A goal-driven person has a reason to push through, we cannot just keep striving without reasons. Usually, the main reason is for our family but some fortunate people who already had everything, yet they are still striving hard, maybe they are acquiring self-fulfillment or trying to prove themselves to anyone who belittles them. Or some just wanted to reach financial stability to uplift their living conditions.
As for me, I belong to the poorest of the poor family. Some do not believe me that I used to work on the farm, I used to sell sweet corn in the streets, I used to absent from school just to help to work on the farm. Every time I saw very unfortunate kids, like some beggars or some kids selling anything in the streets my heart aches, I can mirror myself to them. I didn't experience being a beggar, even though we are poor my mother didn't teach us to ask for money from other people. She teaches me to work hard if I want to earn money.
Every Sunday afternoon or whenever I don't have a class, I went to the wet market in our town to sell spices to those people who buy fish. It is already packed with chili, onions, garlic, ginger, and other spices. I only get 2 pesos or $0.04 that time, because I just get the packed spicy to our suppliers. Not just that I have to be quick because there are many of us, the competition in selling is high. Sometimes my classmates saw me, or my crush but I don't mind I even sell them spices lol.
I read a post here about his photography of street children in Thailand. Seeing the face of the kids suffering from poverty makes me sad because I remember I was once like them. But Yann. Poire told me it's not a sad story after all because I have learned.
What made me strive harder?
I want to be financially stable, I wanted to experience a life without worrying about what to eat for tomorrow. I also want to help in case someone needs my help, and being financially free you have all the capability to help. I want to experience traveling whenever I want because I have money to finance, I want to breathe after all the things I've been through, and being financially stable will make it possible.
I want to help my mother, as an eldest even if I am now building my own family the desire to help my mom is still there. I want to give her the capital to start her own little business soon when she comes back to our province, so she doesn't have to work on the farm or serve other people.
I want to help my partner build a brighter future for our daughter, support all her needs, and send her to school until she finishes a degree. I don't want my child to be like me, I wasn't able to finish my degree because of financial issues. I want to finish my studies but things did not cooperate with me. Finishing a degree is an advantage in finding a better job compared to undergraduates. Even if you have skills, if the job requires a degree holder you will never be chosen. I don't want my daughter to experience what I have gone through.
Closing Thoughts
Those are the reasons that push me to strive harder, even though my partner can provide our basic needs I still have to work my ass off to reach the goal I always want to achieve.
This is the reason why I am trying to learn how to trade better, who knows this will be the gateway to my dreams of being financially stable even if I don't have a decent job.
Even if I am busy taking care of my kid as a mommy and as a wife, I am trying my best to cope up with learning the crypto ways on how to earn money.
I didn't regret experiencing to work on the farm enduring the heat of the sun, selling sweet corns in the streets, selling spices in the market, because that experience thought me how to work hard. I am not ashamed I was born poor and experience all of those because it thought me a lot of life lessons. Whenever or wherever situations bring me, I always know I can survive and I can stand on my own because since I was young I already learned how to make money.
There are many chances that some old folks offer me a life-changing opportunity in exchange for myself but I never grabbed any of it, because I don't want to make other people especially “sugar daddies ” as a ladder of success. I cannot grasp an old man touching me! Although some people said, I should be practical but I have principles in life, I won't sell off my dignity just for the sake of money.
It's always fulfilling to achieve your goal from your hard works, no matter how many failures I may face before succeeding I am willing to endure. I also believe it's not my fault I was born poor but if I die poor, then it would be my mistake.
This was inspired by @Ruffa article about what and who pushes her to set to strive hard. This was drafted I think two weeks ago lol.
Yann. Poire is right ma'am, your story wasn't sad at all. That was undeniable. When I was 18, I became also a temporary construction worker in our place. You can read my story in my timeline ma'am. By the way, congratulations ma'am.