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A fatherless child is like a puzzle that can never be complete because of a missing piece- the father. A woman can move on and continue her life, mend her broken pieces after sometimes but a child who is fatherless can never be complete without knowing who their father was.
This is something other parents can never understand especially if they grow up with a complete family, they'll never know the feeling having a blank spaces in the child heart because they we're never in their shoes.
A fatherless child has to undergo a lot of difficulties in life such as bullying, insecurities, inferiority complex and traumatic experiences that is inevitable because they don't have a strong foundation of a family that will protect them- especially father figure.
It's never a secret in here that I am one of those fatherless child, that I grow up dealing a lot of shits in life just because I am fatherless, I was abandoned and was never recognize by my father.
Recent realization
Recently I've been in an emotional state, although I already accepted my fate that having father in this lifetime is something I can never have.. I still felt emotional whenever I saw other people having a loving father by their side.
Especially for a girl - it is said that girls first love is their father, but I don't have one.
This is a screenshot from Mischievous Kiss Japanese version of Playful kiss, the guy asked the girls father for a blessing to marry her daughter..and told the guy that her daughter doesn't know a lot in life but despite that he said “she's a lovely girl” so the guy must cherish her.
I was very emotional and I cried a bucket of tears in the middle of the night watching it, coz this is something I can never experience that a father will talk to my groom to be to take care of me.
This is a shot from Who Runs The World, the father of the lead female and is dying..but before he dies he met her daughter's soon to be husband and told him to never bully his daughter.
Again, I was emotional.. because before this year end, I'm gonna marry and I don't have the father to tell my soon to be husband to never bully me and to cherish me. I don't have the father who will walk with me in the isle and hand me to my future husband..
It's really painful, you know. Although I overcome all the struggles I had back then, but still I can't deny the fact that I am an incomplete puzzle, that I can never be complete.
I never understood when a friend told me before that I must reconcile with my father before I get married so I can be complete, until these days.. I just shrug off her idea and didn't sink in to my mind what she was trying to convey and indeed she was right, now I I felt why I need to reconcile with my father - but sadly they said my father died already.
I wrote this not for you to pity me, but to let other parents who can read this to please let your child met their father or mother, never deprived them to complete the puzzle they are trying to solve in life. It's not about you but about your child's growth and development.
Because you will never know their pain, you will never know how many questions running on their heads but they don't spit it out as they are also considering your part. You will never know, they cry silently without you knowing or noticing because they don't like to burden you.
Because that's what I do, I never tell anyone I cry in the middle of the night not until today as I am writing this one.. that no matter what luxury life will offer me ahead, I will still have the blank space in my heart.. a space that will never be filled until I die.
To all men who are reading this, please try to be responsible with your actions if you can't marry the woman you impregnate with just at least try to be a father. Because of an irresponsible man like you will bring a lot of broken souls in the society, and not all fatherless children are strong enough to fight their battles alone - like me. Some wasted their life and some ended it.
For single mothers, no matter how much you fill the needs of your child it will never be enough.. let them see their father, let them complete themselves and never deprived them for your selfish reasons.
You will never know the pain of a fatherless child, unless you become one.
You can laugh all you want to a fatherless child, bully them or whatever but be prepared to get doomed in the later because a child maybe fatherless in this world..yet ...it is biblical that,
Psalm 68:5 tells us, “Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.” His aim is to show orphans mercy, care, and protection, and because these waiting children are essential to him.
God, will avenge those fatherless being bullied.. and so far, I do believe in it.. all those who bullied me back then didn't have a better life at all.
P.S I've finished this write up since last week, but it took me a lot of thinking if I should publish or not because I don't want people know that I have this weakness. I am always considering not to show weakness just so other people will not use it against me, then I realized.. this was never a secret because I've written it already in here a lot haha!
I also remember, I am the kind of person once I overcome something and let other people knows what I've been, it cannot affect me much anymore. I have this character who is a bulletproof, although sometimes it fails but most of the time its not!
Thank you for reading!
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Date Published: May 25,2022
Ur article really made me emotional because am one of those child who grew up without a father and I will not let that happen to my children