Sharing Life together
The partners may be faced with the question of whether they plan to change certain characteristics of their mates after marriage. They should realize, however, that they cannot be assured that any changes will be brought about. The Minister may lead them in a discussion of areas of compatibility and help them to define the activities they plan to share together and those which they desire to do separately.
Review of the Reading Material
The couple should be given opportunity to evaluate the material they have been reading. Perhaps they would want to comment on methods of showing affection to one another, the sensitivity of the husband to the wife, and adjustments during the honeymoon.
The partners need to recognize that controversy cannot be avoided. They must face it and learn how to work through their difficulties. The attitude of each partner is very important during controversies. They arise because of self-interest. They are solved by consideration and concern (love) for the well-being of the partner and by a recognition that one is biased by his self-interest. Both partners must assume the same attitude and be willing to cooperate. Otherwise, one will take advantage of the other.
Incidental Matters
The couple should be given opportunity to review any of the areas discussed, and time should be given to any questions which they still have. By this stage of the counseling session, each should be comfortable in discussing matters freely with his partner and with the counselor. The counselor may feel that some areas need further elaboration.
Planning the Wedding Ceremony
The wedding is a significant event of lifelong consequence to the couple. The wife is usually given the privilege of planning the details of the wedding ceremony. Usually she will need some counsel and guidance. The counselor should be acquainted with marriage customs in his culture and should be available to make suggestions if he is called upon. The Minister as marriage officer should be flexible enough to fit into the plans of the couple concerning the ceremony. However, he should reserve the right to assure that the ceremony honors Christ. Marriage is not just a relationship between a couple but is to be according to the will of God. A successful marriage must be based upon divine will, therefore, the ceremony should reflect God's purpose and plan for marriage.
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