You're 18 now, what next?
***The laws in this article is applicable to only 1 country***.
When I was a kid, whenever my dad and I are walking around our community just for a stroll, I see some thugs smoking and drinking then I'll be like "didn't their parents see them when they were turning this way, didn't they caution them against bad friends" I always put all the blame on their parents but now I think I've realized something.
As a kid celebrates his birthday every year, he's growing up and aging and he's having to face his life alone gradually. You can never hear a 1 year old baby say he's 1 year young, he's 1 year old meaning he's aging and growing old.
When you clock 16, you celebrate your sweet 16 not knowing you're going to another age where whatever decision you take will affect you for the rest of your human life. If you commit any offence at the age of 16, you can still be pardoned and just be taken to a remand home for you to seek redress, this is also applicable to the age 17.
Now you're 18, what next is in line for you? At this age 18, you have become a full fledged citizen of the country and you're no longer restricted to some certain human rights, at age 18, you can now vote whoever you want as your president, you can now take part in politics, you have access to all the human right, good right? What a wonderful thing it is to be in age 18.
In life there's a saying that ***" in every good, there's always a bad and vice versa"***
It is in this same age 18 that you have to make decisions on how you have to live your life and the decisions you make will affect your life either in a good way or in a bad way and this effect will be for eternity. Your parents won't decide what you'll put on to any occasion because they feel you're now of age to think and know what's best for you, this same age is where you'll begin to think on what business can you do to bring profit because you won't want to be a burden to your parents any longer since you're a *big boy* now
This same age is when you'll be able to be imprisoned for whatever wrong you commit, you won't be taken to a remand home because the law states that and you should have known the law by 18. So when you're about to clock 18, you should have thought about what next you're going to do with your life to make it a successful life or the opposite
Now I know why those thugs smoke and drink irresponsibly, it's not the fault of their parents, but the decision they took when they were aging. Sure their parents should have cautioned them, but there's nothing they can do anymore because they are now of age to take and know the right decision for their life.
*Anyway it's my birthday tomorrow so I thought of writing something about it.*
Love or Infatuation, what do people actually feel?
***These days many young teens come out to say they love an opposite sex, but what do they feel, is it love or infatuation? I'll be discussing what love and infatuation or rather "lust" is all about in this article.***
The word "*love*" has now been commonized in the society today that it doesn't mean anything emotional any longer. People develop a feeling for a short period of time and call it love, well I'll call it infatuation.
****INFATUATION**** This is a feeling that comes and leaves over a short period of time, people mistake it for love because they feel attracted to that thing or that person due to either the person's vibe at that particular moment or because that person is only available at that time. People have made lot of mistakes in relationships and marriages because they were infatuated, they were never inlove, the feeling they have for the other person diminish after they've spent a lot of time together, the vibe they feel suddenly die and that is what eventually leads to a broken relationship. When there is no love in the relationship, they'll tend to argue more, one party of the relationship won't be happy and will be scared of the reaction the partner will take due to something they say. Infatuation is that feeling you have when you meet someone new and you vibe a lot and then you'll say you love the person, but no, that isn't love because you've not known the person one bit. Along the line you might even end up hating the person's particular character that doesn't suit well with you because you didn't take time to know the person before saying you're inlove with the person
****LOVE**** They say love is something that you can use a lifetime to study because love is a very complicated thing. I don't know much about it yet because one can't fully comprehend how broad love can be. Some call love obsession because when you're inlove with a person, you won't be sure how to act around that person, you won't want to make mistake or do anything wrong at all, you'll be vulnerable. Sometimes people get jealous a lot when they're inlove and some people tend to do things they will never do because of love. When there's love, any misunderstanding will be settled, communication will be the most prime thing there. I can't say much about love now because when one is inlove, it's like you're learning daily.
So let's not mix infatuation with love because we feel a strong feeling for a person, that doesn't mean we are inlove, the feeling might just end up fading away because what we felt isn't love, it's infatuation. So in order to have a perfect relationship, let's be sure whether we truly love a person or what we feel will just end up fading.
Life As A Plot Twist
Growing up, I've always believed that we can have whatever we want because I'm used to getting whatever I want. And my view of life is that everything goes according to how you want it because it's your life and you have it already planned, but believe me life is different from all that, I learned it the hard way`.`
My view on life is totally different from what I imangined when I was growing up, I thought when one becomes an adult, you'll have the privilege of going out and coming in anytime you wish, you have freedom to do whatever you want, what a funny thinking I've always had, now I realize how hard it is to be an adult because you will have to think and decide everything yourself, no parent will decide what you'll wear, eat, drink or even friends you move with because they believe they have tried their best for you and the rest is left for you to obey. The bill alone on you as an adult will make you wish you can turn back time to when you were a baby, when you start leaving alone, you'll wake up early for work your mum won't be there to wake you up, you'll prepare your breakfast and still think on what to eat and wear to work and you have to do all these quick so you won't go to work late.
As a kid, anytime my parents would say what I'm requesting is beyond their power or they can't provide for it for me, I'll be sad and get angry. But now I know how painful they might have felt not being able to provide it for me. As an adult you're expected to live your best life as a role model and to lead a path where others are allowed to follow, this means that there a lot of people watching you and you're not allowed to make a mistake, I didn't realize this as a kid, though there are other privileges to adulthood as it is always said "whenever there's an advantage, there's always a disadvantage" but the disadvantage to adulthood is quite larger.
*Now I've woken up to reality and realized that nothing ever goes as planned in this world, and wherever there's light there will always be shadow to be found as well. And as long as there's good, there will always be evil. We just have to cherish the good I'm adulthood and have a wonderful memory of whatever we are doing*
It's been a while I wrote an article due to some personal reasons, but hopefully they're all gone and now I'm back and better. Anticipate for my next article
What it takes to have a new year resolution
*It's now a common thing for us all to say "my new year resolution is this and that". But do we have what it takes to accomplish our resolution?. 80% of people's WhatsApp status is all about "next year I won't be this, I won't talk to this person, I'll be a changed person" and this has been the same thing they always say every new year.*
First what's resolution? It's a firm decision a person take to do or not do something, that is you have to be fully conscious of the consequences behind it and you'll be ready t accept it at all cost. That's what it means to have a resolution. Now for someone to have a decision like that, one must have this few things
**Integrity**
**Ability to accept consequences**
**Ability to defend your decision to the final end**
****INTEGRITY**** It's been said that a man with utmost integrity is said to succeed, Integrity is the most essential thing one must have before resoluting about anything, once your yes is yes and your no is no then you can say you are a person of integrity. Integrity isn't intelligence, one might be smart but still not have integrity, Integrity is essential in a resolution because once you're a person of integrity, you won't go back on your word and you can finally back up your resolution.
****ABILITY TO ACCEPT CONSEQUENCES**** A person that runs away from away from the consequences of their actions is a coward and shouldn't even resolute about anything because every action has a reaction. Once you have a resolution about things you'll do in a new year (maybe about changing your behavior towards some certain people) definitely it will have a reverse effect because you'll act in a new way they're not used to, so they'll also change towards you and there's definitely going to be side effects and the side effects are the consequences, you have to be able to accept whatever comes after changing your ways towards your friends before you can make a resolution
****ABILITY TO DEFEND YOUR DECISION TO THE FINAL END**** When you have Integrity and you can accept whatever consequences comes at you come what may, you'll now need to be able to defend your decision because some certain people will come to convince you about your decision and that's when you will have to defend it. If you can't defend the decision you made on your own then you shouldn't even talk about making a resolution because the resolution will get dissolved immediately the year starts due to the listening of others opinion on your decision. You should be able to defend what you say or do because if you can't, then you shouldn't even make a decision at all.
*So in my final note, before you make a new year resolution you need to let it come from your inner most heart and not just make a resolution because it's the trend this new year. And I personally think a resolution should be personal to you and you should keep it to yourself instead of shouting about it everywhere. So before making a resolution think about these things. Have a wonderful new year*
My Gaming life: Call Of Duty mobile
Growing up I've always thought that a game is just an application you go to for fun, something you can just open and close when you feel like and it's something that's just there for you when you don't have internet connection on your smartphone. Well most people think that way, well I was once like that, but not anymore.
Now I see game in a different way, I see it as something different, gaming has more meaning to me now, I see game as a part of me. I don't know if it's addiction but I feel some sense of closure to my games, I'm a proud gamer. Though people are always telling me I'm wasting my time whenever I'm playing game, well I guess because it's not an NFT game, I know just very little about the NFT game, and I'm willing to learn anything I can about those kind of game and then, they will know I'm not wasting my time, also they said it can't get me anywhere or it isn't adding anything to me.
I just listen to their comments and smile, because they don't know how gaming has helped me in. At first I only play Arcade games, because I feel I always want to be the first to get there, no plans or anything, I love playing racing game, not to brag I was always in first position whenever it comes to racing, but later on I discovered that I was only driving and there was no joy coming from it, at some point it got boring for me because I was always the first, I got tired because the end result is always obvious.
The breakthrough
Then my friend would say why not move into something that has more action, a game you can shoot and communicate, I'd say "no" because I don't like anything shooting. The settings are all too complicated, then a friend said "why not try it instead of complaining". Then I was like "Ohh, that's true, why not give it a try rather than complaining and come to a conclusion". I downloaded the popular game, you might know about it, "CALL OF DUTY: MOBILE". The first time I played it, I fell inlove with the game. Now I play it a lot, well not that I play it all the time, there is time for everything, and currently the game is everything 😃😃
Now I see a game as something that you can turn to, even when I'm said or depressed or feel lonely, gaming has always been available, a game won't misunderstand something you say. You have fun to the highest and you can do whatever you want in a game. It's like another world entirely on its own. I enjoy playing game because it has helped me go through lot of phases in life. But I'm still growing and I have more to learn. I hope life can be fair to me, as I learn from it.
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