What would you advise him to do?

Still on the matter of marriage which we started discussing two days ago. According to @Olasquare article earlier on the subject, one of the major problems in relationships is a financial disagreement between couples. Since money does not start the relationship, I don't know what could have been responsible for financial disagreements between couples. This has become a major problem in our society today.

The issue of who should foot the bills is not a light matter in most homes of today. I am not against paying bills but where do you draw the line between each other's expenses? As a man, I wouldn't want my wife to be always bossing me. She should also appreciate my efforts in taking care of some bills when necessary.

As far as I am concerned, what should be more important to a man and woman today is their love for each other than anything else. Marriage is a special union that can only be achieved through God's favor. No matter the work of marriage, if the couple is prepared to make sacrifices for the other, marriage would be fulfilled.

I saw a post on Facebook posted by a young mother of one, who claimed her husband left her and her kid for a side chick because she was so obsessed with her own job as a career woman and that she is working to save money for her future. From the post, I could figure out what must have led the man to decide between leaving the marriage for a side chick. The woman is a career woman who is earning a decent amount of money for herself which she claimed she is saving for her future. This was all her obsession, which means she doesn't have time for her husband nor care about the family financial burden he is carrying on his shoulders.

Such cases are common in society today which has led to broken homes with children uncared for and suffering. However, what is shocking is the latest revelation made by a 45-year-old man who I knew so well about his issue with his wife concerning family finance.

Mr. Daniel work at a tertiary institution as a serviceman responsible for keeping the environment clean. He is only paid when school is in session, and I was told he is not paid any salary during holidays and public holidays. Mr. Daniel in his wisdom decided to open a small business for his wife to supplement their income and help in meeting some financial needs when necessary.

According to the man, his wife hasn't made any financial contribution in any form to the family upkeep for the 3 years the business started. He has been the one paying for every single thing the family needed to be carried. He has been paying school fees for his two children, feeding the family, clothing, and other needs as well as other household expenses without any assistance from his wife since she started the business. That's how they have been living and he dares not ask his wife for money and there is always quarreling and fighting any time the man asks about the financial report of the business.

How can this be? A man of 45 years old taking care of a family of 6 from low paying job for 3 years, and yet he doesn't have a woman's support or assistance to take care of the family. I tried to get Mr. Daniel to open up and speak to me about his situation, and I was told led to the topic of this article.

You see, there is more to the marriage or relationship than we have assumed from the superficial perspective. Mr. Daniel feels tired and frustrated because of the behavior of his wife toward him and their children in terms of finance. Since the tertiary institution in the country went on a strick there has been no salary for this man, he now has to do menial jobs to feed the family, and the wife can't help with the upkeep of the family until the husband resumes work when the strick vacation must have been over.

I learned that the wife sells every day and the proceeds go to no one but herself. I was also told that the wife is busy with the business to the detriment of the children. The man is unable to meet the school needs of his children because he has not been paid a salary, and the wife doesn't care about anything. Now, there is major trouble, Mr. Daniel is tired of his wife's behavior and wants out of the marriage because she has deprived him not just of support with money but her body as well. Mr. Daniel has spoken to me about his predicament, and to tell the truth, I was in tears.

What would you advise my friend to do in this situation? How can he divorce his wife and still keep the family together, some of you may say; "The wife is entitled to her money". Yes, she is entitled to her money because she labored for it, but she has to show concern about the family and the man she married.

The man wants out of the marriage but he doesn't want the children to be homeless, he doesn't want the wife to have an avenue to sell off their properties just to get the money she wants. What should he do?

What advice would you have for my friend? What would be the best thing for him to do in this situation? If you are in such a situation what would be the best you would do? Please join us in the comment box below and share your opinion on this article.