ago

Buti nlang sa work namin di ganun tsaka we are performance based so kahit ano pang backstab gawin if performer laban pa rin...

There are people actually dont know how to deal with their admiration towards others. There could also be some cases that they envy others and would start to destory someones reputation... But I believe meron na ngayon batas dyan sa mga chismosa n rin hahaha pro if you feel and think theyre not worth of your time better to keep distance and just be civil.

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3 years ago

Haha. Sana nga meron. Dami for sure makukulong 🀣🀣

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3 years ago

Well, if that person has caused you so much harm and toxicity then it's not worth it to save the friendship. One doesn't want to be in a toxic relationship and everyone deserves peace within themselves. πŸ˜…

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3 years ago

Tama..better have few friends than many fake ones

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3 years ago

Yes, many times po, at work, thought some of my workmate r my friends pero kpag nkatalikod na po aq eh iba na ang gngwa't cnsbi nla po, lol, so i just stayed with those who's really true at me po, it's hard to have a true friend po at work 'coz most of the people there happens to envy or get jealous of u po, lol, mabuti pa po ung highschool friends q po, 'til now, mgkakaibigan prin po kmi, though i'm not saying i'm perfect n didn't do something bad po pero lgi q po naalala ung cnbi po ng tatay q na mhrap po na mging gnun, dpat daw po totoo n ndi po traydor na titirahin daw kau kpag nktalikod na daw po kau

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3 years ago

Kaya nga iilan lng true friends ko.. Kaht workmates hndi rn mapagkakatiwalaan

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3 years ago

Opo, mhrap po tlga, aq po ilan lng po ung tnturing na kaibigan po sa work n mostly po lalaki pa po, salamat po sa upvote, bhira nlng po sa panahon ngaun ung ndi po backstabber po, lol, lalo na po sa work

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3 years ago

Keep on loving them and show them that even they do to you..you still show love to them

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3 years ago

Diko pa naman naeexperience yan, or baka may gumaganyan na di sakin diko lang nahuhuli. Pero mabait kasi ako non ee, wala akong paki sa kung ano mang ginagawa ng friend ko sa buhay nila at diko din naman sila pinupuna, kaya siguro wala naman haha.

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3 years ago

Haha. D mo alam.. Kc nga nakatalikod ka πŸ˜…

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3 years ago

Ahahahaha, ay ambot haha.

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3 years ago

Kaya ayoko magtiwala sa totoong taoπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ

Ive tried so many times trusting and saving them and even act like an idiot... At the end backstab lahat ang tanggap ko..

Kaya puro virtual lang friends ko minsan duda pa ako. 😁😁

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3 years ago

Kahit virtual friends may backstabbers din πŸ˜…πŸ€£πŸ€£ mas mganda parn may real friends

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3 years ago

Never had a real friend..

Lahat ng nakasaluhanko sa real life I'm just a fool and toy them.

Kaya stick nlang ako sa social/virtual friends.

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3 years ago

Seriously? Kht isa?

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3 years ago

To be honest none. πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ˜

Dahil kasinsa peys ko at hitsura ko. 😁😁

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3 years ago

Grabe.. Wala sa fes yan. Nsa personality yan 😊

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3 years ago

I guess , at some point in our life, we have backstabbed someone. And its not something that we should be proud of. And being backstabbed by someone lalo an kung di mo inaasahan an gagawin nya yun sayo is very heartbreaking. At tingin ko di an din worth it an isave pa un friendship an un.

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3 years ago

Depende cguro te kung magbabago

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3 years ago

Sabagay, may point ka naman..

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3 years ago

In some little ways, we have to admit that we may have unknowingly backstabbed a few people at some point in our lives in the past. So if we are backstabbed by others to some small degree, we just have to accept it as "justice served." However, there are really friends of ours who strategize some backstabbing schemes to destroy us, and that's another story.

Now, about the question if it's worth saving the friendship, here's my opinion: You have to weigh down what you and your friend have been through throughout the duration of your togetherness -- has he/she given you more pains than joys? Or more problems than solutions?

If the answer is yes, then you have to ditch that friend for good. There are much better friendships that may have just been waiting for you to hop into. Some people ain't just worth it. It would be better for us and for them, that we'd just go in separate directions.

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3 years ago

Thanks

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3 years ago

I do not know if I have friends like that. 🀭🀣🀣 But I do not tell all my where abouts to people. If they are galet, well bad for them, they can't have a deep slumber. Hihi.

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3 years ago

For me i don't care if someone backstabbing me, as long as I didn't do anything to harm them or harm me physically im not gonna do anything to fight them back. Mananahimik na lang ako sa gilid at makikipagplastikan .πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

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3 years ago

Okay lng yan.. But what if magspread ang wrong rumors at maniwala ibang tao? πŸ˜…

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3 years ago

I do believe in Karma. She's someone we don't wanna mess with. Backstabbing friends? I have a lot of those especially in the past. Its better to have just one friend as long as she/he is loyal and real to you.

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3 years ago

True.. Quality matters over quantity 😁

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