After publishing the article "There is no correction in marriage once you get it wrong" last night, I immediately thought of the love and sacrifice of my wife, to make me what I am today. It would seem absurd that I should be remembering this suddenly as if she had not been with me all these years. But the content of that article also make me think about my relationship, and the only person I could think of at the time was someone who died physically for me.
Yes, just as Christ Jesus died for me in the spirit to give me the right to stand with God, someone else dies for me physically so that I could have a proper place in life, and this person was none other than my wife. The Holy Scriptures say that the greatest love a person can have for his friend is to die for him. And she died for me. Although she is still alive and well with me, she has given her whole life to making me what I am today, I have so much to praise her for. If it weren't for her, I do not know where I might be today. Maybe making cocoyam farm at the back of my grandfather's building in the village, perhaps without hope of a future, or under the mercy of extended relatives.
I do not always say these things, no, not even to anyone, but they are buried deep in my heart and need to be reviewed at such times. It all started 15 years ago when we were just married when I was stricken with a terrible disease that almost took my life, but instead took something very important from me. You can imagine the pain when you lose something in your life that affects your public health. Life was never the same for me. But my wife stood by me. She would take me to almost every hospital she knew that might have the capacity to treat my ailment. It would be a real shame for many girls her age at that time to have a partner who she cannot present to people. But nothing like this ever happened to her, instead, she was more confident than me with her simple words "everything will be all right".
The fight to regain social fitness after the illness was not easy for me. It was a difficult time in my life, but for my wife, I was able to endure the pain and humiliation of outsiders who exploited my social misfit. The thing I love most about my wife is that her knees never failed to go down and she prayed for me both day and night. She is still that way today and I think it was her faith that convinced me to go into full-time evangelism after graduating from college.
I remember when it was time for me to go for a higher degree certificate course, after spending a year struggling with a social misfit. I wanted to skip those classes even though I was officially enrolled in the two-year course. I didn’t dare to deal with that difficult college life with my social upheaval. And besides, my long-term illness had made our financial situation worse. It was there that my wife did something deeply rooted in my heart so that I could stay with her every day of my life. I don't know the best way to tell this story. My wife stood for me and paid for my two years of study, even though our small business was financially strained. She works hard under the rain and in the sun to make sure I don't run out of money during my two years at school. You know, she still has to take care of our little boy who was not even one year old at the time. Such love and self-sacrifice are not easy to find in our world today.
Time is indeed the greatest healer. In my first year of two-year studies, I began to return to normal living as my health continued to improve. What a wonderful feeling it was to be able to mingle and relates with your classmates. But it all happened because of someone who was standing by me, believing me even if I couldn't believe it will be well. During the two years, I was in school, my wife would not fail to bring me money once every two weeks. She makes sure to come over and spends a good time with me to keep my focus on what I came to school to do.
As I look back on my life now and think back on what I once was, I see great changes and developments. My wife lets me do whatever I want without having to put much pressure on me. She would rather suffer instead of see me fail in my endeavors. Even now I'm trying to make a living as a writer, and still struggling to make headway, but she still gives me the chance to do what I love most. She wanted me to achieve success in whatever I chose. She always gives me a conducive environment for reading, thinking, and writing. She always brings me a cup of fruit juice to cool my senses and recharge my brain when I got stuck in thoughts.
I will always give it to her because her sacrifices brought me back to life. During those years of testing, it was almost as if I were walking dead or a living corpse. But she stood by me during the most difficult times, and that gives me the strength to try to get back to life. Sometimes I let worry about the future bother me and often overwhelm my emotions. But my wife has taught me that it is very helpful to turn those feelings into hope.
I know that an honest relationship may be a dance of giving and taking. This woman has given everything and I have to give everything too. I have to be very knowledgeable, and what I take should be commensurate with my contribution. My wife helped me get to know her better, and it was one of the best gifts I ever received. What more can I say about this woman who became for me a mediator and a ladder of success? With that, I can focus on my future, doing that every day my whole world has changed and grown.