The Pain Of Losing A Loved One Never Dies

Losing a loved one is something no one can prepare you for. People will tell you it’s time to move on, that time heals all wounds, and that there’s no sense in constantly grieving. It’s difficult to not feel lonely when no one around you seems to know the first thing about your pain. Your favorite memories are suddenly painful reminders of what you once had; and your mind can’t shut off the memories of laughter, joy, and even arguments that you had with that person.

Pain doesn’t just disappear overnight, but there’s no denying that it does get better. It just never really goes away totally. I lost someone really close to me about 15 years ago. It was one of the hardest experiences I had to deal with in life, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. I really didn’t know how to cope with it, let alone how to move on. I didn’t know what to do next, and I felt very alone. His name is Nues, and he was like an elder brother to me. I still remember that night vividly. My cousin was the one who brought the news of his death to our house back then. It was a Saturday and I remember cry all through the night. I cried so hard till I had no more strength to cry.

It was a more painful loss for Nues family as he was the only son. Sadly, I am starting to forget his face now. I didn’t keep any of his pictures. It is hard too, and there weren’t lots of smartphones around then.

The pain of losing a loved one can’t be described in words. It is an immediate and intense sense of loss that envelops everything. It feels like your heart has been turned inside out. How do you describe the pain of losing a loved one? You don’t. Not only do you have to deal with the fact that they might not be here anymore, but also that you may not be able to talk to them or see them anymore. This can cause people to break down and even develop depression.

 As a way to cope with the loss of a loved one, many people turn to art or writing as a way to express their feelings about the loss. There are many ways to express your feelings. The important thing is that you find what works for you. One way that you can get your feelings out into the open is by writing, drawing, or doing some other form of creating. In most cases, this will help you feel better about your situation.

There are times when it feels like our hearts have been ripped out of our chests and all of our emotions have been replaced by a deep ache that won't go away. The more you love someone, the deeper the pain can be when they're gone.

When a person you love dies, it's hard to imagine a day without pain. But you will find hope. And as hard as it may be right now, you will smile again.The key is to know that it takes time. You will grieve, but eventually your heart will mend itself back together again just like a new skin grows over a wound, but the mark will still be there. Always reminding you of the painful experience. 

I kinda use my experience with Nues in a weird way now. Haha. You know that situation where something is funny and you really need to laugh, but you can’t. Like whenever a professor makes a funny mistake during lecture or during a presentation. What I do in this kinda of situation is; remember the day Nues died and I’d feel sad immediately. I don’t know if it is wrong or right to do this. 

I did omit a lot of things about that day, maybe someday I’ll be able to really write about what happened. 

Continue to Rest In Peace, Nues. I’ll always love you brother.