I am poor at keeping up with people, I always try hard to stay in touch with friends but I usually slip off somehow. I don't know if it happens naturally or I am just been lazy to keep up with calling, texting, hanging out, and so on.
That's not the point, I was forced to drop about 30% of that habit because as of now, I am still terrible at it but I try my possible best to keep in touch with people. Life has somehow taught me lessons about keeping in touch with people but I find it hard not to make those mistakes again.
Every person you come across in life has a role to play in our journey, we don't know what they will do until the time comes and it is not necessarily going to be about their first approach, some people would be good and some would teach us lessons the hard way. My journey in life till this point I am today has been about grace, it has been about connecting edges to edges, and the people I never thought would have an impact on my life have done massive things but I never kept in touch with them.
A lot of people know my story, growing up wasn't fun. From the point I finished secondary school, I have been trying my possible best to become someone in life but how would a nobody like me achieve my dream when there is no one to help?
I don't care about how independent you are in life, you still need people. It doesn't have to be for financial reasons, there are things we still look up to people for. Even the richest men in the world still look up to some people for things we might not know about.
In my case, I looked up to people for everything I needed to survive and become someone in life. I feel stupid doing away with those people, what if their journey with me doesn't end there, what if they have bigger opportunities I can get from them, what if I will need them at a crucial stage in life.
Doing away with them wasn't intentional, I just notice I gradually lose the connection we have and I will somehow be trying to tie the loose ends of our relationship when the need arises again which is a very terrible habit.
Today a family who hasn't reached me for a long time called and I was surprised because I wouldn't have believed it would come to pass even if a prophet told me it would happen.
What would someone whose parents have it all need from someone like me?
He needed a school survey in a part of Lagos, I didn't have the data as well but he knew I could help him out since I worked with a marketing brand and we were into school sampling, it is an activity where we visit schools to showcase products.
I told him I was going to give him feedback but it would be a difficult one for me to do as well because I haven't said hello to my former boss since I left the job myself, despite being an open and jovial person. I was surprised when he sent me a birthday message on WhatsApp last year and after replying to him, I never attempted to reach him again.
The problem is how do I connect with him? How do I make him feel that I deserve the help?
Seeing my call would make him believe I want to say hello but he would feel disappointed if the request follows.
I thought about it deeply and he is not the only one I have ended the connection with, he must surely feel the same way I felt when I got the call.
I was talking to someone about it and she said, " I neglected a lot of people as well, I feel ashamed to call them for help today". I want to believe that we are not the only persons guilty of this habit, it is a common habit for many of us. We only remember some important people in our life when we need their help which is very bad, reaching out to them once in a while shouldn't be a problem especially when they have played a role in our lives.
This act doesn't stop between humans, some of us even behave like that to our creator. We don't remember God until we are in a tight situation and we need divine intervention, the worst of it is that some of us wouldn't even remember to say a thank you after God comes through for us.
The fact is that there is no excuse except if the person doesn't want to have anything doing with us due to reasons best known to them, and aside from that, technology has helped us breach lots of barriers when it comes to communicating with people regardless of their location across the world.
The good things some of them did for us can't be paid back probably because the exact favor can't return, they are in a better position than we are or some other reasons but keeping in touch with them would make them feel or know that they had impacted our life beautifully.
What's your excuse?
I bet you don't have one, I understand these things just happen naturally and it is better to make amendments immediately we realize how terrible we have been towards the beautiful people in our lives.
I believe that we all had a great weekend, mine was great until the rain caught me at the farm again. I am shivering while completing this article and I hope the cold would be gone by the time I wake up.
Wishing you all a beautiful day and a great night, thanks for reading.
Soy Mas menos parecida a ti en cuanto a la presa de llamar y contestar o enviar me sages. No sé porque pasan estas cosas pero pasan. Pensé era la única asi pero veo que no. Y al final me da alegría pues andaba como que asustada. Linda sea tu mañana y que tengas un feliz día mis saludos desde Cuba