Friends and friendship

Friendship is not made by choice, friendship is formed. Friendship is not something to be found, friendship is to be formed." - The first part of the parable

Friends come and go in everyone's life. Some friends last a lifetime, some friendships fall apart. Someone sitting next to you on the first day of school is a lifelong friend. Many days when two people work side by side, they don't become friends in time.

"Better a poor horse than no horse at all." - The first part of the parable

A part of life is spent with friends. Time with friends is an important part of life. A Canadian study found that 2,000 years ago, 18- to 24-year-olds spent 120 minutes or two hours a day with friends. Due to social media and other reasons, it is currently 60 minutes on average. I told him not to talk about thirty or fifty.

"Friendship is not the fate of the lottery, it is the development of friendship between two people." - The fourth part of the parable

A study of tens of thousands of people found that - sixty percent of people think - friends are the most important part of their lives, for less than half the people the most important is money, then a job, in fourth place - family!

"A good friendship is one that combines good and bad in one's position. A friend does not need to change himself to be good. For a friend to change himself, it is not friendship - distance. - The first part of the parable

How many friends do people have in life? A maximum of 400 friends come into people's lives through various personal relationships. Most of them have more or less contact with 30 people. Therefore, only 1 out of every 13 friends survives in time. All an average calculation.

"Good friendships are a source of some good thoughts." - The second part of the parable

There are two to five people in most of the lives of close friends. Again, half of these five people are contacted only six times a year on average! The other half is just friends, not communication. As a close friend, most people have one or two in their life, at most three.

The huge part is not actually friends, just social identities.

"Friendship doesn't happen by force, it doesn't last. Friendship grows like a shadow between two people." - The fourth part of the parable

A study by MSN Messenger found: Girls keep in touch with their friends more than boys. Girls meet or communicate with their friends two to three times a week. In that case the boys only once a week.

Research on social media has shown that the list of virtual friends overflows in the list of young generation, but in real life the number of their friends is less than the previous generation. Many people change friends at the end of the day to see no one beside.

"A real friend is - he understands what is not said; well-wishers have to explain it." - The first part of the parable

A portion of those between the ages of eighteen and twenty-five - communicate with friends once a week in text format, even if they don't meet once a year. They are called Silent Friends. They are not by the side of the real danger, but at other times they are by the side in vain!

Boys care less about friendships. They always like to increase the number of new friends. Girls take more care of the friendship that is formed by keeping the number of friends low.

Boys are called friend hunters, girls are called friend farmers. Boys see quantity, girls see quality.

A common trend on social media - be it Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, when added to the friend list, people think that they have become their friends or they have become people's friends. Not everyone thinks that way.

How many terms do social media use to attract. These terms tempt to be associated with each other. The apps have given a name to who will be connected to a network. What Facebook calls friends, what Instagram calls following. Google Plus is called Circle, Twitter is called Follower. Again, if you join a Facebook group, you are not called a friend, even if you add a childhood friend. There your Category: Member. If you click the like button on the page again, you will be just a follower!

Turns out it's all the same. A journalist from the West joked that the friend list of social media is a decent version of dating apps!

In fact, no one has more than two or three close friends. The rest is just social identity.

Sociologists have studied the extent to which a person can be called a friend if they know the boundaries of social identity and friendship - a common ground for feeling is formed when two people spend at least 90 hours together after getting acquainted with a person. , Then the two relationships can be called friendship. These ninety hours mean that if you spend an hour meeting a person every day, even after ninety days or three consecutive months, the two can be called friends. This is why it can be seen that the friendship is formed as the childhood relationships go through many years and reach this minimum level. As a result, the number of friends does not increase much. Because that minimum time is not in anyone's hands.

Research has also shown that it only takes ninety hours to be a friend, it takes a minimum of 200 hours to be a close friend!

"An intelligent friend is better than a beautiful one to see as a friend. An honest person is better as a friend than an intelligent one." - The third part of the parable

Source:

1. Parables: first, second, third and fourth volumes; Apurba Chowdhury

2. Psychology Today

3. Oxford Academic Journal: Innovation in Aging

4. Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health: BMJ