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Employment going in tandem with a depressed boyfriend is no joke, i swear. Everything's been so draining to me recently. Will try to be around tomorrow
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Just take your time over there and regain your strength, you need rest too.
I am resting.. kind of feverish though
have good rest, did you start your job already?
I started on Saturday then my shift changed from tths to mwf this week so today i just slept
Oh, I see. Rest well then.. I hope you will get used to it soon.
Hope so too. It's killing me that i can't even leave the dorm
Haha..is your bf being demanding or what? Just take your time. .hows your work btw?
No, he legit had a relapse and I'm constantly worried. Work is okay, not that different from college, really. Just hate that work starts at 6am and i finish at 5pm
Maybe he is just afraid that you can find someone attractive than him in your workplace šš¤
That's not the case... his depression is on a relapse and it's worse this time..
Oh, I'm sorry about the joke. Sorry.
It's alright... misunderstandings happen
relax... make your bf feel the same. Maybe he needs more rest.
He doesn't need a lot of rest anymore, he needs to go back to seeing his psychiatrist
what's wrong with him? why psychiatrist? is he emotionally unstable?
Very bad relapse on his depression. He needs to see his psychiatrist else something bad might actually happen
oh, no. I'm worried as well. But I hope he gets better the soonest. But how if he refused to see a someone who can help him to get better. Even you.
I do too. I don't know what to do or say to him when he's gotten this bad in just a few days
The worst thing is for him to be by himself atm. He needs to be seeing someone - a psychiatrist, family, you. I hope everything turns out alright, and I fear for your health as well. This is definitely putting a strain on you.
I agree but he refuses to go out to see me and even his psychiatrist. He just wants to die again and I've been sick all day, i couldn't check up on him muc even if it's my day off today
Gosh, that's such a terrible fix! I pray he comes out of that relapse, I really do. And I pray you get well soon too, you can take time off to fix things back there before coming on here.
I don't know how to fix this... his relapses were never this worse... and even me visiting this morning did nothing
I understand the feeling, but don't put excess strain on ourself. You're doing your best, but atm it's up to him to decide what to do.
He might leave me too and i can't take any more deaths this year. That's why I'm this worried
I can't say I am surprised to hear that. I wouldn't visit the psychiatrist either plus prefer to be left alone. Any idea about the type of depression?
He was willing to before, for me but now... i don't know anymore. His depression is close to mental instability or so he told me
He knows himself best. No meds? If so the wrong one's. It's hard to live on if there's no light.
He doesn't like his meds, makes him throw up which is why he can't gain weight and that's the only med that worked on him too
There's no need to feel sick after taking them. There are so many. Perhaps a doctor can prescribe some different for only a few days. Just to make him feel a bit better and drag him out of the darkness. In most cases, it's for 5 days only.
He took his for a long time. Don't think he'll be willing to change them and again, he won't come out so i can't even think of any way he could get his meds
I feel you and wish both of you strength but above all fun. Can't he sneak out for a moment? š
He refuses to go out so i honestly just pray for him. I tried going to his place this morning but he wouldn't come out either, he just wanted to be alone
Take care of yourself first, next you can kick him outside. If that doesn't help the question remains how seriously his wish should be taken.
I don't think i can go back to his house anymore... he kicked me out today so for now i just need to give him time. Just have to check up on him
Is there anyone else who can check on him? The doctor doesn't pay a visit if someone is in a crisis? How about helplines for 'birds of a feather'. Some just like to be left alone and find a way, somehow. To be honest this is the hardest thing to deal with and I doubt there's a solution. ā¹
He lives with his parents so he won't do anything radical but they don't understand his depression and they will not allow him to get that much aid nor go out. I still can't stop him from doing small things like cutting or stabbing himself in places that aren't seen
You need to bring him to a psychiatrist. Does he have medication or some kinda support system?
He doesn't and refuses to get any, that's why I've just been worried af
Btw, what's the reason why he is gettinf depressed?
He had a relapse because of things at home then something i said without knowing it was a trigger for him. A bad one too
So you have an argument? Well, depressed person can be treated if the person is willingcto be treated. Maybe he needs some time to think. A piece of advise, always bother him by asking what he is doing.
It's not an argument but just a very offensive joke on his end which i called out, didn't think those words were a trigger to him. I constantly ask, and check if he ate something
I see. Looking out for a person with depression is difficult. You don't know what's going on their mind unless they speak out. When he is find, you should schedule for a check up with a psychiatrist or enroll him with some kind of support group.
I know what's in his head and it's always been about dying. All ways to die when he's in this state and i can't even leave him alone for even s minute when he's in a state like this
That's an emergency. Does he have a family with him? Or just the two of you living together?
He's living with his family but none of them know depression like i do so they won't have him checked nor will they do anything to help him
Did you talked to his parents? Maybe they can understand their son if you explained it what's going on
They don't talk to me, his mom doesn't like me for some reason and his dad is just apathetic about everything so his parents won't ever help him get out of it, if anything they just make it worse for him
Sad to hear that. Well, i don't know what to say anymore. I know its hard for you. Sorry can't do anything to help.
Same man, same. I appreciate the suggestions though. I'm just praying he pulls out of this one too
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