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A friend of mine asked a question a week ago on his Whatsapp status, paraphrasing, 'What shapens someone's character, the family or the environment?'

I know that various factors mold a person's character and beliefs but undoubtedly, those two are the main ones.

I'll tell you the answer we later agreed on.

You might have seen some people refer to a 10-year-old that was supposedly gang-raped during a school competition held in Dubai in their articles.

The whole issue started when she was suspended indefinitely from the school, her parents didn't understand the reason for the suspension as they thought she was raped.

A family friend called the school out on Twitter and boom, the whole thing escalated. It turned out they made a video in which reports said that she was fully aware. The video, apparently showed that the sex was consensual and didn't look like it was forced one bit.

Reports said there are other videos of even a supposed threesome, bloggers discovered that she even has a likee account where she posts sultry videos and has accumulated quite a number of followers.

Obviously, several people have different opinions on the matter.

Some felt that it was due to bad parenting, they said it looked like the videos she made was shot at home, and that her parents must have been negligent.

Some felt the school was at fault for not putting strict measures in place in Dubai. Let's be honest, there is only so much the school can do, a parent that followed her child to Dubai even said that the teachers were strict and she didn't understand how those kids managed to pull it off.

I don't blame either of them.

As someone said in a tweet yesterday, 'i don't think there is a code to parenting. We should just try our best according to our beliefs and verifiable information available and hope to get lucky with how our kids turn out'

If you think the parents weren't very strict, maybe they weren't, maybe they even neglected her but what about those that the parents tried so hard to raise in a godly way.

I know someone, personally, who was born in a Christian home, her dad is a pastor, her ear isn't even pierced and she wasn't allowed to wear trousers or make her hair a certain way.

When she entered the University, she went out of hand, she deliberately wanted to get involved in what her parents tried so hard to shield her from and now, what she does puts pornstars to shame.

The funny thing is that when she gets home, she's this calm, prayerful person, the people her parents condemn is even better than her kind of person.

She has a sister, her sister is exactly the kind of person her parents wanted to raise, the exact opposite of her.

They were under the same parenting, what went wrong?

This is where my answer to the first paragraph comes in.

Individuality.

Our parents may try to tell us what to do, they probably introduce religion and try to inculcate their beliefs and standards.

The environment could be where we grew up, the society, social media, friends, and so many other external factors.

It's completely left to us to choose what factor shapens us, which shapens our decisions.

I'm extremely scared of parenting, what if my child decides to ignore my attempts at inculcating him/her and decides to go along with friends or the society.

It's a scary world out there.

Do you think differently? You can share your thoughts in the comment section.

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April 19, 2022.

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