Am I Good Enough? (A Self-Reflection)

No matter how good or bad we are people will always have their own opinion of us. Surely there are people that will look at us and judge us with mistakes of the past or even what they heard about us. The best thing to do is to ignore the noise and focus on being good.

Loosen up! Thats what I usually tell myself years before when Im so uptight trying to be pleasing for others, I always think what others might have to say or not. Anyways, the Bible Colossians 3:23 taught me that our life is not to please men but God alone. So, enough of people pleasing and lip service, be good because this is pleasing to God.

Good going Jane, you must not let your life be defined by the opinions and views of others. If do that you will stall, you will never make progress.

But maybe I deserve to be judge, to be backstabbed, and to be hurt. Maybe I deserve to get their painful feedback.

You don't deserve to be judged or to be hurt No one deserves it especially when you are just showing who you really are but it's human nature and we hardly avoid it. We commit mistakes and correcting it is a good thing to do and if they still judge you after that, then it's already their fault. Maybe accepting the fact that we can please everyone is important para masabi nting we are good enough 😅 kaya lang same tayo especially when I was younger, sobrang iniisip ko lahat ng mga posibleng pangit na sasabihin nila sa bawat galaw ko

Of course you're good enough to reflect on yourself which others really don't do.. just e yourself ksi whatever we do, meron at merong sasabihin ang tao khit very cautious tau. What's important is wla taung inaapakan

I think either we are good or bad, we are always judged by people who are around us, who are just there to notice our each and every little thing. And you are right in this sense, that in competing with all this judgement, we become introverts. Though this judgement gives us confidence of it is in positive vibes but mostly the judgements are negative, to make the person feel inferior or something else as we all experience it....but the only solution to it is that we should stay away from the ones, who are always ready to hate us. But yes we all find some people who accept us with our flaws. But i think people should stop doing all these things because there are so many people who can't survive along with all those negativities.

For me.. Ito ang aking masasabi tungkol sa akong sarili hindi po ako yung taong nagtatanim ng galit kasi ang nasa isip ko ang panginoon nga hindi nagtatanim ng galit sa mga tao kahit na ito ay sobra ng makasalanan, isa akong mahiyaing tao isa akong madamdamin na tao pero hindi ako yung taong pinapakita kong dinadamdam ko ang mga masasakit na salita galing sa ibang tao lumaki din ako na takot sa mga taong mapang husga sa lahat ng lugar ay hindi maiiwasan na may ganyang tao kahit na wala kang ginagawang mali pag uusapan at pag iisipan ka ng mali ..sabi mo nga po lahat tayo ay may sariling opinion at lahat ng tayo ay nag kakamali. Tama ka po dahil wala naman isinilang ang panginoon na perpekto, unang labas palang naten sa ating sinapupunan ay makasalanan na tayo at hindi perpekto, may ganyan akong naging kaibigan kaklase ko po siya hanggang ngayon ay kaibigan ko padin siya dati takot siyang lumabas nasa loob lang siya ng bahay dahil siya ay may kapintasan iniisip niya kapag lumabas siya pipintasan siya kung ano ano ang mga sasabihin ng mga tao sa paligid niya. Isinilang po siyang maliit na tao kung tatawagin ay pandak .. Kaya ako naisip ko lagi ko siyang sinamahan at pinalakas ang loob na kahit ano man ang sabihin ng ibang tao wag mong pakinggan ang isipin lang ay nasat tama ka at alam namin sa sarili namin na wala kaming ginagawang masama .😊

In point of view po, I always say, "I am worthless" "I can't do the right thing" .. sorts of negative vibe keep on surrounding me because I keep on thinking that way. I always overthink, but soon I came to realized that I should look forward and opened-up my mind to see the real beauty of the other side of the picture. I should embraced what and who I am regardless of how others might look at me.

As a piece of advice, I would say, "JUST BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE!" You are the one should carry yourself and just don't mind what other people see and say to you, as long as you are happy with that and not harming them.

Just live your life as you wanted. As what my professor said, " YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOURSELF!"

God Bless po sa inyo😇

I already read your childhood story I can guess how much and tough conditions you have seen in your life. It is life good and bad things are all part of life. Why I asked the people of your side when I know how generous and kind mind you have. Dear!you should ignore the people who spread negativity and give love to those who deserve. In your Question,"Am I good enough". My answer with no hesitation is, "Yes, you are good enough my dear"

We can't really make everyone happy. People who talk behind you, are behind for a reason. You are ahead of them 😊

I say, do what you think is right, but pause to consider the consequences. Same as in speaking. If we utter certain words, what happens? And if we don't, will the world turn upside down?

Jane and my personality is like same introvert here doesn't like to talk too much or free with anyone and also each and every thing is in myself also what a coincidence

You're just fine, the only advice i can give u po is mdyo bwas-bwasan lng po ung pgpuna po sa ibng tao po, ung iba mkakaintindi n pgsasabihan po kau dhil tnturing po kaung kaibigan n naiintindihan po un kng bkit dhil first time lng po sa buhay nya ang gnung bgay o sa gnung larangan po though at the same time ndi po maiwasang mshock o mgdamdam but then again, ndi po mgndang mgtnim po ng glit sa kapwa n ms mainam po na sa personal o kau-kau lng po ang ng-uusap at ndi na po pnpaalam online o sa ibng way po, all of us po's entitled to his or her opinion po pro dpat po pinag-iisipan din po ung mga cnsbi po, ang knomment q lng po d2 eh base po sa experienced q po sa pgwowork po sa hotel for almost 13 years n hlos lhat po dun eh naencounter o naexperience q po personally

I'm an introverted person as well and people start calling me KJ(kill joy) for not attending occassions with crowd ,friends, relatives and many more but I'm just avoiding their toxicity. For someone like me that had a bad past , I'm sure that in their minds I'm being judge . I still attend occassions but with real people not a fake one. But after I had the harderst set backs in my life, I don't care what people might think about me anymore , they may give their opinions but they cannot dictate what will I do. JUST BE REAL AND REAL PEOPLE WILL LOVE AND VALUE YOU.

This is what i learned in dealing with that scenario. Whatever they said, whatever they do as long as you know what you are doing the hell with them. You are not born in this life to please them. And pleasing anybody won't do you good. So just be yourself and enjoy life.

There's one I can really vouch for based on my personal experiences - that it is freeing when you start to NOT mind what other people think of you, of what you do or say. Never mind if they judge you, talk about you, stab you at the back, or whatever, as long as you know in your heart and soul that you're not trampling others along your way. People will talk no matter what you do, so might as well do what makes you happy :)

On the other hand, it's also important to evaluate our selves and our actions (as you mentioned, self-reflection) not to impress others but to better ourselves.

In my side, I always think that I'm not good at all aspects that's why my parents and friends keep telling me why I'm very negative thinker or pessimistic person. I'm not confident to all things and I keep on discouraging myself to others. That type of me was a change due to dissapointment feedback from other person. After hearing some negative feedbacks I decided to discourage myself first before the others will to me. In that way I feel better and easy to accept peoples criticism. And less the hurt feel.hihih

I am always frank and I know it's not a good habit..I'm controlling it now for rge sake of people around..I don't praise people just because i need to. isay what i want to say but with caution now.

I answered this on your post in NC that I'm the worst but you gain lessons.

God Bless maam😊😊

"But the more I express myself, the more I am being judged. The more I become real, the more people call me fake."

Relatable, ppl always tend to talk whatever you do. I also talk frankly most especially when other ppl are being mean to others. But, I'm trying to become more kind with my words without sugar coating it because ppl have different level of sensitivity. I now always try to give constructive criticism and filtering my words because sometimes my friends told me my words are being mean, even tho i just want to make things straight.

But then what important is we learn and adjust ourselves not for other but for ourselves.