There is no correction in marriage once you get it wrong with your choice

There are many things in life that we can correct if we get them wrong in the first place. We can miss our direction and retract back to the right path.

We can mess up a recipe and try it again. We can even miscalculate and can retroactively correct it. But when it comes to marriage there is no correction. Once you get it wrong there's no coming off it.

A marriage is for life, and you shouldn't take it lightly. But when two people decide to marry, they vow to love and honor each other in sickness and health. If they say that oath and then break it, there is no turning back.

Marriage is a sacred institution to which there should be respect and reverence. And if you say your wedding vows sincerely, then you'll do everything you can to make your marriage work. However, there is no correction if you make a mistake in your choice of mate. For the rest of your life, you will live with the consequences of your choice.

After you say 'I do', there is no way to turn back. Which explains why it is so vital for you to be one hundred percent sure before taking that step.

Think seriously whether you are willing to make such a commitment; be objective with yourself. If you're not sure, then you can take a little time before making the decision.

After reading some articles about this subject earlier today, I started doing a review of all the marriage discussions I have made both virtually and physically. I began to imagine how many people have actually adhere to my teachings on marriage. Most people are not open to changes in their lives and marriage is no different. Just like some people stay in a job or they take a job at a new place without trying to learn the job or they try new foods without researching it first, many people enter into marriage in a similar approach.

The first thing that people often think about before going into marriage is if they love each other, but how do you actually defines the kind of love that a couple should have between themselves? So many people believe when they marry the love they have for their partner would grow with time, but that's is not often the case. Love in a marriage cannot grow beyond who you are. It's the person that you are before you get married that determine the person you will become in the marriage.

There's no way intimacy can grow when before the marriage there's no chemistry between the intending couple. You can never develop true intimacy when there was no flame of love before the marriage. That is the key that few get right.

In marriage, the love you have for each other is a mere reflection of how much love you have for yourselves pre-marriage. In addition, if for any reason, if you should be with the person you're getting married to and nothing's moving in your body and nothing pulling you to the one you're intimate with, you are in trouble.

That's the reason why most marriages encounters cases of infidelity and divorce in almost all cases. And that's why preparing yourself before you get married is so important, and why you shouldn't jump into a relationship with the first person who opens a door. But to get married, the other person must be suitable to your body and to your mind.

If you don't prepare for it in this way, you might lose the best marital experiences, for once you lose them, there's no correction for it.

As I mentioned in one of my articles on the subject of marriage, one of the qualities to look out for in your intending partner is "Capable hands". This means someone who is willing and able to take financial responsibilities when the need arises. This is not about the man only as most people may think, it's about the woman too.

It's so unfortunate how most women think about marriage when it comes to financial aspect and who should pay the bills. We see too many men as the bread winners in their marriages and almost every woman thinks it's the sole responsibility of the man to do that, and if by any chance, the woman thinks she's a princess that deserves special honor when she thinks she's the one who should take care of the finances.

There's trouble in so many homes in respect to handling family finances, and I think the problem could have been avoided if the couples know themselves well before getting married. A lady that so rely on a guys financially to meet every of her needs even when she is capable of doing so for herself would not change when married.

What I have noticed in many houses is that some women will borrow money to the men so the men have the money to give to them to go buy things they needed. As an example, take a woman who asked her man for some money, and at the time the man fortuitously had no money, so the woman said to the man 'You don't have any money now, but you should borrow from me, when you get some money you'll pay me back. ' That's the way most women live with their men in their marriages, every cent they spend for family needs must be reimbursed to them by their men. I fear such species!

Without a woman who has hands that can work and can develop financial responsibility, a man who makes his own money to meet financial needs cannot be happy with the woman he is about to marry. It's not about the money that the woman has that's the concern to a man, but a woman who can add value to him. A woman who can stand up to her man to take financial responsibilities when it comes to the family upkeep in the absence of the man, is the one that makes a man happy.

Before you get married, you need to prepare yourself sexually, financially, and be ready to sacrifice. I suggest you get involved in marital counseling. This way you can learn how to become a team and how to handle household affairs so that you can avoid situations that cause conflicts. If you make mistakes before getting married there's no room for correction, only God can help you out.