My first interview experience
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Happy new week everyone and how was everyone's night? how is everyone coping with this new month? On my side here new month is fun am it is moving on smoothly for now and I pray it ends smoothly as well, I was tagged by @Princessbusayo to join this contest which I will be talking about my interview experience, I hope it's not too late to post mine now
My first interview ever was a very funny one and I don't know why but I guess maybe because it was my first time going for an interview, here in my country being a beautiful girl is a problem and to now worse the matter if you are fair in complexion it's a big problem.
I just got to Lagos then and my sister said to me that I will have to work because in Lagos here everyone has to take care of himself or herself so in that case, she will get me to work so that I won't have to wait for her before I buy something for myself, so she talks to one man like that which I don't know that he should help me with a job and my sister asked me and her friend to go and meet the man.
The next morning I dressed very well and decent so that they will see how responsible I am and I called my sister's friend she asked me to go there that she will meet me there and I went as she asked me, meanwhile my sister has gone to work because she works in a factory as an operator (machine operator),
When I got there I saw a lady and I told her and here to see Mr ( I can't remember his name) and she pointed at his office so I go in immediately then the man asked me where is my second person that we were supposed to come together and I told him she's on her way, he just said ok and went to the door I even thought he went to take some questions to ask me not knowing that he went to lock the door meanwhile that time I wasn't even that beautiful to say it is the beauty that attracted him, some people just like taking advantage of young girls because they want to give them a job
When he came back he stood at my back then touched me on my shoulder I quickly stood up and told him it was my sister that directed me here for a job and not for all this and he said: are you a small girl? Will you tell your sister what happened here? As we are arguing and his trying to rough handle me I ran to the door only to discovered that he has locked it, then I calm down a bit because if I should try anything funny he will have his way with me without anyone knowing, I started talking to him with a calm voice and he began to move closer to me it was just one step between us and I heard a knock at the door (kokoko), he quickly answered because he thought it was his secretary but thank God it was my sister's friend
Then I move to one side as he opened the door I jumped out and ran home without talking to my sister's friend, guess what this man did? He called my sister and lied to her and when my sister got home in the night she didn't even ask me anything she just gave me one big slap on my face and she now began to talk " why don't you calm down and pass the interview"? When she finally finishes yelling at me I now replied to her he wants to rape me and my sister felt so sad and she put a call through to him immediately and abuse him for doing such a move with me.
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**HOW WAS NIGERIA BACK THEN VS. NOW?**
Well to me Nigeria was better before because then there is nothing like rape interviews when we were growing up, compared to now that everyone just wants to have their ways with any girl they see even though they know that they are old enough to be the girl's father but still they just want to satisfy their God knows what, and things are cheaper then so it makes life easier for our parents to take care of us without we struggling to get a job because to look for a job now has now turned to something else imagine a lady looking for a job and she was rape to death but then there is no such thing
Now there is no accurate security in the country girls live in fear that I don't want to be kidnapped or rape but still, they want to work for money, children now know what to use the money for, imagine a secondary school boy that involves himself in internet fraud (Yahoo) what does that kind of boy wants to buy with the money that makes him do such thing? Life has changed totally
**WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST MONEY EXPERIENCE?**
Hmmm, I started earning money when I was in JSS3 when my computer teacher asked us to design and save it inside a diskette (I small disk used for saving information back then) before the existence of CD, I was learning computer outside the school as I have mentioned before in one of my posts so I know so many things when it comes to computer but I never brag about it in school, until that day nobody could hold a common mouse in my class so I took it up and did it for all of my classmates then I was paid for my services.
it was when I finish secondary school that I experienced how it feels to make money by oneself, I was working in a computer school teaching students and then I use to collect $1 (#500) back then but I can spend it for a month and still give my mom out if it as well but not anymore that money can't buy me two-month sanitary pad now because the product of the one I use is now expensive $2 (#1000) you can see how the country has changed a lot
**WHEN WAS THE FIRST TIME YOU EARNED MONEY?**
During my Junior Secondary School, as I said up there when I was in my junior class I started earning money with my computer skills
**HOW HAS THE VALUE OF MONEY CHANGED OVER TIME?**
The value of money has changed a whole lot because I could remember when my mom told me and my siblings how much they bought all the stuff in our house back then, she said the wall clock was bought by my dad at #20naira that same wall clock will cost nothing less than $3 (#300) you can see how big the difference is to now, it is really hard to buy good foodstuffs with $20 (#10,000) now because of how expensive things are in the country
**WHAT WAS THE FIRST THING YOU SAVED FOR?**
The first thing I save for was my Christmas clothes because I don't like what my mom always buy for me, it always big and shapeless if you are from Nigeria you will understand how those mothers always tell the tailor to sew big clothes for their children so that they can use the clothe for so long, but me I started contributing my money so that I can buy something nice and good for myself but still my mom will end up collecting the money from me all in the name of let me help you and at the end I won't see anything.
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The love is not enough
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`When love is not enough in the marriage there will be a lot of difficulties that might lead to extramarital affairs.`
From what I discovered from this man while we were eating that day, he loves a lady who is not fat, big and a woman that loves to makes up always and go out frequently, but his wife is a busy person because she's a nurse.
To me, I believe you didn't love his wife enough that's why he's cheating on her, and this is where it comes in that when Love Is not enough a lot of things happen in a relationship, so as we keep gisting, laughing and enjoying our pepper soup the man then said please sister Esther you don't have to tell my wife all what happened here
And I replied to him why would I do such? And besides who will believe this kind of a thing so I assured him not to tell anyone not to talk of his wife, but then I asked him that why does he cheat, as you all know am a gossip girl who always wants to know everything I think I should know and he said: "When I married her she wasn't this big and fat and now because she has given birth she's now too big for me to cope with though I still love her"
Hmmm, can you imagine this kind of excuse to cheat on his wife, is this enough reason for a man to have extramarital affairs with so many girls meanwhile he always monitors his wife's phone to see who has been disturbing his wife.
Before this lady got married to him she was perfectly ok in everything including her nice shape but childbearing changed everything in her body so now he's complaining of her being too big in size, to me he's just trying to cover his bad attitude under one unrealistic explanation that's what I thought that night.
The next morning I woke up packed my dirty clothes outside to wash since it was my off day at work that day, then the woman that I met her husband last night with another lady came out with her clothes too including the husband's clothes
And she started to wash with her hand and I just stood and kept staring at her because I was trying to relate to what her husband told me last night, to me this woman has a very nice shape and good looking without makeup as well, so I then concluded that this man is just not contented with the precious jewel that God has given him
And in that house, he's not the only one doing that bad thing because one woman has to sneak inside my room before with her husband's phone just for me to help her read the grammar another girl sent to her husband, that day I was a little bit scared. After all, her husband knew that she doesn't understand English and I am the only young girl in that house that can tell her the meaning of the text message.
This other woman sent her husband that: " ifemi bawo ni?" English (my love how are you?) when I collected the phone to read I couldn't open my mouth to tell her what I saw in the text message and then she began to cry and begged me to tell her, I felt touched because of how some man treat their wives someone who went through pains to give them happiness and still they treat them badly.
Thank God I have a good man for myself though I know I am a stubborn girl who doesn't deserve such a good guy but still God sees my heart that I can't take too much of heartbreak and so He gave me the best of the best among men, and am so happy and lucky to have him to myself.
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**Conclusion**
Men should treat their woman right because women are like sauce in their life, if am lying why is it that if women leave their husbands house the man won't balance until another woman enter his life back, it is because woman are sauce in life, treat your woman well because they bear so much pain and stress to keep your home though you are doing the best part by working hard but women carry a lot of burden in them and that's why some of them get too emotional at times.
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New month Amebo (gossip)
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*Hey hey hey happy new month to you all my beautiful people, and it's even Independence day here in my country Nigeria so let me use this opportunity to greet you all that happy Independence day to all the Nigerians all over the world*
*I am sure everyone is super happy to see another beautiful month like this well am happy too because to see a new weekend like this is not by how beautiful I am or by my strength or mighty but by the grace of the almighty God.*
So now let me gist you about one man in my compound, my people call it "amebo" English (gossip) 😜 you see this man eh he likes to have fun a lot of fun, meanwhile, he doesn't like to take his wife along, meanwhile, his wife is a nurse and you know how busy nurse can be.
I really don't know how he got to know one bar girl that he always carries all about to catch fun while his wife is at home expecting her husband to come home to her and his children because they have two kids already.
**This is where I come in on this matter**
Then I work in a hotel as a receptionist and he knew about it because the day I wanted to go for the job interview I asked him for the street and he was the one that told me how to go about the interview so automatically he knows the kind of job am doing
And this gave him the mind to think that I can keep secrets and that am mature enough to see and not tell of which me a gossip girl hehehehe 😁 but how can I face someone's wife and tell her your husband is cheating on you am sure she will kill me first before she deals with her husband.
So on this faithful day, it was my fiance birthday and I asked me to come over to my house so that we can go out to have fun when he got to my house around 9pm in the night because that's the time I can be chance to go out since I always close late at work
When my fiance got to my house as I said, I quickly dressed to take him out for his birthday gift on getting to this beautiful bar we both sat down taking some cool and cold drink while the pepper soup girl ask us to wait for her to cook the catfish for us.
What my eye saw that day my mouth mustn't tell to any of my neighbors if not the whole house will scare because that man's wife can fight for the whole world.
**Back to the matter**
Someone came into the bar and sat in front of me and my guy while I was facing down pressing my phone, I just heard my fiance greeting someone and I looked up to see if it is not all those skinny girls looking for a man to snatch only to find out that it was my neighbor sitting in front of me then I laughed and greet him as well.
After one minute the pepper soup girl just came to my table and I thought she wants to talk to me what I saw was the girl kissing this man mouth to mouth saying: baby how are you today? The man was shocked because I was there looking at the two of them surprisingly 🥴
And then he said to the girl meet my neighbor just to caution the girl from exposing him meanwhile as a receptionist when I see such a move I already knew that is going on between the two of them and the girl said: oh you two knew each other? but I wasn't comfortable with the way she said it, so I quickly answered her that: meet my fiance we came here to have fun just like you too.
Then the girl feel relax because I can read her mind from the impression on her face but deep within me I was like what's she thinking? Why that look? And why that question, oh you too knew each other? Well thank God I clarify myself.
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The girl finally bring our catfish pepper soup so we began to eat the three of us me, my fiance, and the man (Micheal is his name), I really wish to continue this gist but I don't want to waste too much of you people's time so am going to stop here and pick it up from here tomorrow.
Thanks for reading my gossip, it is not the I am making jest of the man but all am saying is that there is nothing hidden under the sun, I decided not to tell his wife but someone else might choose to tell her if they get to know all about his secret.
God of now is faster than a Jet to catch-up on bad people
`Sorry for pausing my story is just that I had to join one beautiful content yesterday that is why I didn't post this continue`
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My mom always says what you give to life is what life will give back to you so be mindful of how you treat people you meet in life and am sure we all know that the law of karma is real, haven't said all that Sadiq and his beloved fiance moved out of the country to another country where Tobi could not locate them, Abroad to be precise.
Then they start afresh as a family living happily and they have already forgotten all that they did to someone in the past, and we all know that it is only in Africa man has power over their woman but in the Abroad it is totally different.
And they already have two kids Jenny and Tom they are such lovely kids and they don't look like Africa kid at all but Sadiq didn't bother about their look since their mother conceive them over there so he thought is just a normal thing that we Africa believe that when you conceive outside the country your children will look like white people.
Until one day Jenny got sick at the hospital and the school immediately rushed him to the hospital, then the school put a call through to Jenny's father but he was too busy at work to attend to the call and they called his mom because one of his parents must attend to him(Jenny)
Luckily his mom picked and she rush there immediately, to see what went wrong with her like my mom use to say: "obinrin lo mo eni ti o ni omo" English (it is only woman that knows the real father of her children), am sure you will be wondering what will happen next
Well Jenny's mom took it from the school hospital when they make mention of blood transferring which means his dad must be there to give him blood or his mom should do it for him but the mother didn't let them check the boy's blood group at all since she knows the real father of her child
She immediately took the boy to another hospital where she bought blood for him but if God wants to deal with someone there will always be a way to get at the person, the doctor tester her blood for the boy but it doesn't match so she asked the doctor to buy for him then the doctor asks if Jenny's father could help but she lied that he's on a business trip.
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To cut the long story short she got the blood for the boy and she never mentioned it to her husband and then she started to plan on how to swindle her husband and run away with her kids and to God be the glory she succeeded with her plan and ran away with all what Sadiq collected from Tobi which is money, property and some extra things they have both worked for including their kids even though they are not Sadiq's children.
My mom always tells me that "***God of now is faster than jet to get at anyone who loves to step on people's toes***", Sadiq can back from his busy day as usual, and then on getting home everything in the house is gone including property, Sadiq was shocked and he looks around of the house maybe he missed the road to another house, on getting back inside to cry he found a letter inside their bedroom floor and he opened it to read maybe his wife relocate and give him address down only to find out that she has left him and those kids were not his.
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He shouted God! Why hmmmm, what a merciful God that doesn't support evil people, Sadiq was shocked and he had a heart attack immediately because he didn't believe his lovely scammer wife could do that to him.
My question now is will he go back to beg Tobi? Or he will just continue to live wrenched life like that? Because all his documents are gone as well so automatically he will be deported back to his country where he has destroyed so many lives just because of money.
What did you think he should do? @Princessbusayo you can take it from here because Tobi can't be like that, Sadiq is confused about what to do and his beloved wife can't just go without punishment for duping so many people like that, thanks for the continuation.
This story is just a fictional story from your girl **™** esthery.
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With $590k I can change lives of people
What I will do with $590k
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I saw this contest on noisecash today on @George_Dee content asking that if I get this huge amount of money what will I do with it?
Firstly let me thank the person that started this contest @FarmGirl because I have been stressed today and it affects my thinking at the moment but as I log into noisecash platform I saw the notification of this post and I decided to join before I continue my story.
Now back to the question of what I will do with $590k?
My first move is to remove my tithe because I believe if God doesn't give me I can't have it and paying my tithe has been the first thing I do ever since I started working and collecting a salary, even now that I am not a salary earner I always try my best to remove my tithe from any money I get.
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My next move is going to my mom hmmm as I have mentioned before that my mom has struggled so much for me and my siblings so what I will do for her is that I will help her to finish up her house, do water in her compound, open big shop in front of her house so that she can have something to be doing and something that will keep her busy.
Now back to setting myself up, as I have said in my previous post that I am a hairstylist so automatically it's a salon am going to set up for myself and a very big mart for all kinds of hair, that sounds good right?
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Well, it might not sound right to you but to me, it will be a dream come true if I can do all this that I mentioned because I have struggled to make it come through but it seems like my hustling and bustling is not enough so if such huge amount bump into my hand my dreams is going to be a great one.
Another thing I will love to do is to build a convenient apartment for people because I hate it when people complain about house rent, and the rate at which landlords increases house rent in my country here is getting out of hands and before people start to sleep on the street because they can't afford to pay house rent, so if I build mine it will be very cheap and affordable and the reason why I will collect rent is just that I want people to value the house, I will build just like this hostel.
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There is one thing I haven't mentioned and it has been my greatest dream ever and the thing is traveling out of my country, yeah💃 to see how some other countries looks like, I know you will be thinking is that one a dream but to me, it is because none of my siblings has traveled out of my country before so I will break the record for them and the last thing on my mind which I have been trying to do is to set up businesses for my siblings.
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I am from a well to do home, a wealthy one at that until death took my dad away and it bring us down even deeper than where my dad and mom started from, so I believe if I set them up all we will all rise back to where we belong as a family.
Last is building a school in the memory of my father, he doesn't joke with education if though he was much educated. He did his best to the point of death just for us to be educated but God knows why things happen.
The purpose of the school would be to give every child access to education regardless of their financial status, it would come very cheap.
`Thanks for reading, I will continue my story about Tobi and Sadiq tomorrow so stay tuned`
Is it a crime to love?
`Beware of fake love that appears real, some people pretend to love you because of what they want to extract from you.`
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Everything seems perfect, smooth, and beautiful while we are still dating as boyfriend and girlfriend but when we finally got married the tune changed.
A week to the wedding I noticed some strange steps from Sadiq but because I was blindfolded with his love I didn't bother myself from checking him up, so a week after the wedding we began to have issues at home and our first fight was caused by toothpaste.
On that faithful morning we both woke up and I called him as my husband to join me in prayer but he said: bae see just go ahead pray for two okay, he pecked me and then went to the bathroom to 🚿 shower, but I finish my prayer alone and after that, I head to the bathroom as well to grab my brush.
On getting to the bathroom I met him pressing phone and smiling as well and I was wondering what could make a make smile so cool this early morning but I never think about it so far because I trusted him so I just took my brush put the paste on it and then about to leave the bathroom I just heard: is that how to press paste?
Then I looked back and smile while I replied so how am I suppose to press it? And he replied I thought you said you are educated, didn't your teachers taught you how to handle things at home, or didn't you did some subject that has to do with things at home?
And I was like well I didn't do anything that has to do with home while in school sir (still smiling) and he said toothpaste shouldn't be pressed at the middle it should be press from the bottom and meanwhile have some manners to yourself by not badging into someone in the bathroom.
I was bothered that how could my husband be saying this by this time of the day but then I said sorry for peace to reign at that moment, after bathroom drama, I went to the kitchen to clean up and cook as well, done with the cooking, cleaning and now dinning is set so I called my husband: Honey your food is ready.
When he got to the dining, he said "can't you come to the room and call me? And I said sorry because am trying to get what went wrong with him, to cut the long story short he sat down and I served the food he just took one spoon and then he dropped it and said: what is the beauty of a woman who doesn't know how to cook?
And I was like but honey I have cooked for you before we got married so what's wrong with my food now? And then he just stood up and went out without changing into something nice and I kept on thinking maybe there is something I did that makes him mad at me.
After two hours, he came back fully loaded with food and then he said to me kindly visit your mom to teach you some marriage morals that was the time I knew I have pressed the wrong button in my life, so I began to sneak in him to see if he's cheating with another woman because that's the only thing that makes a man misbehave to his wife.
But to my surprise I never catch him so I forget about monitoring him and I keep trying my best to make him happy, until one day that I came back from my usual work and as I got home I met a letter on the dining table then I took it to read maybe he will be coming home late that's why he dropped letter so that I won't worry myself too much,
***Guess what was in the letter***
Hello my beautiful Tobi, what a caring girl you are, and am sure your future husband will enjoy you so well because you are so perfect at everything including bed hahaha, well this is to inform you that I Sadiq has moved on with my life and don't bother looking for me.
Meanwhile,e your salesgirl is my fiance and we practically planned this together mind you, your money and your vitals documents are with me so don't bother looking for it and as for your shop am so sorry to inform you that all the goods in it haves been packed as soon as you left to the house, kindly forgive your ex-husband because am no more in your present life.
***After reading the letter...***
I couldn't believe what I just read and I quickly rush back to my store and see if what I read is true, on getting there the store is already opened down like as if no one has ever rented the place, seeing that made me fainted.
What did you think it will happen to Tobii?
Will Sadiq go scot-free like that?
Can the two of them have a happy ending? ( Sadiq and his fiance).
If you are Tobi what will you do?
When we were in love
`When we were in love everything seems perfect even though it's not.`
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I am a girl in my early thirties, a working-class lady and I live alone, taking care of all my bills all by myself because I don't like it when guys think bad about girls so I choose to stand on my own without looking up to any guy for money.
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I work in a bank, though the pay is not that much but I tried my possible best to set up a little provision business which I collected a salesgirl to keep an eye on it for me and whenever I come back from work I resume there as well.
Until one day that this sexy guy came to make a huge deposit at our bank and you all know that such customer must be treated nicely if you are the type that always takes a huge amount of money to the bank you can testify to that, so I was just nice to him as a banker to a customer no string attached
After work, I resumed back to my business (shop) as usual, and my sales girl keep selling while I was doing account of what I want to to get from the market in my next going there, I just heard one sweet, thick, and smooth voice talking to my sales girl though they are arguing on something which I don't know
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When I discovered that the argument did stop for some seconds I decided to go there and see what was going on and what the argument is all about, guess who I saw there it was the same sexy guy that came with a huge amount of money to my office this morning.
Then I was like wow you again and then he was like me! Again, sorry madam have we met before? I felt sad a little bit but because his voice is too attractive and his body got my attention I couldn't hold myself back from introducing myself to him.
**Introduction part**
**Me**: Oh you don't remember my face?
**Him**: no madam
**Me**: I was the cashier that helped you this morning
**Him**: oh no sorry madam, my bad I couldn't recall that face ma'am
**Me**: oh no problem
**Him**: so what are you doing here
**Me**: smile it's my little business that I am managing aside from my office job (smiling).
**Him**: you called this a little business? Ma'am this is not little at all
**Me**: that's a compliment, thanks with a smile on my face, nice meeting you am Tobi by name
**Him**: Oh it's my pleasure am Sadiq by name, so can we know each other better? Here is my card you can give me a call when you are less busy
**Me**: hmmm(butterfly in my belly) I was so happy within me that a sexy and handsome guy gave me his card wah-wah, oh ok I will definitely give you a call
Then he bought so many things and left that day, I was happy because there is a spark in his eyeballs that I couldn't resist, so the next morning I woke up so happy and feeling good which is unusual of me and when I got to work people keep asking me what happened to me or sis someone gave me money
Then I will be like am just happy because am happy ha or can't someone just be happy? I refuse to share what the source of my happiness was, I just keep smiling all to myself. Immediately after we closed from work on my way home I grabbed his card and put a call through to him because I can't wait to hear that his sweet voice again
And we talked for over 1hour on the phone and that was how our love started because I have already fallen madly in love with him before he asked me to be his girlfriend.
Love is sweet when you are with the right person, everything seems perfect while we are still dating as boyfriend and girlfriend but when we finally got married the tune changed, let's talk about it in my next post, thanks for reading, and I am so sorry but I haven't been visiting your post or reply everyone's comment is just that am so busy with work lately but I promise as soon as am done I will reply it all, thanks for understanding
*This is just a fictional story writing by your baby girl* **™**esthery.
Learning experience
**It's a beautiful Sunday over here fam and how are you all doing today, happy Sunday to you all.**
*The lead image is my customer's hair that I did some days ago.*
Before I start telling my story today I will like to remind you all of a say which says that "**practice makes perfect**" that's true because if you don't practice some things you can't know it, even if you know it a little it can't be perfect and that is why we learn more before we can say this is my profession.
Another thing I want to say is that there is no shortcut for achieving good things in life and if you truly want something that will last forever then you have to go through some process in life.
So let's continue about my experience while learning work, while I was learning my handwork I discovered that there is no place where people can't embarrass you, there is no place people can't look down on you just because you are still struggling.
As I have mentioned in my post before that I am a graduate from Lagos State polytechnic (laspotech) in computer science with good result, automatically I have all it takes to get a good job but the situation of my country won't let me get a perfect job that I deserve.
That was what lead me to learn how to make hair because I am the kind of person that doesn't like to depend on someone for something and that makes me very hard-working.
There are lots of customers that come to make hair in my boss's shop and some of them always look at me as if I don't know what am doing as old as I am, but I never look at what they say or think about me.
So one day one of them came to make hair from my boss and she left saying that she love the hair, after 3 days she came back shouting that where is my boss that doesn't know how to handle hair.
And I told her that she's not around being the eldest person in the shop but she keeps shouting, cursing all of us there and people asked me to calm her down so some other people won't gather and be saying bad things about our shop.
Then I stood up and move closer to her just to open my mouth and say please ma calm down what I heard on my face was a thunderstorm slap "gbos" hehehehe 😁 it was like heaven is coming back to life because I couldn't hear or see anything for good five minutes.
When I recovered my senses I now asked people what happened to me hehehehe 😁 that wasn't funny that day but I count it as part of the lesson I should learn while am still an apprentice, when my boss came back she blamed me for moving closer to her it was then I now felt bad because I was only trying to cover her up and then I took slap for her.
After some months that I have finished up my time in her shop, she now called me and said "aunty esther" you are older than me and that is why that day I purposely went out so that you can handle the shop and see how it feels to be a boss and what I went through as well before I became a boss.
I felt so happy for hearing that from her because at first, I thought she hates me that why she blamed me for covering up, but now I realize that there is some price to pay before you can be a great person in life, even though the price might be high sometimes but still we have to pay it so that we can also be a great person and have some story to tell in the future.
This picture was designed by my fiance so that I can use it for my Facebook profile picture for my business.
These are some of my practicals at work then and it cost me $30 (#15000)
My boss told me that if I can't plait short hair that means and not a professional yet so I tried to so as she told me.
As you can see how short her hair is but I must make sure I plait it.
This is the outcome of the short hair and it cost me $10 (#5000), I plaited and my boss was happy that I could prove her wrong.
This is my boss head that I plaited for her because she believes that if I make her hair and people love it that means I am getting better with my learning so I did her hair too and she loves it, this cost me $10 (#5000)
This was the first time my boss asked me to make hair for her customer and I did it so perfectly because she loves it, that's me over there you can see how ugly and stressful I look while learning work
I did this on my own at home when my boss taught me another style of hair and I quickly grab one of my neighbor's children and make it on her head to make sure I get what I learn at work and this cost me just $3 (#1500)
There are lots more to show but let me stop here so that I won't waste so much of your time, life is all about the process because now I am a boss of my own even though I don't have a shop yet but I believe with the help of God and with the help of BCH I will open my shop
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Good evening everyone how was your day today and I hope you enjoyed your weekend
That reminds me did anyone see @Tired_momma today
I don't think I have seen her post today at all well I hope all is good with her and her family over there
I just missed her
The journey of me becoming a hairstylist
I mentioned in my post yesterday that I got sacked for taking what doesn't belongs to me just to pay my sister's hospital bills, and this makes me stay at home without doing anything.
I spent 6 months at home sleeping and waking, I know you will be thinking that can't I look for another job, yes I did look for a job but been a girl there are some conditions people will put you just because they know you are looking for a job so badly.
During those time I was looking for a job, one day I woke up so early did all that a woman should do at home (house chores) and dress up to go for job hunt hehehehe 😁 and I dressed to kill that day so that when they see a beautiful girl they can consider me.
But my dressing was the main problem I had that day because it seems like I was too sexy for the job, when I got there the manager asked me what I want I told him that I saw an advert on the Jiji platform that they needed front desk officer so am here to apply and he said I should wait that the boss will see me soon.
When the boss finally agreed to see me I was asked to go into his office and I did, when we started the interview it was a normal interview but when it got to the middle it turns to a sexual interview, the man is already at my back trying to seduce me why he's saying: this is what some other girls do to get employed so don't feel bad about it hmmm, just give me what you have and I will give you what you want. I quickly stood up I ran away before it turns to rape interview
When I got home I told my sister about it and she suggested that I should go and learn work, I was like at what age will I be run an errand for someone of my age and she said is it not better than working and still looks broke? So we contemplate on what I should learn and we concluded on hairstylist because I can make hair already even though I didn't learn, but it wasn't as perfect as someone that learned
The next morning my sister gave me money to look for where I can learn but the money wasn't enough so I called my fiance to help me with part of the money and he gave me everything, then he asked me to make use of the money my sister gave me before to do my transport fee so that I won't be broke completely
What a good man have got to myself, don't worry I will still write about how wonderful he has been to me and how we met each other, so I started learning work, but I only signed 6 months since I can make hair already so I believe it won't be hard for me to learn it faster, one week after my boss called me that I will have to be doing practical every week and I said ok since I want to learn very fast because age is not on my side,
Two weeks after I started doing my practical at work which cost me a lot of money and am using my transport fee money to do the practice because I have to buy materials (attachment) by myself and do it on someone's head, another week I did it again, after one month the money I have with me got finished and I began to struggle for the practical to happen.
Sometimes I make use of my feeding money to do it and I will stay hungry for the whole day but I didn't feel bad about it because I know what I want to gain in the end.
I didn't face anything so worse when I was learning but it wasn't that easy as am writing it now, the stress of trekking in the morning to work and trekking back at night again even though I was tired.
I will be talking about my experience when I was learning and there are lots of my practical I want to show you guys because you all need to hear it, learning work is not as easy as it sounds it takes a lot more.
Was I wrong or right?
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***It is said that the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step, yeah it does really step with a step and not just a step but with mindset and determination as well***.
This quote makes me remember how I started the journey of being a stylist, at first I never thought of becoming a stylist all I wanted was to be a programmer or a medical doctor, which I have mentioned in my post before but I guess life has something bigger and greater for me and that's why my dreams don't come through but still am happy with what am doing now.
**It all started like this**
Before I started to learn how to make hair, I was working in a guest house (mini-hotel) as a receptionist and I worked there for like 8 months, but during those days I was working I never enjoyed the fact that am working because my salary is not enough to live a normal life and the salary is always delayed until another month.
So before I receive the salary I would have owed a lot of depth in some shops where I normally buy things, and this makes me feel like am just struggling for nothing but still, I never stayed back at home, until one day that I got a call from my sister that she's very sick and she's at the hospital.
I lost concentrate on what I was doing at work and if you are working in a hotel or guest house, you need to be smart and concentrate always because will are dealing with big cash so we must not make any mistake and if you do, that means your salary will be deducted automatically at the end of the month.
To avoid my salary getting deducted I quickly rush into my boss's office to tell him what happened and to take permission so that I can check up on my sister, but my boss never allow me to go and see her but I wasn't mad at him because it was impromptu so I don't blame him for holding me back from going.
But when I closed I quickly rush there to check on my sister and her condition was too critical, then the doctor said I should quickly get $30(#1500) so that she can be treated immediately and we both don't have any money at hand because it is not yet month-end.
In the morning when I got to work I begged my boss to give me advance payment of my salary so that I can take care of my sister which is at the hospital, but he said: " he's not the cause of my problem" that simply means he can't help me.
When I got out of his office, tears roll down from my eyes because I have no other place to get such an amount of money, but I keep working and I never bother calling my sister back that I couldn't get the money because I don't want her to panic and got stucked with the sickness, I make some calls to ask for help but the response from who I called is that we should sleep with each other and then he will help me then, so I close that chapter because that is never a good option for me.
I kept working and praying in my mind that God should please help me because I don't want anything to happen to my sister before I close for the day my boss has left and he collected all the cash I make before he left because he thought I would take out of his money to sort my problem so he took everything with him when going home.
But after he left I made sales which are up to $100(#50,000), guess what I never think about it before I took the money to the hospital so that my sister can be treated since he has refused to help me then I helped myself, even though I knew what I did was bad and it is called stealing but I didn't feel bad about it, and I didn't run away from work.
The next morning when my boss checked the camera he saw all that I sold after he left and he asked for his money but I told him I used it for the emergency I asked for my advance salary for guess what, I got sacked immediately but I wasn't sad about it because my sister is been treated already that's what matters to me at the moment
But later when I got home and think it through I realized that I shouldn't have to take his money but at that time I was helpless, the person I thought I could ask for help made me understand that if he didn't sleep with me he can't give me a dime then what am I suppose to do?
Did I do the right thing or not?
If you are the one would you rather sleep with a man for that money or take it from the office account?
I will continue how the journey of a stylist started after losing my job on my next article
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Shocking moment I had with my mom
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I saw the challenge from @George_Dee and I decided to join because my mom gave me a lot of shockers in my life which am going to share some of it right now
Firstly let me tell you something about my mom, I always call her "iyabeji" English (mum twins) because she gave birth to twins and I am (Idowu) the third of twin and I have my junior sister (Alaba) the fourth of the twin that's how we count it here in Nigeria.
My mum should be called a disciplinary officer because she's just too strict when it comes to training children, sometimes I always think maybe she's not our mother because of the way she handled us with iron hands, lol 🤣 a "**woman of steel"** that's what I and my siblings call her at her back, enough of her because am sure you will be wondering what kind of shockers she must have given me that makes me feel this way, though I was a stubborn child as well still I wasn't expecting so much punishment from my Mom.
When I was in secondary school, I have this friend called funmi she likes me so much though she's older than me, we met at a computer school where my mom enrolled me so that I won't be playing too much in the street and she doesn't want me to have time for guys, even my junior sister was enrolled for tailoring as well,
My first day at the computer school it was me and funmi that came the same day and she's no more in secondary school while am still in secondary school but she likes me just the way I am, and one more thing that makes her like me is because I grabbed things easily than her so I always teach her later
We became so close to the extent that I always go to her house after we finish computer school, I have been doing this for quite a long time and my mom keeps wondering what always kept me at work so late, I call it work because am still school.
So one day our teacher ask us to go home as early as 6pm and she went out but I and funmi left the school around 4pm because we have so many places to touch before going home, meanwhile, my mom was waiting for me to come late so that she can give me some sugarcane, hehehehe 😁 don't get it twisted the sugarcane am talking about is actually cane(real beating), so she waited for so long I didn't come home
When it was 9pm she just saw someone walking so tired towards her and then she stood up and ask: where are you coming from ID? That's how she calls my name, then I was like from work now and she said I was at your work today around 6pm so where have you been?.
Trust me at that moment my spirit has already bounced out of my body because it won't be good for two of us to get hurt, I mean me and my spirit, and then she said "go inside" then I began to beg for mercy and our neighbors gathered together to beg for me.
I escaped sugarcane that night that wasn't the shocker, another beautiful day again she left us a message with one of our neighbors, that she will be doing overnight at work because she's a native nurse, guess what all of us were so happy eh because seeing her face alone is like fire from hell, so everyone thinks today we are going to enjoy ourselves to the fullest.
Then I invited funmi over to our house and we were there gisting, laughing and eating snacks as well because I do not go to computer school that day thinking that my mom is not at home, then nobody will beat me for anything.
Then we just heard the door opens and I and funmi asked: who is that? and when we got to the passage it was my mom then I realized am just walking dead this moment, but she surprised me because she didn't beat me or my friend, but she gave my friend and said: I will teach you a lesson you will never forget in your life and my mind started to raise up and down because I know what she's capable of doing.
She just went inside and packs lots of clothes and gave us soap to be washing it since we failed to go to school, she now said to my friend so you are the one taking my little girl out right? Since your mother didn't teach you then I will.
She gave funmi truck of clothes and the girl couldn't say no or run away so she began to wash and wash until 9pm then my mom said to her when you get home and your mother beats you today you won't come here to teach my girl how to walk all around the street again, I was shocked and I looked at her again thinking that how could she do this? She's just a girl like me and not a guy, if not I would have said I deserve it, but what can I do to her? Nothing because she's just trying to teach me so morals that will be useful to me in the future, but then I never knew.
Ever since then funmi never steps her foot into our compound again and I never stayed out late again because I don't want my mom to kill me with a cane
My mom is so strong and strict she's just like a man
Ungrateful heart
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*I have a very strong heart and mind and that is why it's hard for people to convince me of a particular thing, don't mind me that's just who I am, but when I visit this particular place in Lagos my heart melt I felt cold and worried for some kids life and future.*
There is this my customer that lives at Ketu in Lagos she always loves her hair tiny and long whenever she makes Ghana weaving, she's a Muslim and she covers her head that's why she won't allow me to snap it very well when through with her hair but next time I will capture it for sure. Someone introduced her to me and that was my first time going to her house, though I have made hair for her at her shop before but this time around she asked me to come to her house.
***Back to the main topic for today.***
When I went out that day to make her hair somewhere around Ketu, been the first time I was looking all around the place then I saw people who lives happily in a wooden house on top of swamped, water that doesn't flow is just there, so then I wonder how they cope with their lives over there, then I ask the driver that didn't they have mosquito here and he replied: madam the mosquito here can suck someone's blood finish because they are so big and strong.
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I felt bad hearing that because I know there are little kids there as well. And here in my place ikorodu Lagos some people are complaining that they don't want to live in a single room and parlor, they always say the mosquito is too much because of the canal close to the street.
Then it got me thinking why are some people so ungrateful for the little they have?
Why do some people complain too much?
All they ever want is to live perfect life meanwhile they forgot some is not even up to their standard not to talk of renting a room and parlor.
Then when we moved forward a little bit I saw some little kids coming out, and I felt bad seeing little children coming out of the swamp and their school uniform is so wet, am sure that's how they are going to school for the day.
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Meanwhile here in my area ikorodu Lagos common erosion doesn't disturb us from going out and yet some people will look at the sky and say why is it so cloudy and I don't like this road is too dusty, assuming those people living in swamped sees a dry land like this you think they won't be happy?
When I got to my destination I was so tasty for water then I asked my customer to give me one sachet pure water (sealed water) because I was thinking that their tap water won't be good for me, So she gave me one from her fridge and I put it down because it was too cold for me, after five minutes I took the water to drink as I cut the sachet guess how I felt awww🥺 that was the look on my face when the water touched my tongue, the water tasted salty and it was like the water that has been kept in a container for so long. Then I quickly dropped it and the woman asked what happened I told her that I forgot that am on fasting and she said ok, they don't even have good drinking water.
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Till I left there in the evening I wasn't tasty for water because the taste of the sachet water is still on my mind, but in my area, I don't even buy sachet water because our tap water is so good and it tastes fresh
I don't know why I won't be grateful to God because that experience is kind of funny, I can't imagine myself in such area am so sure I would have died a long time ago because of their water and mosquito.
My point is that in any situation let's be thankful to God, let's be grateful for what we have some people wish to be like us and some don't have the little that we have. Stop being an ungrateful soul to God.
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How my day went
*15th of September,2021*
*5:30pm*
Today has been a very stressful day for me and an emotional day as well, but along the line, I tried to get myself carried away with noise. cash platform but as we all know once your mood is bad nothing else matters unless your heart returned back to normal, then you can think of something else to do.
***This is how it all started...***
Early this morning around 3:15am I heard the electricity alarm from my sleep and I quickly woke up because have been waiting for electricity for the whole day, so that I can fetch water in the house.
When I got up and get to where I want to on the pumping machine, I discovered that the pipe that brings water into my apartment has been broken by some little kids that came to do holiday in another apartment, it got me so mad because I can't call anyone for help by that time so I manage to put on the pumping machine and fetch from the broken pipe.
This is the worse sign to start a day with I guess, but I didn't mind it at all since I can still get some water from the broken pipe is better to walk some miles before fetching water. After I fetch water finish I decided to make use of electric cooker to boil rice and make stew because I don't think the gas I have in my cylinder can finish up the cooking,
The rice is done perfectly as I want now it's time to make stew, pot is on the cooker and then I added everything I needed to except for one thing I normally add last whenever am making soup or stew which is maggi(seasoning). When it is time to add my seasoning I opened the plastic I normally put them guess what I found nothing inside the plastic, at that moment it was like the day should break immediately so that I can ask my housemate who finish one pack of seasoning just for two days.
I abandoned the stew on the cooker and I off the light then went back to bed because am having a headache already simply because my pipe was broken and now the seasoning to cook is all gone overnight.
When I woke up in the morning around 9:00am on the dot I quickly stood up and pray then I rush outside to get another seasoning because I have even forgotten all that happened at the midnight, I bought another 1pack of seasoning just because I don't like buying pieces so on getting back home I believe the little gas I have should cook my stew because there was no light again, hmmmm I turned on my gas and light it up then put the half done stew on it then went inside to get my phone so that I can capture the stew because I love taking pictures of my food, don't mind me am a foodie girl. laugh
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When I got back to the kitchen there is no sign of me putting on gas at all and I was surprised that what could have happened? so I took my matches again to on the gaslight only to find out that gas has finished, it was then I knew today is going to be a very bad long day for me.
I called my housemates because they are all awake already and asked them to borrow me gas guess what none of them has gas in their cylinder and one of them just said "wo ma binu jare emi no mo sare se ewa lori gas e lale ana" English (am sorry I was the one that makes use of your gas to cook beans last night) awwww I don't know what brought headache into my head immediately
Why I was angry is because the last money I had on me has been sent to my mom when she called that she's broke yesterday night before I slept, so now I have accepted my fate for the day is like they just sent all of them to me to ruin my day today.
Maybe by tomorrow morning I can change some of my BCH to feel my gas and fix my pipe as well
Today is really a bad day I have never experienced in my life before, all I ate today is snacks and water because I always have it at home.
Thanks for reading and how did your day went today?
Responsibility
*This post is not pointing a finger at anyone, is just what I think on my own and what I saw on social media*
*So don't take it to the heart...*
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*When did I say responsibility what was the first thing that came into your mind? Let me guess if you are a lady, you might be thinking oh thank God am not the one that will carry the responsibility of the house since am a lady, but did you know what responsibility is?*
**Responsibility** is the act of taking full charge of something. Am sure some will even be thinking that well thank God am just a girl automatically I don't have any responsibility to take charge of because my husband or fiance/ boyfriend will be the one to carry it all, but then I ask what about your own family? Are they your man's responsibility as well?
Let me burst your bubble, man is not the only one that has a responsibility to carry we all have a responsibility to carry as long as you are alive living either you are single, engaged, or married you have your own responsibility in life as well.
For instance, a single lady that says she doesn't have a responsibility, are you going into a relationship because you want your boyfriend to carry your life responsibility for you? Or let me ask if you are not lucky to have a man in your life won't you sort yourself out?
A lady that is engaged this ones are very bold to the extent of telling a man why did you got me engaged when you know you can't carry my responsibility? Well, let me ask you before you got engaged who was carrying the responsibility for you? Or you just manage to get him to engage you so that you can put all the load on his neck?
And as for married people these one's are very funny eh you will hear after all you are my husband so automatically my responsibility has become yours as well forgetting that their father is a man and their brothers too is also a man, some of them will always tell their brothers that you don't marry your wife just to finance her family but they want their husband to finance theirs, don't you know that when your husband head is full of responsibility he will begin to misbehave to you in the house but when you are helping him even if it is little it won't choke him
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*****Question for you.*****
Does the man look like a camel that can carry a load for over a million miles?
No they are not, they always have feelings and somethings to think as well, I believe we all should know that the know that even the weak also need someone to lean on sometimes
I watched one TV program and the host was talking about the responsibility of a man and a woman as a couple then she said "you don't go into marriage just to make your man truck that has nothing to do than to carry the load" and I reason that, that if my brother reports his wife of letting him finance her family all in the name of marriage I will be very mad at her because my brother is not a horse or camel that came to life just to carry loads for another person
Likewise, I can't do such for my man, look don't get me wrong on this aspect a man can help his wife, fiance/girlfriend to pay bills even he can send money to her parents as well but it is not an obligation or a duty. But some women have made it a duty call for their husbands.
You can ask and he can give you but don't you make a compulsory habit, see what you can't take don't do it for someone else because we all have a man in our family even if you don't have brothers you will have a father. Men are truly strong and they can carry anything as many as it is but that doesn't make us turn them into a truck and use them as we like.
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**My conclusion**
As a woman never depend on your man alone make use of your hands too and do something productive because sometimes they might fail you when you needed them most, though it might not be intentional but if you have something doing as well you won't always wait before you can lay your hands on whatever you want
And as a man don't think your woman is a golddigger because she always asks you for financial help, you are her supporter that's what you should always do
Tearful memories I am stuck with.
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Last night was emotional for me after watching a movie about what a widow went through just to keep her family together. It brought back the experience I have chosen not to forget in life, it is not a beautiful one but I believe it is one of the things that was destined to happen to me in life.
I mentioned before now in a post about the dismissal of my dad, I hate repeating it but you wouldn't understand the depth of how to hurt I was about this memory. My dad was a very popular businessman when he was alive, he was into interstate trades and he traveled a lot.
He was a philanthropy and was well known due to how he loves to help people especially kids, there were always a lot of goodies for kids in our house and mom usually reminds me of how he scolds us if we refuse to share with the kids around us. The church doesn't joke about his well-being because he supports God's work with everything he has but despite everything he didn't live long.
I am not blaming God or saying he shouldn't have died because he was doing well then, it just hurts to know that good people rarely last in the wicked world we live in. My dad's death turned around our smooth life into something terrible, it made life miserable for the whole family.
He had great plans for the family and his death wouldn't have changed anything if some humans didn't show how cruel they were to us. He built a big house, bought lands, and showed his first son everything about his business but none of these could help us after his death.
Not everyone who laughs with you is a friend, there are lots of wolves among us pretending to be sheep.
My Dad's family really showed my mom, great love, until my dad passed on, it was then they showed their real color.
They were all pretenders, waiting for the perfect time to strike, and fortunately for them, they got the opportunity. We were stripped of everything my dad left behind, the house, the properties, and his business. We were placed on a condition that my mom must marry one of my dad's siblings if she wants to take anything that belongs to my dad and my mom rejected the offer because of the love she shared with my dad.
She chose to be alone suffering than bending to their conditions, these people saw how tough it was for us surviving but they proved to be the devil's living among men.
We lived in an uncompleted building for years, it exposed us to a lot of dangers that God helped us overcome. We got help from the church but they didn't treat us like they would have done if my dad was there, because our pastor was the one who put us inside the uncompleted building in the church, but what choice do we have then? it made me understood that people would be good to you when they are benefiting from you.
Education stopped, the world paused and it looked like we never existed. The child of a cloth seller started wearing rags, the child of a meat seller suddenly started eating bones just to stay alive, it then occurred to me that there are two phases of the world and these made me advise people today to always appreciate the people or things that they have because the gap they will leave when they're not there anymore might remain empty for decades.
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**The turnaround.**
My mom decided to learn a trade instead of doing petty jobs since we were growing and responsibilities keep growing with no one to help, with that she can make more money for the family. God's bestowed his blessings on her and she started doing well with her trade.
She secured a good apartment and we returned to school, it was a government school but it was better than the wasted years at home. After secondary school, her kids started living home to find greener pastures to ease our mom's struggles and suffering because she was really pushing herself over her limit just to give us the best in life.
Today, I can confidently say that all her 10 kids are graduates and she has built her own house, something bigger than what my dad had.
Whenever I look back at the suffering, I can't stop myself from crying because a lot of shit went down then, sleepless nights because of cold and hunger because we mostly eat once a day at a point during the journey.
What am I driving at?
The beauty of life is not allowing challenges to overcome you in life, the experience made us really stronger and don't hesitate to do any job as long as it is legal because even my mom's female children would do difficult jobs men would be scared to take.
The journey to success wouldn't be beautiful if it just went smooth all through, some challenges would shake us to root but we mustn't lay down our weapons as long as the battle is still on.
The experience has taught me to be an independent woman because sometimes the least expected things happen in life and having yourself prepared ahead would give you an edge over it.
***Thanks for your time my readers***
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My first Work Experience
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Hello everyone, how are you all enjoying your new month? Yesterday I saw everyone posting on how big or small they have achieved on noise and read but as I am still very fresh here nothing to calculate yet and on noise,my account is not earning as well but I know with time it will come back to normal.
So today am talking about my working experience though I have plenty of working experience the good ones and bad ones so am just going to share one of it with you and thanks for reading.
***There is an adage that says "experience is the best teacher", I didn't understand it until I became an adult.***
After my secondary school education, I was patiently waiting for the JAMB exam so that I can go to the university. One of my elder sister-friend got me a job so that I won't just be at home sleeping and waking, it would be an opportunity for me to save some money ahead of my admission too.
The job was in a hotel, at first I didn't see anything wrong working in a hotel simply because I am not going there to sell my body for money, I am going there to work for my money but I never knew I was wrong until I started to work in a hotel as a receptionist.
Is there anything wrong been a receptionist? And is there any other thing receptionist does than to take a record of drinks and rooms then account to the manager? Here in my country some receptionist are still the one serving drinks, that's not my problem as long as am getting paid for my service.
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So when I resumed work, what I got there is different from the knowledge I had about the receptionist job. I was the other way around because what I was thinking is quite different from what I met at the hotel.
Then, I was just a little girl who just finished secondary school and doesn't know anything about life yet all I think of then is how to become a doctor in my life. To my little knowledge then, I thought if I worked and save up I will be able to achieve my dreams.
I have worked for two weeks already and everything was fine with me and my boss because I don't miscalculate and my account is always intact. On that faithful day, I went to make my hair been the first time and the hairstylist asked me to do eyelashes as well and I did it. In getting to my working place everyone was just looking at me as if one big madam entered inside hotel premises because my face looks different.
That same day after I finish selling drinks and giving rooms to everyone I needed to answer, I decided to make my account before I sleep that night because it's late and I couldn't go home. My boss just showed up and sat beside me talking but I didn't respond to him because am calculating the drinks which I sold for the day.
The next thing I heard from him was that I should take a gold circle and meet him in room 1 which is a personal room in the hotel. I looked up maybe it was the breeze that blew those words into my ear then I ask again, sir what did you say?
My boss: Take a gold circle condom and meet me in room 1.
Me: what is a gold circle?
Boss: are you a baby or haven't you seen it before?
Me: see what I don't know what you are talking about
Then he came inside the barricade that receptionist do stay and took out the gold circle condom, I laughed and told him is this not a balloon that little kids play with, he replied me what? No, it is used for sex.
I ask again so why did you want me to take it and follow you?
He replied again just take it and follow me.
That was how I got mad and yell at him saying:
What did you take me for?
What did you think am here for and besides you are old enough to be my father and yet you want to lay with me.
When he saw how mad I was he just said cool down, I was just playing with you and I thought you are a bad girl that's why I tested you, then my mind was at ease again.
The day I told one of the staff about it, I don't know why the girl opened up to me, maybe is God that wanted me to quickly leave that place. She told me everything about the man and every one of his staff he has slept with including her. In the end, she now said am the only one he hasn't slept with in the whole hotel.
I took a deep breath because I was confused why he's doing that but I didn't act as if I knew anything. I finished up my work for the day and acted as if am coming back the next day but in my mind, I am not going there again simply because I will be doing night shift the next day and if I don't agree with him he might want to force me that's why I quickly quit his job.
***Conclusion...***
My conclusion now is that why do all these old men keep spoiling little girls life?, assuming I wasn't mad at him that day he would have gotten me and have his way with me.
Everyone should always train their children especially girls to be smart and always vigilant simply because there are lots of bad men out there looking for little girls to destroy.
*Now when I noticed any man making any funny moves around me I know where he's heading to even without him saying anything to me because my experience has taught me a lot .*
Introductory post
Hi I'm Esther by name, but my friends and family calls me esthery simply because it is originated from the Bible, I am from a family of nine and I am the 7th born of the family. I am from Nigeria,ogun state to be precise and I did almost all my schooling in ogun state(ijebu-ode). During my primary school days in ogun state, I have a dream of becoming a doctor just because I love the way they save lives and handle things neatly.
But along the line before I finish up my primary school, my father died and that was how the dream of becoming a doctor started to fade away. My mummy was a full house wife then, she doesn't have a job to sustain the family needs when father passed on.
On getting admission into secondary school my dreams changed, I had to go for something that would be realistic for me so I started learning about computers which includes hardware and software. I chose science class to start learning it all from the scratch and my mom even enrolled me into a computer school aside from my secondary School, that is where I learnt how to operate computer and so some tricks with it.
Then I have started designing websites and making a lots of editing on computer packages like Corel draw, adope pagemaker, Excel etc because I was able to learn all easily.
I got admitted into the Lagos State polytechnic (laspotech) just to further more since I started having passion for programming and all that time I was working in a factory that produce noodles (Dangote Noodles).
Due to the harsh condition of the economy, I wasn't able to continue as a professional programmer simply because our lecturers can't even handle a common computer packages not to talk of writing a correct program and run it successfully. I wasn't financially bouyant to learn outside the school so I just hold onto the knowledge I got from my friends in school.
Due the absence of job in the country, I decided to go for learning handwork and quit my job after my schooling at the Lagos State Polytechnic.
I started to learn hair stylist from someone close to my area though I will still have to take motorcycle there but it is not to far from my house, during the first month I always take bike or motorcycle but when my boss explain to me that I have to make sure I did one practical (making hair) per week then I stop taking bike and start keeping my transport fare for the the practicals.
And that was how I started trekking from my house to work in the morning and trek back at night, it wasn't an easy task for me at all because for someone that has been working collecting good pay to quit job and start all over again, it was a very big challenge for me then but with the help of God, my sister and my fiance then I acquired the handwork successfully.
How I got to know about read.cash
I have been to so many blog platforms like Uprennd and I always make sure I did my best to give the best but as the platform crashed I decided to stick to my work alone until one of my friends on Uprennd invited me to noise.cash so that I can continue with my writing skills.
And from noise.cash I always see people posting link of read.cash and I always wondered what they do here as well then I asked around how to open an account here, but I made a mistake of asking for link to open the account to I just went to my chrome and typed read.com and chrome brought it for me then I opened this my account.
**Things to expect from me**
I am a random writer who loves to explore the world of writing, I easily write the things happening around me.
Regardless of what I wrote, I would always give my best to the platform.
The mistake I made
I never knew I will write an introductory post here because on Uprennd I never did. A member on the platform called my attention to it that I should make an introductory post first before doing anything (article) here but as it is now I have posted some articles already before realizing that I needed to make this introductory post.
***I hope it is not too late for me to make this introductory post because already a week older here.***
Hello everyone how have you all been, Am so sorry I don't reply everyone's comment, I was so busy all through today
Because I went to make hair for my customers, it was fun but stressful as well as soon as am settled I will definitely reply all of my comments, how did you all spent you weekend
Am so sorry once again for not been active for the whole day Happy Sunday and happy weekend
What are the things you can't do without?
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What are the things you can't do without in a day, I read an article from @CarlosAndJane and @Princessbusayo telling about the things they can't do without so I decided to join the challenge because I found it quite interesting. An article like this would suit the weekend since it is fun day for me and many other users on the platform.
There are so many things we can't do without as a human, some of these things are not natural things and we still can't do without them. Let take for instance accessories, internet, jewelry and others aren't really a must for us but because we are use to them and some parts of our daily life, some people's business depends on them that's why they can't do without them for a day.
I would split these things into two which are natural and man made things we can't live without.
Some natural things we can't do without are:
**Air**: There is nothing that can do without air even non living things will be affected without air and that is while I call it natural thing. Air is important because there is no life without, it is the reason why we are still alive.
**Water**: Am sure everyone knows that there is nothing that can survive without water, though some creatures don't use much water but they also make use of it. I personally can't do without water because it is required to bath, cook , drink, wash and do numerous things outside the home.
**Food**: I don't know if anyone have ever done without food for a whole day before and if you have, am sure you know how worse you will feel for not eating. Food is something every living soul can't do without though you might not be eating much but at least you put something in your belly is important.
I love food and I feel sick if I skip my meals repeatedly, regardless of how small my meals are, I ensure I eat three times a day.
*****Now to talk about things am use to that I can't do without*****
**Phone**: I don't know why but I can't do without my phone for a minute not to talk of a whole day because when I wake up in the morning I grabbed it first and when am going to bed it will still be the last thing to drop, so tell me how I can do without it.
My phone is important because I use it for a lot of things which includes my business, interacting with people and others. It has been part of my life for quite some time now and i appreciate how much it has impacted my life positively.
**Clothes**: No one wants to go out naked, it is one the main reason why we wear clothes. The history behind wearing clothes in the Bible still makes me laugh because I always imagine what the world would have looked like if we were all naked.
**Data/Subscription**: Without data or subscription on my phone it will look like the whole world is asleep because everything will seems boring to me, so automatically I can't do without data on my phone.
There are some other things I can't do without but those three things are the main major thing that makes me feel good and ok in a day.
For instance **Bible**: I do read Bible but not every day and not every time because I won't lie about that but sometimes I do take it and read even in the midnight
Imagine my phone without data, how will I be able to get engage with all my online stuffs and I live alone so I can only get in touch with my loved ones through internet so if I don't have data how do I do all that in a data?
What's your story?
***This is my story***
When I first saw this short sentence guess where my mind went, firstly I thought of how far I have gone in life but then my mind came back to my real story and this is how it all started.
I am Esther by name but my family loves to call me "Esthery" because they believe that name has a Royal influence since the name originated from a queen in the Bible so they love to call it in our native language.
Though life was sweet for my family from the start because my father was once a very rich and famous man in my state then though I was still very small to know it all whenever my mother remembers the sweet times she shared with my father, she always tells us stories about my father.
She always emphasizes how happy and beautiful the family was when my father was alive because he was a perfect husband and a father every child wants in life. He worked day and night to give his kids a good life and the best education.
He always wanted us to be a graduate but death cut his dreams short, I was too young when it happened and I believed that it affected my mom and the older siblings more because I didn't understand anything yet except for food but as I was growing, I started understanding what it meant to lose the breadwinner of the family. Life became very difficult for us as a family since my mother was forced to be a full housewife.
***This is how little I started dreaming in the family.***
When I was little, I always dreamt of becoming a doctor because I love the way they save lives and how they go about doing things very neatly.
As a kid, I never knew what life has in store for me, because then my parents were rich and were living a very comfortable life. When you are living a comfortable life nothing else will matter to you and you will never think of a bad turnaround in life because no one prays for that.
My dad was a businessman, he does travel all over the states by road to deliver goods like mats, raw foodstuffs, property, etc he used to drive trailers to Kaduna(northern part of Nigeria) frequently because that place is closer to his biggest market and customers.
Anytime he comes back home he always sat us down ( me and my siblings) to ask what we want to become in life then everyone will share what they have in mind.
But as a little girl I just love the way doctors dress and the neatness they apply at what they do always, I never knew it takes a lot of things which I later discovered when I started growing up.
But the thing that shocked me most was the death of my dad because I am very sure if he was still alive I would have become someone I wanted to be in life. Another thing I discovered then is that I love writing things so that made me have a private diary that I always write so many things inside when I was growing.
It made me sad as knowing that I won't become a doctor in the future since nobody was willing to help me or my mom. I started to lose hope in everything I knew how to do when I was little but one thing that never leaves me till now is my writing skills.
I was scared of writing sometimes because I always feel like will people like what I wrote? Will they read my content?
But when I get to know about read.cash I said to myself I will give it a try and see if am still that Esther that loves to write because then nobody touches my little diary in the house. Growing up to be an adult took a lot away from my writing skills because I am working for about 14 hours a day just to support the family and go to school even though becoming a doctor was out of my plan. I now have a lot to think of now than writing inside my diary, though I still have one (dairy) but sometimes I don't normally remember to write in it.
Responsibility took over my writing skills but today I have decided to take up the challenge since I work as my boss and there is no wrong in doing multiple things as long as it makes me happy.
Today, I am happy that I am finally a graduate after many years of struggling and I am sure my father would be proud of me wherever he is because I filled out of the many dreams he has for us. My siblings are all graduates as well and we are one big happy family again even though they are all married.
We miss our father despite the good life we are having today, his death was for a purpose and I believe God knows what we don't know.
@Esthery97
