Being in a relationship does not make a person less attractive, when you are in a relationship or even married already the more temptation is lurking with the both of you. It seems like a test of fate how committed you are in your partner.

Like they said, there's so many fish in the ocean and it's true. It's funny when you are still single and not committed yet, it seems finding partner or soulmate is aloof while when you are already taken the more temptations are lurking. When I was still single that is very open to mingle with boys, it seems finding a good match is not that easy but when I was committed already there are a lot of men showing interest in me.

I've got the idea to write this topic upon reading @Fexonice1 article, I got the chance to commit adultery but!

I can cheat if I want but..

Even if I am in a serious relationship already or engage rather as he proposed to me already last February there are still men who are showing interest in me.

I don't know what they have seen in me or maybe I can easily connect with men because I can jive easily with their jokes, I am easy going (but not easy to get) and sometimes I am a teaser as well lol.

Despite there are better men in line (char, ggss teh nakapila talaga?lol) I still chose to be loyal with my man. Despite that he is not financially stable, despite his lapses and temperament. As he has build a strong bond with me emotionally and psychologically.

As a woman we always seek assurance and security, which we tend to evaluate it by how the guy treat us and his financial capacity. In my case my partner is not yet stable financially but I still stick to him because I believe it's not all about money, I believe we can build our future together as long as we treat each others well.

I stick to him, even his friends and colleagues are more suitable than him in terms of financial

I remember way back, even his colleagues and classmate are chatting me in Facebook/messenger. Most of his classmates are playboy, because you know seamen's have great confidence with themselves while my boyfriend is different that's why I like him, he doesn't think so highly of himself.

One of his colleague also chatting me before, the guy was official already. That time my boyfriend was just an apprentice, he can't afford buying simcard for internet connection before because it's expensive and he is saving money from his allowance as he doesn't have salary yet. His 3rd mate colleague became my chat mate, but the communication was just about my boyfriend, how he was doing if he's fine or not. The guy was single and pretty stable already, if I was just out of my mind I can screw my boyfriend but I did not. It's easy to get the guy as he was responsive and sweet to me lol.

Even one of his best friend in real life chatted me before when we were just new bf/gf.

I meet a Pilot..

There was a time when a handsome guy chatted me from nowhere as well, he was a Pilot in Cebu Pacific Airlines. The guy was interested to me and wanted to meet me personally at Mall of Asia after their flight as he wanted to get to know more about me but I did not agree.

The guy was handsome, and who wouldn't like to have a pilot boyfriend? I like the idea but I committed myself already with my boyfriend. The guy knows I had a boyfriend as he see it in my profile that we are in a relationship but he doesn't mind he even said “as long as you are not married yet, I can steal you” like for real? Hahaha!

There's even a girl chatted me asking if we we're chatting with the pilot guy, later did I know it was his ex haha stalking him.

One thing I didn't like as well with the guy is that he's a bit aggressive, I don't like aggressive men. No matter how good looking and financially stable they are I am turned off with their aggressive behavior. I was just thinking, maybe the guy only wants to fvck me and leave after he was satisfied with his lust, so yeah, next please.

Whatever community I've been to.. there are always some guys wanted to get to know me,

I remember last year December 2020, I joined trading group in PH as I am really interested to learn trading. Mostly members are men, and as usual there are guys wanted to get in touch with me.

I do reply in dm especially if it talks only about the topic that belongs to the scope of community, and then I can jive with teasing so maybe they think they can easily hook up with me. Until one day, one of the guy who shows interest in me dig deeper, he located my IP address and he knows I had a child already,

He was like “Do you have a child already? Why didn't you tell me?” and I was like “that is why I didn't mind your hidden motives to me as I am going to be married soon haha!” he was laughing, and said “ughh! I always end up liking a married woman” haha!

Closing Thoughts

That's why my partner don't mind me involving to whatever community or whatever, he is chill. He knows my attitude, I can be flirty but I have restrictions, sometimes he even joke to me “you can find a rich man, it's okay with me but give me percentage of the money that the rich man gives you!” HAHAHA! Gusto pa ako e benta hayoff na yan.

So back to the topic, temptations is always there even if you are married or in a relationship already the more it comes as it was testing your faithfulness and loyalty with your partner. It's always a choice to remain loyal or faithful to your partner, for better or for worst with or without vows. Likewise, it's always a choice as well to cheat on your partner. Relationship has stages, once you reach the maturity stage it is not just based on love anymore but more of a commitment. Commitment to stay loyal even if the relationship gets boring and sour.

He knows everything about the experiences I have, but he was never toxic to restrict me from socializing as he is open minded.

I am not a trophy type, I am not that pretty to begin with, but maybe some men was sent to tempt me testing my loyalty. But the devil cannot win, coz I more of self control and just so bad I can even live without guy in my life 😂, besides I am the kind of person who doesn't really matter status in life as I matter morality, character and attitude of a person.

Thank you for reading, I don't know if this has made any sense at all lol.

This was actually on my drafts for more than two weeks, if you read Fexonice1 article it was publish three weeks ago.

Note: Original content unless revamp.

Date Published October 14, 2021