Being a mother for a woman means giving up on herself.

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Have you become a woman who feels inadequate when you become a mother?

Don't worry, it means you are a mother now.

Why doesn't a father feel inadequate because they have a set of needs to do and they don't strive for more.

Mothers forget themselves and live only for their children.

A mother who slept soundly before she had a baby does not have this right after holding her baby in her arms.

Her eyes open repeatedly to check her baby's breathing.

Pregnancy is an important life period in which positive and negative emotions can be experienced. Even if this process evokes feelings of “happiness and joy” from the moment of receiving the news of pregnancy, many negative emotions can also be experienced: Anxiety, worry, uncertainty, guilt, inadequacy.

No doubt every woman has some basic instincts about being a mother. Thanks to these, the mother naturally has the ability to handle the pregnancy process and to properly care for her offspring after birth.

However, on the one hand, the excitement of bringing a child into the world, on the one hand, hormonal changes and physiological difficulties experienced during pregnancy, on the other hand, worries about the future and the "pressure to be the best" caused by modern life can undermine women's natural skills.

For this reason, it is known that many women experience feelings of inadequacy that starts with pregnancy and continues throughout the first months of motherhood. This situation sometimes lasts longer and is accompanied by emotional disturbances such as “Postpartum Sadness” and “Postpartum Depression”.

These disorders are seen in approximately 15% of women giving birth. The rapid decrease in estrogen, progesterone and adrenal gland hormones, which are very high towards the end of pregnancy, is one of the important causes of these problems.

They usually begin towards the end of pregnancy or in the first week of puerperium and appear as a sad, distressed, tearful mood. Mom's; they experience complaints such as fatigue, lack of joy, lack of energy, reluctance, not being able to enjoy life and apathy. In addition, the situation gets worse when trying to put in the effort and effort necessary to take care of the baby.

It is known that a significant portion of mothers who experience postpartum sadness or depression experience feelings of inability to care for their babies properly and depressive thoughts that their individual lives are over.

How is your dialogue with yourself? “It doesn't work”, “I can't do it”, “It's not the way I want it to be”, “Will it always stay like this?”… Stop if you find yourself saying these things often while caring for your baby and handling maternity chores. You are likely to be unfair to yourself.

What would you say to a friend in the same situation as you? “Anyone can do it. How would you comment to your friend who said "I guess I'm the only one who can't do it"? As a new mom, you would probably highlight to your friend, who was feeling inexperienced, what she's done so far and what she's been able to do wonderfully.

That's how, be your own best friend. Criticizing yourself doesn't make you a better mother. Remind yourself that you've accomplished a lot despite your messy sleep and diet. You are doing the best you can under these circumstances, believe it.

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