This is the most controversial issue being addressed but the truth remains that life or marriage are both important.
The piece, will look at: life, marriage, why most marriages have issue ,domestic violence and perspective of you who has been married.
Life is beautiful, good, enjoyable, unique when you understand it. Life is pull, push and helping people. Life is a gift given by God to humans.
Life is respecting others. Life is placing value on what's dear to God (marriage).
Marriage is the institution ,instituted by God for couples institute with him. Marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman, in matrimony.
Marriage is the agreement of a man and a woman to live according to God's ordinances. Marriage is the union of a matured man and matured woman.
The reason why most marriages have issues is because the couple's have lost touch of why they got married.
The man no longer respects the woman he took as a wife. Most men have failed to take responsibility of providing for the family.
The woman nags; a woman that nags is like Covid 19, you see different cases everyday.
She is no longer respecting the man that married her, she is comparing her marriage with that of others.
She no longer has trust for the husband. She now prefers the dick outside than that of her husband, which leads to domestic violence.
Dosmestic violence is the beating, fighting, physically molesting of one's spouse. That is, a process of subjecting your spouse to constant physical abuse. That is getting physical with your spouse.
The level of domestic violence is second to noon in most homes, yet the woman is comfortable staying in that marriage.
Most ladies will say:
"He was good to me before but I don't know what happened all of a sudden, i believe he will change".
"The way he makes love me no other person is doing it like that".
"After we engage in fighting or there's domestic violence the level of love making increases, I drive satisfaction in it".
"If we don't fight or without quarrel, it's as if; there is no love in the marriage".
"The fighting and quarreling is like check and balances for us in the marriage".
"I don't have money to pay rent I don't have money to start my life, my child how will he survive, if I leave the marriage".
Regrettably, it's annoying to hear most women say these things. You see a woman stay in a marriage, where she is being used as a punching bag.
The most disturbing part after she has finished receiving the beating, another person will now pay for your treatment, which you sustained from your spouse.
How, can you be in a marriage where you are used as a preparetory for a wrestling contest or you are used training for weight lifting.
In every union , there will be some ups and downs. Because you guys are different people and from different backgrounds who agreed to be in that union.
The man or the woman may have their issues no doubts, as a human being
There should be an avenue or ways to understand your partner. That thing he or she is always complaining consciously avoid it.
There should be room for dialogue and communication. Marriage is for adults (matured mind) not for children
Marry a man or a woman that you can take a bit of there nonsense, if you know you cannot take the person's nonsense please do not marry, marriage is not by force.
Listen, the moment you die, your spouse would move on or they will either remarry. But, your chapter is closed.
If you know you still want to continue with the marriage please look for a way to live harmoniously with your spouse
Understand each other, talk to each other, love each other and let the peace of God reign in the marriage.
To be married is an honor, it gives you respect as a human being. To be married brings blessings.
To be married is sweet, if you are with the right person. To be married brings God's presence to your home.
Women, please understand your husband. Don't do what he does not like, always pray for him, talk good about him; with your friends and family.
Treat him as your king, you will get the respect of a queen.
Men learn to; love your wife's, take your wife out, give her a treat, surprise her with gifts. Some weeks take her to a good hotel , spend time with her.
Don't relegate her to the background, the side chick is taking all the glory. Always see your wife as the girl you were toasting then.
Life and Marriage is sweeter when you live peacefully with your spouse. If you're involved in domestic violence please stop. Learn to love your spouse again.
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"Understand each other, talk to each other, love each other and let the peace of God reign in the marriage." I love this article! I learned as I am about to enter the next chapter of my life :) thank you for this!