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She decieved me Why are you crying,I told you God will answer us in his own time,you don't need to weep my darling, did you just say I shouldn't weep,we have been married for over 5years and no child yet,is it until you marry another wife or your family send me packing ? Am so tired of this,so so tired. Tomorrow we will go and see our family doctor again,I know everything will be fine, just calm down. Good morning doctor,we came for another check up, please tell us what is wrong,why are we not having kids yet, please doc. If anything is wrong please talk to us about it so we can find solutions to it. Mr David I told there is nothing with you and your wife,you are perfectly okay, medically you are fine, nothing is wrong with you. God will answer you in his time,he will hear your cries. After about a year something came up,the wife's friend came to David and told him she has a secret to tell him about his wife and the doctor, believe me or not when you first got married your wife was using pills so she won't get pregnant but it didn't go well for her because she had complications and her womb had to be removed by your doctor,for you not to know anything your wife begged your doctor to keep her secret from you and in return she would do anything the doctor wants,so the doctor agreed to keep her secret and in return she will always sleep with him,so that has been happening for years.(her friend decided to open up because she can't take it anymore). No no no!!!! I don't believe you,this is not true,my wife can't do such a thing,she can't be this wicked,no I don't believe you,why will my wife take pills? Why? Why are you telling me this? You want to break my home? Is that why you are saying all of this? I don't trust you!!! If you like don't believe me,am only telling you this for your own good,what will I gain if I lie against your wife,am only telling you the truth,go and ask her if she's going to deny it. David rushed home to meet his wife,he was literally shaking,he was perplexed with what he heard,he confronted his wife immediately and Atlas! That woman was telling the truth,he told her to call the doctor and tell the doctor to come over to their house,when the doctor arrived he pointed a gun at the doctor but the doctor was able to escape but he couldn't do anything to his wife because he loved her so much,he decided to pack his belongings and leave the house for her because the truth was so shocking for him to take in,she begged and begged him but all fell on a deaf ears,so David left his wife for good because he was surprised his wife could decieve him that much. Thank you for reading and thank you to all my upvoters.

Effective health tips What The Shape And Texture Of Your Faeces Is Saying About Your Health *Poop also known as faeces or stool is a normal part of the digestive process. It consist of waste products that are eliminated from the body via the anus. Poop can vary in it's colour, odour, and texture. It can also indicate your present health condition.* *Poop Shape, Texture And Their Health Meaning:* *1) Separate lump poop: hard stool often come out in separate lumps and can be painful to pass out. It's a sign that it sat in the large intestine for an extended period. It means you're constipated and you need to drink more water.* *2) Sausage shaped but lumpy poop: this signals that your waste hung around the intestine long enough to become dried out.* *3) Sausage shaped with cracks: this poop is a sign that you need to drink more water to be hydrated.* *4) Sausage shaped, soft and smooth: it's a clear sign that you are eating well and staying hydrated.* *5) Soft blobs with clear cut edges: it's considered to be a loose stool common among individuals who have bowel movement two or three times a day.* *6) Watery poop: advanced stage of diarrhea as a result of the irritation of the small intestine.* How to take care of the toilet when you are done; Always cover the sink before flushing- alot of people always open the sink when flushing,this is not good enough because when it is opened the germs in it will spill out and spread to the sink surface or the floor or even your body, cultivate the habit of closing the sink lid before flushing. Always use germicide- the likes of Dettol,jik and other effective germicide for cleaning your toilet to avoid germs from spreading all over. Always use air freshener- this is very important in the toilet,it lessen the smell and makes the toilet smell fresh . *Thanks so much for reading.*🤗🤗🤗🤗 *Remember to drop your questions and comments.*🌹

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Your attention is needed Blessed is the single child of her parent,they are very rich,her dad is a politician and her mom is a business woman,they hardly stay at home,so blessed spends most of her time with the househelp while growing up,when she was in primary school,her teachers would call for a general meeting but her parent won't be available because all they talk about is work,they don't have time for their child,one day one of her classmate bullied her in school,she was so eager to get home and tell her father but her father wasn't around and her mother too couldn't listen to her,all they care about is money money money,they will always give blessed enough money more than necessary so that she won't lack anything but blessed was lacking parental care and love. This continued like that through her secondary School stage ,she was always with the nanny,her parent doesn't even have the time to drop her in school, while the father might have gone for his political career,the mother too would have gone for one of her business trips. Her father don't really know her school while her mum has gone there once when she was going to her secondary School the first time claiming they are very busy. After writing her senior school examination she got admission to one of the prominent University in her state,she was so happy that she rushed home but she didn't meet anyone at home so she waited for her mom,she wasn't going to sleep this because her mom must know about her admission,so she waited for her till she came back that night,she ran to her mother and didn't even wait for her to say anything before telling her she got admission into the university,her was so happy and they started preparing everything she will need in school,so the day of resumption came,both parent decided to drop her off in school just because it's her first day in school but her mum couldn't enter her room,they were in a hurry, she told her parent to come see her room but they said they would see it some other time so they zoomed off. She was so sad that her parents don't have her time,she started experiencing University life, she realized it was different from secondary School life, everyone in her lodge know she is the daughter of a rich man, automatically she is rich because there is nothing she doesn't have,she has a car too. So one day the cultist in her school decided to double cross her and bring her to their midst,they told her to join because they need her in their midst,she turned their offer down saying she won't join them, she wanted to talk to her parent about what she is facing in school but they would always say don't worry I will see you tomorrow...... When she went home for break,she decided she would tell her parent by all means but her parent did not give her listening ear as usual, her father told her tomorrow morning you can come and talk to me but right now I am so tired,so when it was morning she rushed to her dad's room but her dad has gone to work and she was so devastated because she needed to talk to someone about the happenings in her life,when she got back to school she decided to join them,there was nothing she could do because they were threatening her already,she was initiated,she started joining them in their meetings,she would ask a huge amount of money from her parent,they would give her and not even asking her what she would use the money for, that's how she ask money regularly from home,her parent believe they need to give her the money so she won't lack anything in school. So one day they were having a cultist celebration when the police came to arrest them, some got away but blessed wasn't lucky enough to run away,she was caught and taken to the police station with some others,when her parent heard about this they were surprised and devastated,they had to rush to the police station,her mum was weeping while her dad was shaking his head, why did you do this to us,we gave you everything you needed,you have ruined my political career her father said...... Yes you gave me money but you never gave me your attention as a parent, all you care about is money money money,you never gave me the love and care I needed,I can't count how many times I came to you to talk to you but you've always ignored me,I didn't regret joining the team, at least they gave me listening ears,all you care about dad is your political career, let's see where your political career will take you to now when they hear your daughter is a cultist and mum too,you are always talking about your business,you are suppose to take care of me,take care of the home but no,you are always going on one business trip to another.... blessed was so angry that she had to pour out all her mind. Her parent regretted not been available for her but it was too late. Train up your child in the way he should go involve you taking care of them, showing love and attention to them so they won't go astray because your children are your future so don't give up on them.

Mauling in a relationship Did you just slap me tunde? Like seriously,what is wrong with you? What did I do wrong this time that you can't correct me with your mouth? (Still sobbing) we are not even married and you always slap me!!!! Am done with this relationship,am done! Please am very sorry it was a mistake,it wasn't intentional, please don't leave me,I can't live without you,I promise I will change I won't hurt you anymore,please Sandra, i beg you don't leave me please (he knelt down begging her),I promise you I won't slap you again or raise my hand to hit you again, please don't leave,I won't be able to survive it. Leave me alone tunde, you are always apologizing,let me be,am going home,she left him there and went home. When she got home she met her mother, what is wrong Sandra ,why is your face swollen,have you been crying? What happened? "Her mother said". Mum it's tunde, tunde slapped me, again? Why? I told you,you will have to leave that relationship,it's not good for you,the man is never going to stop slapping you,when you get married he will take it to the next step by beating you,leave that guy,leave tunde and move,that is my motherly advice for you.... But Mom it's not easy like that ,I still love him,he said he will change and I believe he will change mom... Still talking when her phone rang, gbrammmm,she checked it and saw it is tunde,she didn't pick up the first and second time,she later picked up, what is it why are you calling me? I told you to leave me alone!!!! Stop disturbing me!!! Please baby, please I promise to stop beating you, Please don't go away, please marry me,I will be a good husband, she was so surprised to hear that from him and she agreed to marry him ,after six months they got married and a new life began ..... He started to beat her steadily,she lost her first pregnancy due to the beating she got from her husband,she got pregnant again,this time around she didn't lose the pregnancy,she gave birth to the baby and everything was fine for a little while until after 5month , she went to her parent house and complained but her mum told her she already told her not to marry him but she refused saying she loved him. Mum I am very tired of all this(weeping) am so tired,he beats me almost everyday, what did I do wrong to deserve this,what did I do wrong? Sandra said" I told you before,that your husband is a bad man,I told you not to marry him didn't I?? But you let love cloud your reasoning,now see where the love has brought you to,see for yourself, you better leave the marriage now before it's too late for you,leave the marriage before he kills you with beating....I have said my own now,he who has ear let him hear what the spirit has said.... Mum I can't leave now,I have a child already for him,I can't leave my baby alone or let my baby grow without a complete family,I can't do that.....I can't (shaking her head). Oh really you can't leave now,when he kills you with beating please tell me who will take care of the family? Won't your baby live without you then,will you be able to take of your family again? Your baby will grow without a mother,is that what you want??? I pity you, what you don't leave will leave you later when you don't find solution to it,a word is enough for the wise "her mother warned her sternly". But she was adamant until she was hospitalized one day after her husband beat her to stupor and she was on the verge of losing her life,so she decided to pack her things and move out for a while... You don't deserve the beating!; Have seen a lot of women go through this,I wrote this due to the happenings around us, sweethearts you don't deserve the beating, some will even say he will change,he won't change o,a man who loves a woman dearly will never raise his hands on her because of anything,he will always cherish her,you don't need to go on with the violence,it won't stop once it starts,you will find someone who won't raise his hands on you and love you so much, don't be decieved by love, don't be blinded, open your eyes wide to the warnings, don't ignore it because you won't be able to correct it anymore when it all gets to the point where you realize he won't ever change but got worse, marriage is a life time contract,check and re-check, don't jump into an abusive marriage,when he slaps you during courtship,it means he will beat you during marriage because marriage magnifies issues. You deserve a better person, leave an abusive relationship,you deserve to be happy,you deserve to be loved. Thanks for reading up to this place.. Happy new year 🎉

A man who deserves a submissive woman Recently the issue of submissiveness seem to be raising dust and I understand why it's suddenly becoming so controversial. It is naturally expected of a woman to be submissive to men,we do not need to worry about that but we need to address something.... *HOW SUBMISSIVE ARE YOU SIR TO THE AUTHORITIES IN YOUR LIFE?* _Can your leaders, pastors,lecturers and elderly ones vouch for you?_ Pls note that Sisters no longer accept proposals from just anybody. They are beginning to watch as we pray. The Marriage Committee might forget to ask you but can you stand among people and beat your chest that you won't be found guilty if you were weighed on the Scale of submissiveness? When your mum tells you to wash the toilet before going out hope you don't usually pick up your bag and walk out of the door telling her to send someone else? That is so common among men, thinking it's the ladies work to wash the toilet and not theirs, hope you are submissive to your parents? When the President said everyone must wash their plates after eating during an outreach hope you weren't part of those who yourself as a Big boss and dropped it for others to wash? Brothers will even be gisting after eating and waiting for those who brought the food to come and pack the plates themselves inspite of the Papa's instruction. Before you say your younger Sister isn't submissive did you check your own Character? Or do you think it's easy to live with someone who doesn't respect anybody? It's not easy to live with someone who regards no one,try it yourself and see how it's going to be..... some people are praying to marry a Good woman, God keeps shaking His head because it's difficult for Him to give a Lady He has invested heavily on to an unbroken man,a man who is not ready, a man whose journey has been on pride,a man who thinks he can't do any house chores for the lady at home,a man who thinks it's the woman job. Can any man say Lord give me a woman with the Same character I have? Can you do that? Do you want that same woman as you? Can you stand boldly and say that? A woman might endure an unsubmissive man because the society has trained her to take whatever is being thrown at her but have you not read that God Himself said "Stiffness of heart" is similar to the sin witchcraft? Pls let us leave behind this African beliefs, some of what our fore-fathers has done then and believed in is not working for this our generation,let us do everything in love. I hope you find this article useful...

What are we? What are we? Am asking you all over again!!!! ,I have given you everything,my body,my money and heart,are we just mere friends?!! She said No we are not just friends we are more than a friend but we are not in a relationship,he said" I told you am not ready for a relationship yet,I am not ready!!! But I love you and you know that. Loving me is not enough,why did you fight so hard for my attention when you know you dont want this...... Anytime we are in bed you always make out with me knowing the extent of my love for you,what will I tell my friends if they ask me are we in a relationship? Will I say no but he loves me, does it make any sense to you? What really changed, you asked me out first,so now you are not ready for a relationship? Why? Binta was frustrated to know Mike doesn't want a relationship but she has given Mike everything,to her it seems they are in a relationship but to Mike they are not... Are we ever going to be in a relationship mikee? I don't know binta,let the future decide,I can't decide now it's only God that knows the future. Really? Mike you can't decide? Do you think I have been giving you everything on the bases of no relationship? Are you serious right now? Why all these ,why are you doing all this? So you are saying we are not in a relationship right, no problem...how I wish I never ask ,how I wish I treated you the same way you treated me . Binta's thought (so Mike thinks am a fool,he will call me anytime and I will respond to him,so he just wants to use me then move on, always calling me the love of his life but still not ready for a relationship,I really need to leave this thing ,I need to move on, not interested in this anymore). Stop tagging along; Alot of people are also in these kind of relationship,stop been a fool,if he/she doesn't want a relationship,move on , leave that shit behind,stop tagging along because in the future when anything happens they will ask you,are we in a relationship?? Why are you doing this or that?, that is when you will face some sort of heartbreak. That relationship must be defined,it's either it is official or it's not a relationship,define your relationship so that you won't feel a heartbreak later. Know your worth; Know you are worth more than the way you are been treated, some other people want you as their queen or king,they are desperate for you,stop letting other people make you feel worthless... know your value👌,if you don't know your value you will be trampled upon, don't let relationship useless you,go for someone who's worth you,who knows your worth,who will be there for you no matter what..... because if anything happens you will hear the other person saying "were we dating"? ""Are we in a relationship"? Know your worth. I hope you find this write up useful.

Stop living in the past The saying for which this phrase is probably most famous dates back to the 17th century when James Howell, an Anglo-Welsh historian and writer, used the phrase “No weeping for shed milk” in his book, “Proverbs in 1659”. Over the years, this saying has been modified to the more popular versions it is today - “No use crying over spilt milk” or “Don’t cry over spilt milk”. However, the meaning has essentially remained the same: there's no point in being upset, and remaining so, over something that has already happened and cannot be changed, especially as the clock keeps on ticking and the earth continues its revolution no matter what. “Crying over spilt milk” is a phrase synonymous to living in the past. And the admonition not to do so is simply an admonition that it is not advisable, however comforting it may be, to dwell on an irreversible mistake or unfortunate circumstance for too long. The better alternative is to pick up the pieces and try to make something worthwhile out of what is left, in whatever way possible. It may be hard, but that’s the only true way forward. Sometimes, we make very costly, defining errors which chill us to the bone. It may be easier to wallow in self-pity and regrets and thinking of the what-could-have-beens. However, it’s more important to take those errors as learning curves, as stepping stones on which to leap onto greater things. Instead of dwelling on the mistake, why not take as much information from that mistake and learn from it so it’s not repeated. Or better still, so an improvement is made. The unpleasantness of a sorrowful past when remembered with sorrow always leaves with it a bitter taste. It causes one to forget the pleasantness of the present and fall back into the terribleness of that past. Memories can be good, even the bad ones. What we have to do with the bad ones is use them to propel us forward, not hold us back. The simple truth is that life doesn’t offer enough time to dwell on negative incidents. There is a need to move on because time doesn’t take a pause to allow you to gather yourself. As it is bluntly said, “Life goes on”, so one can’t truly afford to live in the past. Note that this is not meant to discount the recommended grieving needed to heal from a loss. And while it may generally seem somewhat rude and insensitive, especially to a grieving person, it is perhaps necessary to jolt back to the reality of the present, someone who got lost staying in the past. Basically, take as much time as is needed to get over it, but don’t take too much. Don't dwell too much on that thing that has happened,move forward,plan another thing,take another step because dwelling on that mistake will only leave you in one position. I hope you are feeling great in this season. Thanks to everyone supporting me with upvotes and sponsorship.

Are you enjoying your Christmas? Tips on how to make these Christmas memorable. It's another day of the season,a day family unite, friends unite in joyful charade,a day when people forget about their hurt from the past and focus on the moment... Christmas is a day of our Lord Jesus Christ,a day when Christians celebrate the birth of Christ. Well for me,my mum's sister came around,we prepared melon soup and pounded yam,in this part of the world that we are,it's either pounded yam or jollofrice and trust me you will love it,so my aunt helped us to pound the yam and my mom prepared the melon soup,it was so sweet, although I prepared jollofrice yesterday so we decided to eat pounded yam today,That's it for the food. We made some ribbons to decorate our house and it is beautiful,am planning to go out to see my friends later in the day,they are already expecting me because we want to cook and play games together 😁. You might be thinking on how to make this season memorable here are some tips on how to celebrate your Christmas; How to celebrate your Christmas joyfully; Turn up the light; make the house glow,not everything is money if you don't have the money for expensive decorations try ribbon,make some decorations with ribbon Like I did mine, trust me it's going to be beautiful and if you have the money, Christmas light is not expensive, decorate with Christmas light and of course you can get Christmas tree . Unite with your family; enjoy the moment with your family,we all know Christmas is a time where family reunite and all grudges against each other are forgotten,try to prepare food, if you don't have all the money,then tell everyone to contribute,that alone is beautiful, like cooking together. Watch some Christmas movies, forget about horror movies for now,play games together, invite friends, enjoy the moment together. Make some gifts- I said make some gift not buy,be creative think about what to give,what you can do by yourself,you can decide to make cards ,you can make slippers or cake🥰, that is exciting right? Yes they are exciting. You can make some donations to the society; some people really want to give out to the society this season but they don't know how to do it,or you are thinking you don't have much money,it's not all about money but a good heart. I will share with us some ways we can give back to the society; visiting the hospital- the sick in the hospital needs some love,you can try and take some gift with you and show some love to them,they will feel relieved and love this season Giving out your old toys- we definitely have toys our children are not using again, some people just gave birth to kids or their kids are not yet grown and they need it,give it out,teach your kids to give out,they will love it . Visit the elderly people around you- visit the old people around you,try to take along with you some foodstuffs,give them a helping hand by cooking for them, cleaning for them and washing their clothes. They will love it. Giving out your used clothes- their are a lot of used clothes in our wardrobe,even your children's clothes they are not using again,as long as you are not using it again you can give it out. Supporting the refugees- reaching out to the homeless is one of the greatest thing to show love this Christmas, because that is the reason for this season, giving out to the poor,you can decide to cook some food or give them some clothes We can decide to print out lovely cards and give to people randomly, isn't it sweet 🥰, make people feel the joy of this season in the little you can do for them . And here is where am going to drop my pen for today🥰 I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year in advance 🥰

Envious character is there any difference between jealousy and envy? I Have seen people ask that question often times,to me I see jealousy as a lower form of envy,in this article I will talk about envy. "Envy is the religion of the mediocre.it comforts them,it soothes their worries and finally it rots their souls, allowing them to justify their meanness and their greed until they believe these to be virtues"-carlos Rulz zafon. Envy is resenting others because of their successful lives or whatever they possess. Wanting to have what others have. Envy is a negative feeling,it only makes you unhappy and also ruin the good relationships you already have. When you feel sad because of the success of others that is jealousy but when you want to be in that position of another that is envy. You have to know life **itself** is a dice,it's not fair,you will definitely meet people who will have more than you have,more successful than you are, more healthy than you,you have to learn how to be contented with what you have, focus on yourself more than focusing on others,stop seeing yourself as a failure because you are not!! There was an event that happened in our street sometime ago, a lady destroyed her friends relationship out of envy. The lady's boyfriend is well to do so he got her a car for birthday gift,that was not the first gift though,he has been buying alot of gift for her and her friend has been jealous of it ,so one day that other friend went to reveal a secret her friend told her to her boyfriend and that ended the relationship. It's better to be careful of an envious friend,envy can kill,the feeling of being envy brings sadness.its really a bad feeling,we won't be able to help others when we envy them,it means we won't be Happy too because naturally we find joy in helping others,so I have come up with some ideas on how to get rid of envy if you are a envious person. Tips on how to get rid of envy. Come to the realization that you have envy in your heart, and you are willing to work towards it ,it's only when you know you are doing something bad that you can get rid of it . Focus on getting better-work on yourself,look forward to working hard Focus on your past life and not on others,check yourself,look at why you haven't moved forward and leave others out of it,find the reason,what you ought to do and not doing and try to move forward by engaging in things that will make you move forward. Find books to read- read books that will improve you,be engaged,it is when you are engaged with one thing or another that you loose interest in people's life Set goals- set the goals you must achieve at all cost, plan ahead, things you want to achieve in two years,three years or five years to come,when you are consume in those things you will find it difficult to envy others. Try to visit relaxation centers- be happy,you are the architect of your own happiness. I guess with these few points you can try to change and work on yourself

My first love life Its another day of the session,alot of students are just resuming,new students are been taken in for the session, everyone is happy to see each other again, the students are playing different kinds of games .... Gregory just resumed the senior class with his mates. The name of Gregory school is lifegate college, there are about 1000 students in the school and about 40staff in the school,the school is well built,all upstairs and downstairs with beautiful classes, beautiful flowers all over the place..... Good morning students, the principal said" good morning sir,the students replied" . As we all know this is a new day in this session,we should strive hard to be successful in our various subjects, excellent results are Paramount in this school,let us all work hard to achieve success. Have a good day everyone, everyone should go to their various classes. Gregory and his friends went to their class,as they were all getting ready for their teacher to come in,a beautiful girl just walked in and all gaze was on her,she is a new a student,her name is gold,she sat down and smiled to some of her class mates, Greg won't stop looking at her,he was already mesmerized by her beauty. Greg told his friends I like the new girl already and his friends told him to go meet her but he couldn't go right away. After closing gold went home straight,Greg couldn't talk to her because he is scared she might not answer. Unknown to Greg that gold already noticed him,but they kept on going home without talking to each other,after about a week Greg summoned up the courage to go talk to gold. Greg: hi Gold: hi Greg: what is your name? Gold: my name is gold Greg : wow! What a beautiful name,I already noticed you since the day you came to our school,I would like us to be friends, can we be friends please? Gold: sure😊, we can be friends. Greg: Alright, thank you Greg and gold became so close,they do everything together,Greg made it known to gold that he is really interested in her and that he wants to date her but gold said she is not ready for any kind of relationship, she said after their college she would accept his proposal,they always call each other every night. Everyone thought they were dating, everyone including their teachers thought Greg and gold are dating because they are so close and to worsen the matter Greg told his friends that they are already dating but the truth of the matter is that they weren't dating..... After some time Greg started to change,he doesn't go home together with gold again,he started following his friends,he doesn't really care about gold anymore,then gold start to wonder if anything was wrong with Greg,she decided to ask him why he changed,he said nothing was wrong and that they are cool,he later stopped talking to her,he left her and started talking to others,she started feeling sad and heart broken,she would see Greg holding hands with another girl and wonder why he is doing that,her heart was really broken. One day during their interhouse sport competition,she called him to a separate class and asked him what was wrong but he said nothing was wrong,for the first time in gold's life,she knelt down for a guy,she was surprised herself,she knelt down and begged him to forgive her if she has done anything wrong to him but he said she hasn't done anything wrong lifting her up from the floor, gold sent his friends and her own friends to come and beg him but he said nothing was wrong but still didn't talk to her 😔 He was becoming too difficult for her to handle so she decided to leave him for a while,that was when she understood she was really in love with Greg,Greg was her first love so it was difficult for her to let go of him easily,she was madly in love with him but Greg was breaking her heart already. After some time Greg left the school but they still call each other, after about a year he asked her out but she rejected him again saying he broke her heart once and so she can't accept him again but she would always love him no matter what because he is her first love,that was how her first love life went ...... Is first love always like this,can we share our opinions please because have heard some people say they never dated their first love and some said it didn't go well.... Thanks for reading Thanks to all my upvoters and my new sponsor @Maryjacy

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6 things you need to do before the year ends *6 Things Everybody Should Do In The 12th Month Of The Year.* 1. Secure the bag $ Plan ahead for your holiday-related spending as much as possible. Pad your emergency fund to cover yourself after that unexpected-but-expected holiday spending. Revisit your long-term financial goals and start taking steps to get back or stay on track into the new year. *Start putting together your 2022 budget - make plans for your major yearly expenses.* 2. Secure your relationships. Call one friend or family member you haven't connected with much this year. Make time from the holiday parties and concerts to spend quality time with your family. Reach out to your business partners, clients or colleagues with warm wishes for the holidays *Give to charity. Mobilize your friends for a charitable cause after all, the holidays are about giving.* 3.Get healthy insurance for yourself - it's important to have your health covered for all the holiday enjoyment. Make that doctor's appointment you've been putting off all year and get a full health check. Pick one healthy habit to track every day this month - exercising, eating more fruits & veggies, etc. Put some "more time on your calendar to rest & meditate - you deserve to start the new year fully refreshed. 4.Go on a vacation-its important you relax Yourself in this last month of the year to begin another struggle to Victory next year. Tell that friend to follow you on your vacation or family. Visit relaxation centers you know you love,where you can cool your head or stop worrying for the moment. 5.End the year with peace. Call the people you had quarrel with from the beginning of this year, make peace with them. Call the family members that has looked down on you and you feel you are not going to talk to them again,I know how that feels but you need to let go of the grudge and start a new relationship with them. 6.breakaway from that dangerous relationship- separate yourself from every unfriendly friend Move away from every friendship that is drawing you backward Call it quit with any relationships that is not adding any value to your life. Leave that circle of friends that are always pessimistic-the only thing they think of is negativity. They always give you a negative vibe, always killing your positive vibes, you need to break away from such circle. Thanks for reading 😍

Tips on how to take care of your hair in this cold weather *Harmattan is nobody's mate o* 🤧🤧🤧🤧🥱🤧🤧 So here's a thing...this morning I decided to wear my twists out (haven't done that in a long, long time)😥 So I moisturised my hair properly with water, conditioner and then sealed in with coconut hair oil. I had not even gotten to my destination when I noticed something... My hair was dry!!😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲 Like it was so dry...I had to reapply a leave in conditioner when I got to where I was going. Thankfully, my friend had a leave in conditioner I could use😄😄😄😄😄 (Get friends wey get hair stuff o😄😄😄) *Harmattan always wants to drink in moisture!*.... This weather doesn't respect anyone...it will strip your hair and skin of all moisture it can get except you have or get Avocado oil.. So you have to be very *intentional* about your hair care this period. The following tips would help🤗👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 *Tips For Your Hair This Period* 💦💧💦💧💧 💜 *Drink water* You wanna chill with the big girls of natural hair... please stay hydrated. While this season might not make you thirsty, be intentional about taking water. Helps you stay hydrated from within. 💜 *Moisturise ooooo!!!* High porosity ladies...use LOC (liquid, oil, conditioner) to moisturise your hair and do it properly, concentrating at the tips of your hair. Low porosity ladies ..LCO does it for y'all. Moisturise even if it's more than once a day...your hair needs all the moisture it can get now. 💜 *Cover your hair* The weather might be cold so you might find yourself wanting to wear something over your hair. Your satin bonnet can come in handy here. If you'll go out, please cover your hair with satin scarves. Wigs can come in handy too, this season it will help protect your hair in. 💜 *Protective Styles* This is the best period to make protective styles that will not leave your hair exposed, especially the ends. You can make braids, corn rows, twists etc..but make sure it's not tight and keep your edges in health too by moisturising and avoid frequent use of gels. 💜 you should moisturize your hair even when you are not going anywhere. Even if you'll stay home all day, please moisturise your hair. ☁️💦 *Tucking or weaving your ends in, especially after moisturizing it this period will prevent it from breakage* ☁️💦 *While you'll use oils this period, don't use too much of them so they don't attract dust to your hair. Water and conditioners are needed more than oils or creams this period* I am so sure you found these helpful. Do well to share with your friends. Much love guys💜💜

My own kind of wedding According to @meitanteikudo he talked about his cousin's wedding and want us to write about our own kind of wedding 🥰. I find this very interesting because it's the dream of most people to have a superb wedding. Well let me start from the ideal man😂 because if there is no good man,then there is no wedding. For me I would love to have someone who is genuinely interested in me,who loves me dearly,someone whose direction and goals tallies with mine a person who is hard-working and smart,a lover of God,who doesn't hide anything but always open, someone who is brilliant,not proud or stingy🥰,who regard my family as his. I believe no one is perfect but these qualities must not be far fetched from his life. For my pre-wedding photo shoots,it will be a video,fanstatic love video made by me and my husband in different locations, example; videos at the beach,in the hotel , actions like videos of us, it will be superb 🥰 Now let us talk about the perfect wedding 😆,I would love to have my traditional wedding here in Nigeria and then my white wedding in Canada,the day for my traditional wedding-we would have gotten the clothes with pearl stones and then my husband would have known what to bring for my dowry, he would have gotten new clothes inside the new box he will buy,then the traditional wedding will be done in front of my house, inside my compound and my families will be there but not all. Now for the white wedding,will fly my husband's family and my own family to Canada, book a spacious hotel for them,we will wed in a big church,we will use a white horse with cart😂 , like make it open,after joining us together we will go back to our house because we must have gotten a house there,then our family will stay there for another two weeks and enjoy themselves. While we will travel to another country for our honeymoon ❤️. And again for the reception,we will change our dress twice,we will play the game knowing your spouse well,it must surely be fun. Food and drinks will be surplus.... Well about having my reception inside the hall or open field,I haven't decided about that yet 🤷 That is my ideal wedding,not much actually 😂

The bird that flies away from it's nest it's been a while here....this few days has been hectic for me but am glad am here now. The bird that flies away from it's nest is all about a bird hatched in it's nest, nurtured and taken care of in it's nest,the bird is given everything she desires until she grew up and sees other birds flying about,she decided to join them but her mom says"*don't join them they are different from us,we don't stay in the same nest,we don't have the same colour and we don't have the same goal,it might be dangerous out there be careful".* But the little bird refuses listen,she decided to fly and mix with other birds, surprisingly for her she met wide range of different dangerous birds out there,At first she enjoys flying with them until they took her away from her nest which was her source,she forgot completely about her source,She met with the eagle and the eagle lovingly decieved her,she followed the eagle to it's place and that was the end. But before she died the eagle told her this *"I have been watching you since when you were young and I have been waiting to eat you ever since but you have always been protected by your mum,she didn't allow you to leave her nest(source) but since you grew up you made up your mind to leave your source and am so happy because you didn't go back because if you had went back your mom will take you back and protect you from me again,but now I will devour you and that will be your end" the eagle said.* Now brothers and sisters,this my story is applicable to us as Christians ,we let world rule us instead of we ruling the world,we want to join what people outside are doing which might definitely lead to destruction. The Bible says in proverbs 14vs12 "There is a way that seems right to men but it's end is the way of death". We are like the small bird in this story,we feel we don't need God's leading and directions anymore because we are now grown ups and we feel we are wise enough to direct ourselves and we think we know what is good for us but we are not! We are still kids in the hands of God. If we believe we are wise ,he said he will turn the wisdom of the wise to foolishness. He said in his word in James 4vs4 "whosoever will therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. My dear friends the enemy is waiting for you to leave your source and forget about it completely so he can come and destroy completely,the moment you leave the shield of God and mingle with the world and ignore his directions,the enemy is already waiting to destroy you and put an end to your glorious future,the enemy is ready to put you in a circle where you won't move forward but just fixed in a position. John 10vs10 says" the thief does not come except to steal, kill and destroy".... But the good news is,even if you've moved far away from him,he is ready to take you back,no matter how far you've gone or whatever you've done,he is ready to take you back. Jesus is a loving father,if you genuinely go back to him he will accept you again and shield you against the wicked ones. Go back and enjoy his presence, he's always there with a open arms.🥰 I just want to say thank you to everyone @Maryjacy @Pearlkel thanks for always supporting my articles.

One night mistake The phone rang; gbrammmm, he picked it up,who is this please he asked,my name is spring "she said" So what can I do for you young lady" am **pregnant sir, so what if you are pregnant how is that my concern!!!! "He yelled" you are responsible for it she said, he was dumb at first,then he re-gained consciousness, he told her to come again,she said she is pregnant for him " he laughed out loud,how is that even possible he said. Remember the last time at the clubhouse,am the girl from the club house,you took me to an hotel where we had sex and that was the result of this pregnancy "she replied** He was angry and at the same time felt bittered, how can one night out result to pregnancy "he wondered and hung up on her " He flashed back to that night, As he entered the clubhouse he saw different kinds of ladies dancing but one caught his attention,he went to her, can I dance with you "he said" yes you can she replied He went to dance with her,as she was dancing he was feeling her,she gave him mind blowing lap dance 😂, He couldn't take it anymore,he taught about having sex with her but he was skeptical about it but he was already in the mood. He said can we go to a hotel? she agreed because she liked him Immediately she saw him. They went to a hotel,he didn't have a a CD with him so they did it like Back to the present moment, he was still thinking when his wife tapped him, honey what are you thinking about? Baby can you ever leave me? She looked surprised, "No I can't!" Why did you ask ? He said nothing, baby am fine don't worry about me, he said. By the way, are you not going out again? I thought you said you wanted to go out before, she asked him" Yes I am going out now to see my friend,I will be back soon, get me the car keys please he said to her. She brought the car key to him and he left to see his friend. As he was driving he was contemplating on what the lady that called him said, immediately he called his friend, "bayo you dey house"? No I dey bar house come meet me for that same bar house wey you Know,his friend replied,"Okay he said". He went straight to the bar house, saw his friend and went to him, what's up my man, his friend said shaking him, he was just dull, wetin dey do you guyyyy,why you dull like this!!? His friend asked him with their usual tone. See am in big trouble guy,a very big trouble,that lady I met at the clubhouse I told you about before,she called me this morning and said she is pregnant for me. Eeewweeee! He's friend exclaimed, how is that possible? Didn't you use protection? I didn't ,I did not use protection, there was none then...... *Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! Jude!!!!!!!!!!!! ,How many times did I call you? How can you do that without using protection,are you a baby? You fucked up big time guy,you really fucked up, how could you,his friend was saying when he suddenly cut him in,see that one has gone,the deed has been done already,the reason why I came to talk to you about it is for me to know what to do next,my wife must not hear about this,what can I do now,am confused he said....* Okay,will you take my advice? Tell your wife about it first before she tell her herself, are you crazy? How can you say I should tell my wife about it,do you want her to leave me? I can't tell my wife,it is not even possible,he said shaking his head. Okay,I have another advise tell her to terminate it,this is my second advice for you,if you like take if you like don't take it,you are on your own. You mean she should terminate the baby? Yes that's the only way for you. No no no,I know I made a mistake having sex with her and that was my first time and you know it,you know have never had sex with another woman except my wife alone since I got married but I made this mistake so I cannot make another mistake by killing my unborn child 😔. Okay if you can't you are on your own then,when you are ready tell me, his friend walked out on him . He went back home,his wife. noticed he was moody,he couldn't even eat well,she asked him what was wrong but he said nothing is wrong. The next day,the lady called him again, hello why are you disturbing me he said,I said am pregnant for you and listen to me and listen good,you see this baby am carrying,I will give birth to it,all I need from you is to be responsible as a father to our child, goodbye for now she hung up the call. He ran to his friend to help him,his friend said don't worry I will help you to tell her myself,call her and tell her to meet us at the bar house, hello young lady meet us at the bar house,he gave her the description and hung up the call. As she was coming she was thinking about it,is he ready to accept the pregnancy? Is that why he called,he had better accept it .when she got there she went to them, good evening she said, the friend started,we don't have much time so I will just go straight to the point,the reason why we called you here is this, you are going to abort the pregnancy,he is not going to accept this baby because he is married, so you will abort the baby, we will compensate you and we will all go our different way........ He said Never,I repeat never,I am not aborting this baby either you take it or leave it am giving birth to this baby and there is nothing the two of you can do about it. I won't abort this child!!!!!! .As she was about to stand up,she faced him and said"if you don't accept this baby your wife will know about it", She stood up and walked out on them. A month passed she kept calling him, threatening him to accept the baby or his wife will hear about it,then one day after three months,she came to their house and knocked at the door, ko ko ko!!! Who is there the wife said, please is your husband at home? Yes he is at home,who are you please,tell him it's spring and he already know who it is, she went upstairs to call her husband,baby a lady downstairs is looking for you,she is waiting for you in the sitting room,who is she, her husband asked" she said her name is spring, he jumped up from the bed, spring!!!!??? How is that possible, he rushed downstairs to the sitting room, what are you looking for and how did you know my house? He asked her. She laughed out loud 😂,I can find any place on this Earth unless I don't want to, let me get started,the reason why am here is to tell your wife that am pregnant for you and you don't want accept it,she said smiling" His wife was dumbfounded,what did you just say? Madam I said am three months *gone for your husband. Baby baby is this true? Is she telling the truth? Talk to me!!! ,Her husband was just stuttering, darling please it wasn't intentional,it was just a night mistake,am begging you it was a mistake,I never wanted to hurt you please 🙏🙏🙏🙏. As he was pleading the wife was sobbing continuously, you got another woman pregnant? I trusted you,how could you do this for me,she went straight inside pack her things, her husband followed her,kept begging her not to leave but she was adamant, stay with your newly found wife and leaving for good,she said as she leaves.* Immediately his wife left he sent spring out of his house,but she kept coming back and collecting money to cater for herself,she kept collecting money to buy stuffs for herself and the baby, he kept on calling and apologizing to his wife to come back home but she wouldn't answer,she will always say it's over because another woman is pregnant for him. After 6 months spring gave birth to a baby boy, and she called him, have given birth to your child, come and see him,He was sad then happy a little because he had always had it in my that after spring give birth,he would take the baby for a DNA test. After two weeks,he told her,am taking the baby for a DNA test,she was surprised to hear him say that,why will you take your child for a DNA test,are you skeptical that he's not yours? You are not taking my baby for a DNA, believe it or not,if you like believe he's your child if you like don't believe,he is your baby,that is all I know. When he left, spring started to think about it,how will he say he wants to take my child for a DNA test,I will not allow you do that , no way!!!. After a month he got access to cut the child's hair and took it the hospital without the knowledge of spring, he gave it to his doctor friend to test it if the child is truly his, after a week the doctor called him for the test result, he was scared at first as he was going but later decided to man up, anything the result says he will handle it. When he got to the hospital,the doctor gave him the result and told him the DNA results shows he is not the father of the child,he was surprised as well thankful to God, but he told the doctor to do the test again, maybe there is a mix-up somewhere,they did the test again and the result came out he is not the father of the baby,to confirm for the last time,he went to another hospital,the test result came out the same, he was so happy. Atlas! my home will be restored back he said. He went to spring house and gave her thetest result, what type of person are you?!! You came to destroy my home knowing fully well am not the father of that child but thank God for my friend advice,you would have caged me with this baby, spring knelt down and started begging him but he didn't listen. He went home, called his wife and told her about what he found out,she was surprised as well and she forgave him and went back home to meet her husband and he promised her he will never make such mistake again. .... A silly mistake can cost you alot, always be careful. For the past three days now have been really busy and tired but I think I got a little strength today so that's why I decided to write this.. Thank you everyone ❤️

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The sun is enough! Good afternoon everyone,sorry have not been available for like four days now,have really really been busy and it's so tiring,still very tired as I write this but I just have to be here again. There is a popular adage that says,the sun can still dry a wet cloth if the wet cloth is put outside to dry . There is a lot of things we want to do but we are procrastinating it. Let us look at it this way, assuming after washing cloth,you decided to put the cloth inside and not spread it outside in the sun to dry,will it dry well? No. A lot of people has lost hope while the sun is still out,why loose hope when you can still do more,alot of successful people we have now never loose hope when they can do alot ,they kept pushing. There is this woman I heard of recently,an old woman ,she has been singing since teenager,there was a lot of problem on her way,each time she wants to produce her song one thing or another will happen,when she was around that 40years she stopped singing because everything was not going on fine for her,she was tired and started doing something else then when she was 55years, she started singing again and decided to produce her song again problem started for her again but she kept on pushing this time around, till she clock 60,that was the time things changed and she was able to produce her song and now she is now happy she didn't give up forever. I know alot of people in her shoes would have given up because it won't be easy. When you don't give up things will definitely turn around for good for you. As long as there is life there is still hope,the sun will still shine for you. Opportunities will come around,grab it . Make hay while the sun shines,you don't make hay when the sun is not shining,if you need to start all over again,start all over,if you need to continue from where you stopped, continue,there is no crime in trying things out , keep doubt out of it, believe in yourself, keep believing until you hit the target, while you are hoping for the best do something, don't just wait and fold your arms while you think things will fall in place without you trying something out. Thank you for reading my article Much love for you ❤️

Hi everyone, good morning 🥰,I have a question bothering my mind and it's very technical and that is love, we all know love is deep, very deep, can anyone tell me what love is?

Faith of a child A child is someone who believes everything he/she is told. They don't care if you are lying or not,when you say don't worry I will get you something when am coming,they believe instantly and wait for you till you get back to ask you of what you promised them, children are the best gift around us,if you have them you are blessed. When they fight with each other this minutes,the next minutes you see them playing together again,they can be six and still eat from the same plate and not argue over it. Children are indeed the heritage of the Lord,they are beautifully and wonderfully made. When corrected in love they tend to yield to correction more than when corrected with hatred . There was a time I accused our little baby of picking something not knowing she wasn't the one who took it,in the next hour she was already talking to me and I thought about it,it gave me an inspiration to write about kids and their behavior. They are not like we adults,we fight and never want to resolve it for years,when we are corrected we tend not to yield because of arrogancy,I really hope we could act like kids, play like they play, forgive the way they forgive, enjoy life the way they enjoy life and have faith the way they have faith. Let's have faith in one another and in God, never wavering, standing solidly, obeying authority. A child kind of love is never ending,they love in an unconditional way,no hatred,even when they abuse each other they come back together again,they don't keep malice unless an elderly person is making them do so. They don't keep in them the seed of bitterness like adults,they don't envy each other unlike adults,when you see adults gathering together most them have one thing or another against themselves but kids don't,they genuinely feel happy when they see each other. For those who have children already please make it a duty to train your children to love others and never hate. Let us all behave like kids,kill the seed of bitterness in you,kill the seed of envy or malice. Let's embrace each other in love 😍, let's show love,be a giver, help your fellow humans when you have the ability to help. Let's help others progress and not look for their downfall. Embrace love♥️. Thanks again for reading, enjoy yourselves in love

Is it good to know your genotype? Hi everyone,I hope you all had a great day 🤩,we all know that knowing our genotype is really really good especially when you are in a relationship, during the time of our forefathers we know they don't check their genotype because there was no technology,they don't know the meaning or have the knowledge about it, whenever they have still birth or Infant mortality they regard it as spiritual. Unknown to them that many of the AS genotype got married to the same AS which made them give birth to SS which they regard to as abiku In Yoruba land meaning predestined to death, lot of them just got married based on love or family,so they don't know anything about genotype. It's so sad to know that in this era where we have advance technology these things are still happening,but the difference is this,alot of couple knowing fully well of their genotype that they are not compatible still go into the marriage because they love each other and can't leave each other not considering the danger in it,the pain their children will go through and the money they will spend if they end up giving birth to SS. I can give example of two couples: the husband is a medical doctor,so he knew fully well what he was going into,him and his wife are both AS,they said they will have faith,so they got married,it was a sad one for them because they gave birth to three SS😔,I mean three sickle cell anemia children and none could live more than teenager,they all died,the parents now went back to square one,it was a very painful experience. The other couple too got married knowing their genotype is AS,but luck shined on them because they had two AS and one AA as their children which is very rare and everything was good for them but let me sound this warning,it always have a negative side than the positive side,most times it's not always good luck. Now let me list the type of genotype we have and blood group. For blood group we have A,B,AB and O and for the genotype we have AA,AS,AC and SS. So am going to talk about the genotype; AA+AA=AA AA+AS=AA and AS AS+AS=AS and SS we have rare cases of AA AS+AC=AA,SC, note AC is also the same as AS,it's also bad for AC to get married to AS and SC is the same as SS. They have high rate of giving birth to SS. AA can get married to AA, infact they don't need to worry about giving birth to sickler. AA can get married to AS,they are also good to go,no fears. AS cannot get married to AS because there is danger , some might get married and actually not give birth to SS but while risk it,can you forgive yourself if you finally give birth to a sickle cell anemia child and watch the child go through agony and pain? Why destroy your children's future with your own hands. We definitely know that AS cannot marry SS,it is sure they will give birth to SS,so don't try it. AA can also get married to SS or AC. I believe with this little write up we have really learnt a lot today,please let us take caution when it comes to genotype and marriage.let us make and not mare the future of our kids. Thank you for reading to this point,God bless you 🥰👍

Is this love or foolishness? part 2 Hello lovelies 😍, happy Sunday to us all,I had a very stressful day today but thank God I can still write tonight 🙏 ,so I will continue from where I stopped yesterday, after that December period desmond apologized to Becky and they moved on. Fast forward to February Becky had learnt Ruth's birthday was February 20,so desmond didn't know Becky knew that Ruth birthday was February,so he has been planning a birthday cake for Ruth,a day before Ruth birthday Desmond told Becky that he is traveling for work,then Becky now said are you sure you are going for work or you are going to meet Ruth, desmond lied and said no,that she should trust him 😂. When desmond got there at night Becky called him and he picked it up that he has gotten there,later Becky saw a call on her phone and was wondering who it was then she picked it up,guess who it was 😊,it was Ruth that called,Ruth said she just want to ask her a simple question,she said who are you to my boyfriend,then Becky said am his girlfriend,boom!!! Ruth head sparked and she said desmond told her that Becky is just a friend and nothing more, that he didn't ask her out, and that desmond is with her right now if she thinks she's lieing,Becky lost her calmness and was mad at desmond, despite the fact that desmond knew that Becky already knew,he still decided to stay at Ruth place for two days. Becky cried and cried and cried,her heart was shattered 💔that desmond could actually say those things to ruth,so she decided that she will break up with desmond Desmond came home and called Becky that he knows he is not worthy to call her he should give him chance to explain,he called and called begging her he wants to see her, after a week Becky decided to go see him,he knelt down and begged her that she should forgive him and not leave him alone,so Becky again decided to forgive him and move on with him😂,love is foolish sometimes 🤷,they moved on but Becky noticed Desmond is always guiding against her opening his phone,she knew Desmond was not like that before,she has talked about it but desmond will not allow her open his phone, before then Becky has noticed Desmond always calling this girl he calls "my childhood friend" ,she will tell him that his friendship with this particular girl is getting closer, considering the fact that desmond and this childhood friend has had sex some years back before,so now getting closer to her now is something else,Becky made up her mind to find out the exact thing between them. So a time came, Desmond gave Becky his phone to charge at her place that he Will collect it later,he didn't know Becky knew his new password,she was happy inside of her that she will check whatever today!!🤪 ,She went to his WhatsApp and started checking everything,that was when she realized it was not just her but they are now like 5 girls in desmond life🤣,she saw different kinds of chat with the girl he calls his childhood friend,that confirms they are actually dating, Becky went ahead to check other chats and saw that he was dating some girls too and she was broken immediately 😢,she said this time around we are done and over. The next day she handed over his phone to him and didn't say a word about what she saw,she thought again in her heart that let me see if he's going to forget about those girls in 6months to come,she gave him another chance in her heart but didn't tell him about it, as time goes on she realized he was not ready to leave his childhood friend and Ruth,but those other girls left him already ,so 2 weeks to Becky's birthday she broke up with desmond,she told desmond she read all his chats that night and she had known everything all along but she decided to play along and see if he will change but he did not, Desmond cried, knelt down,held Becky and pleaded that he is ready to change and that she should not leave him but I guess Becky already made up her mind that she's not going back on her words,she told desmond categorically that she is not interested anymore,that her heart was broken more than enough,so she left Desmond and that was the end of their relationship. Thank you everyone for waiting to read till the end, thanks to everyone who comment on the first part, thanks for all your support @Maryjacy @CandyBoy i appreciate them🙏

Is this love or foolishness? Part 1 Different things has been happening and it will continue to happen,when we talk about love,love is very deep, like very very deep. Alot of people on several occasions has mistook lust for love.on a normal day, love should be unconditional. My friend told me her story so I gave it a thought and I decided to share it here. Let's call my friend Becky(not real name) and her boyfriend Desmond (not real name), Becky arrived from Lagos two weeks before she met desmond, like I mean when they started talking, becky has been seeing desmond before she traveled to Lagos but they were complete strangers and they never talked,so they started talking after service in church one day,you are thinking if they attend the same church,yes they do. So they started chatting on WhatsApp,they started getting closer day by day,they talked about everything, Becky would ask desmond if he's in any relationship, desmond would reply no, so their fondness for each other grew the more and they started dating two months after,he did not ask her out but they just find themselves dating (you know that kind thing). A month after they started dating desmond called Becky that he wants to have a word with her,so she came to his place to hear what he has to say, then this was what desmond said,he said he was already in a relationship but he doesn't love the girl anymore because the girl is troublesome and disrespectful,becky was heart broken and she decided she was going to leave the relationship but desmond begged and begged her that he is already in love with her and that she should not leave him alone,that he will leave that girl soon because he is not in love with her anymore,that she should just calm down and believe him,he told her that if she leaves because of that other girl,that it means she did not love him at all, Becky was buttered but she decided to stay because the truth is that she loves desmond so much and she's not willing to let go. So they become more intimate with each other,they see almost everyday,they do alot of things together but not sex,Becky already told Desmond that she wants them to leave sex out of it because she's a virgin and she would want him to wait till wedding night,so he agreed but not entire agreement,you know what am talking about, desmond showed her love and she reciprocated back by showing him love too,until December period came and everyone was enjoying the moments,then desmond other girl decided to come visit desmond at their house because he lives with his family (his parent and siblings) ,let us name that other girl Ruth,so Ruth decided to come greet her boyfriend for a week but before that time Becky has been telling her boyfriend she's not comfortable with the relationship anymore,he told her he will leave Ruth soon but it's already 6month and he hasn't left her yet, desmond still pleaded with Becky that he will leave her soon😂,December was their one year anniversary and Desmond haven't left Ruth yet instead of that,she still came over to visit desmond. Desmond told Becky already that Ruth is coming over and he doesn't know what she's looking for,that doesn't want her in his house,he apologized to Becky that she should not be angry and be calm through out that period of time,when Ruth finally arrived someone,a friend precisely told becky that Ruth Is around already so Becky went there the second day, meanwhile that friend has also been telling Ruth that desmond has another girl because she knows the two of them,so Becky went ,she didn't cause any proby because she's a gentle girl , desmond took Becky to his room and they were gisting when Ruth sudden knocked and told and told desmond she wants to see him,he didn't answer but she started calling him on phone , Desmond decided to go see her, she was shouting and saying all sort of things like desmond don't have respect for her that could desmond bring another girl in her presence into his room without thinking about her,when Becky realized desmond was taking too long,she went home out of anger,she was on her way home when desmond kept calling her line over and over again..... Will Ruth leave desmond for Becky or will Becky leave or will desmond leave both of them? We will continue in the second part 😊, thanks for reading till this point,let me hear your opinion about this in the comment section 🥰 thank you

Add action to your dream I think I have to share this,so you can benefit from it.what is a dream ? A dream is a long time vision of success you have for yourself. What you want to do or achieve in years to come.most of us have very big and wonderful dreams and visions but we find it very difficult to actualize. We should know that dream itself has no power to come true but only the dreamer has the power to make it come through. The realization of our dream and the actualization will have effect on lives depending on us,if you fail to actualize your dream you have not only failed God and yourself but you have failed countless lives around you .it's high time you bring that intention alive, no one will reward intention because intention are still intention unless acted upon. There was this man I know who had the intention of building a ball house at his place,months rolled into years,he still hasn't built it, always giving excuse,not knowing another person has the same dream, after waking up from his long time dream that other man has built his own ball house and alot of guys were trooping in to watch ball,when the other man saw that he regretted not acting fast. Wake up from your slumber,it's time to act on that dream,you have wished enough,wishes won't give you what you want,start now , don't wait till tomorrow,start with the little you have, don't despise days of little beginnings,it might not be easy,it might be difficult, customer might not patronize you,you might not be able to publish that book now, your friends might turn you down or laugh at you,your family might not believe in your dreams, just keep pushing,it's never easy at the beginning,but trust me people who never believed you or wrote you off will come back to share out of your success provided you don't give up. People only associate with successful people,so thrive hard to be successful,never give up on your dreams,the same people that did not accept you in the beginning will accept you at the end,alot of people that started something today want to suddenly achieve what people that have started 10years ago achieve,it doesn't work that way,you have to start little then gradually go higher and higher but if you are waiting to start big you might never start at all because alot of people who have waited to start big end up not starting anything at all. START NOW The only way to begin is to begin now,there is no two way about it, pastor femi ajayi says the road to success is full of dreamers who are unwilling to take the first step towards the realization of their dreams,there is a proverb that says "the journey of a thousand miles begin with a step". Taking steps is so important to the extent that without it nothing tangible will be done. To be able to realize our dreams,our dreams must to translated to passion and from passion to action.you need to rise up and pick up your dream with passion. Many people never rose from grass to grace because the seed of greatness deposited in them never grew and that's their dreams they refuse to actualize,the major challenge of starting is confusion and disorderliness,you might not know how to start ,JUST START, with time everything will become orderly, don't ever allow the challenges of starting out destroy your destiny, Always have this at the back of your mind that no matter what you do people will always criticize you ,it is rare for people to support your dream at the seedling stage,so you have to believe in your dreams yourself, until you believe in your dreams and act on it no one will help you do that . Procrastination can lead to unfulfillment of your dreams, some people believe that someday they will do something about their dreams,they have same plans and ideas for years and never work on them,great achievers don't procrastinate,they act on their ideas before it becomes stale,Do something about your dream now. Dream without passion is a dead dream. Thanks to everyone who has been supporting me and reading my article. @Maryjacy @George_Dee @Janee thank you so much 🙏

Fear-Simple ways to get rid of it Good morning everyone 👋, hope you are all doing good? This topic am about to shed more light on is very deep but before I talk about it,let me tell you about a story of my friend, right from time she is a fearful person,when you ask her to do something when she's alone she will do it so well but when in public she will become scared, alot of times when she was in class she had the correct answer but because of fear she won't be able to say it,so after finishing secondary School before her admission into higher institution,she went for this job to be a cook,so the day for the interview came and she was asked to prepare a meal,mind you she can cook very well but because there were interviewers there,she was scared her food might not be sweet 😁 and they might not give her the job,so she told me she's not going anymore,I was surprised to hear that from her,I talked sense into her head,I encouraged her and she gave it a thought,so she decided to go. She summoned up the courage and she went to prepare the meal,when she came back to me she was happy because they all loved the food , imagine if she had not gone,she would have lost the job because of fear because she was given the job and she actually did well while working with them. So let me elaborate more on fear,FEAR is a strong emotion that disturbs both the mind and the body,it causes unsettled heart. Fear can create a strong signals of response when we are in emergencies,it can also happen when you are faced with things like Examination, public speaking,date or a new job. While ANXIETY is a type of fear,when you are feeling nervous or worried that something bad might happen.it is used when fear is about to happen in the future, anxiety is a persistent fear. You can agree with me that when there is fear, you find it difficult to do your normal routine. Fear and anxiety can last for a period of time and pass,it can also last longer and you get stucked in it.it depends on how you handle it. Let us look at the things fear can cause: when you are anxious or afraid your mind and body will begin to work abnormally. Your heart beats fast Your muscles feels weak You tend to breathe very fast You begin to sweat abnormally You can get dry mouth You feel dizzy You loose your appetite You get frozen to the spot in some cases For some people it's public speaking,alot of people suffer from this fear,they can't talk in public,if you are that type of person, try to do more on that,stage fright is also another type of fear ,try to speak more in public,try to face that fear. Ask yourself questions like: why am I afraid to talk in public? Will they look down on me? Will they counter my suggestions or they will accept it? Definitely they won't beat you😂 for talking. Try not to focus on their faces when speaking on stage,look at their heads,be confident,when you do this often, you will definitely get over stage fright.🥰 How to overcome fear and anxiety: First know the cause of the fear and face it, know yourself also Exercise: exercise can serve as a treatment of the mind,it helps to relax the mind and the body, exercise requires concentration so it can help you take your mind off fear and anxiety,you can try yoga, it helps you stay focus and relaxed Eat healthy: fruit is a source of vitamin,vitamin is an essential part of human food that makes them healthy, avoid too much of sugar it can cause anxiety,eat vegetables. Relaxation: Try to relax yourself,go to places where you can relax very well,you can visit relaxation centers,do some sight seeing,this will help your mind get relaxed. Meet new people, make friends, talk to your friends about the problem, don't bottle it all up inside you, talking about it makes you feel better. Don't take alcohol or excessive alcohol,it increases the problem,when you get drunk you,you feel intoxicated,at that moment you might not know what is happening but after sleeping and waking up, you go back to your fears,it doesn't solve the fears but increases it. Spiritual/faith: if you are a religious person,you can try going to religious gatherings and praying about it, enjoy the company of people there. @Olasquare talks about fear in one of his articles and am glad I read that 🥰 Thank you for reading,God bless you 🥰I love you all 😘

Today's meal Hello everyone,I hope you all had a wonderful day today 🥰, Today was a little bit stressful for me,I had to do a lot of cleaning in the house then cook too because I had visitors today,my friends came visiting,did I add that it was also fun filled today😛 We had friedrice added crayfish to it😂because that is what they wanted,and the truth is I prepared it myself,it was stressful. And I also made chinchin for snack,you know how a little stressful that is,my friends like to disturb me 😕. I actually did enjoy myself so much today Looking forward to another day with them 😊. Thanks for reading 🥰

Death is cruel Good morning lovelies,how are you all doing? Have been thinking alot since morning,sad altogether😩,you might be wondering why....Today marks it a year I lost my dad,been thinking of what I can do to stop crying so I decided to write about it here. It's really a heart breaking thing 💔 to lose someone close to one's heart like your family or loved ones. Before this event happened to me,have been seeing different heart breaking stuff happen to my friends,then I prayed in my that I never want to lose any of my family members. In 2014 I lost my aunt and my grandma that same year,when my aunt died the family members thought it wise not to tell my grandma because of her health condition,so they kept it away from her but later that year she died due to her health condition,so the family members were now like if they had known they would have told her because what's the essence of not telling,she still later died that year. It was very painful I wept bitterly for the whole day,I went to the hospital where she was and cried because there was nothing we could do again. In 2015, December 25th precisely,I called my best friend sister, because I called my friend but she was not picking up,so I decided to call her sister,so I was jokingly telling her am coming over to eat Christmas food but what she said shocked me,I was dumbfounded,she told me their mum had died,I cried till I reached home,this a girl that doesn't have a dad anymore,her dad died when she was in primary school and I was bitter in my spirit,I could not eat, their mum has really suffered so much for them but she couldn't eat the fruit of her labour,that went like that,I really thank God for her family,her aunt took her first to Australia and now her sister has joined her over there,they are really doing well now. Another one I heard about was also my friend,in 2017 I called her because it's been a long time we spoke,so I had to call her to check up on her,so I was just asking her how is her dad doing? That was when she told me she lost her dad,I was just exclaiming ahhhhh,Jesus!!!! Because I just can't phathom it!!!I asked her how it happened,she said he was sick and I just prayed in my heart that I don't want this to happen to me but sincerely speaking no one prayed for something like that to happen to them before 😭. In 2019 I just saw the obituary picture of my secondary School mate mum,it was sad to see that the woman is no more because back then in secondary School she's the one doing everything for the children,her father was not a responsible man,so it is the mother that was responsible for everything so it was sad,very sad to see things like happen to people not knowing it will still knock at my door Back to 2018,I lost my grandfather due to some stones in his stomach,so he had to do surgery but the surgery was not successful so he died due to that and I could remember my dad didn't tell me because I traveled,I was not at home. That particular day I was going to class when I met my uncle,it was surprising to meet him there,that was when he told me that my grandfather is no more,I couldn't go to class again,I went back home and I called my dad and then my dad told me he didn't want to tell me because he knows I will cry till morning 🥺,I cried and cried and cried. That Same year we buried him and we thought that was all until 2020. Year 2020 was a very bad year actually,alot of happenings everywhere,that year there were countless deaths and it added my dad to the death rate, 27th of November was his birthday,he had been sick but he was getting better, people came to greet him and they were happy that he was already getting okay,on his birthday he was okay but that same night everything changed,that was on Friday night stroke Saturday,my mum didn't tell us about it,we went for a wedding on Saturday,when we came back in the evening I didn't see my dad in the sitting room,that was when I was starting to think if there is anything wrong but because I was so tired I slept off,on Sunday morning I went to my dad's room,then I saw him put his legs on a bucket,his legs had swollen and I had to ask my mum what the problem was,I was getting scared but I never thought it could result to death,we called a doctor to come check up on him and he said we should take him to the hospital because he was having difficulty in breathing. We took him to the hospital and they attended to him quickly,he was given oxygen,he was stable at first but before we knew it he gave up the ghost 😭😭😭,the hospital knew they had a visitor that day because I couldn't just hold it,I cried till my strength went away,I called my mum and told her and she said we should bring him home,Even his siblings too said they shouldn't take him to the mortuary,he was brought and for three days we tried everything we could do to bring him back to life because his body was still warm,we prayed and prayed and prayed but he was gone😭😭,he didn't come back to us,he died two days after his birthday and that was 29th of November and so today made it one year we lost him,we later decided to put him inside the mortuary and he was buried some weeks after 😩,I miss him so much, this vacuum he has left can never be replaced or filled..... Thank you very much for reading and encouraging me to write again I really appreciate your efforts,thank you once again🙏🙏🙏

Let's talk about cocktail Good afternoon everyone 😍😍it's so nice to be here again after a long day today,so so tired but I just have write about this.we all know cocktail is highly appreciated by guests at a party and even at your home,you can decide to make it for the family and they had love it!🥰 A friend of mine came to visit me today and I was just thinking of what to make for her,then this cocktail just came to my mind, I told her am going to the market that she should wait for me so I can get all the ingredients, I thought she won't agree to that, funny enough she said she is going to follow me to the market, so we both went together to get them,but getting it was stressful, it was not easy to get the herbspice alcohol but thank God we did!😍. So we had to make it together because I had to teach her how to make it,it was simple though. Like we all know or for those that don't know the meaning of cocktail... Cocktail is the mixture of different Ingredients, drinks. If we don't want much alcohol like it's name DIZZY we can just add a little of the herbspice alcohol and the Brandy. Am going to give us the list of the ingredients and the benefits of each one,sit back,grab a pop-corn and learn something new. Let's talk about Dizzy Japanese cocktail The mixture contains: 1.brandy 2.orgreat 3.freshlime 4.herbspice alcohol 5.limepeel for garnishing. 6.strawberry. We will check out the benefits of all this ingredients. Alot of people might say why put lime,let us look at the benefits of "1.lime juice";*it provides quick hydration and rejuvenation; * it is helpful in weight loss; *like we all know that lime is an excellent source of vitamin C; *it is also rich in soluble fibre; *it keeps the bone stronger; *it improves digestion; *it helps in the treatment of scurvy and pile; *And it is also a good source of antioxidants. Benefits of orgreat(almond); *it is loaded with antioxidants; *High in vitamin E; *it assist with blood sugar control; *it lowers cholesterol level; *It helps in improving memories. Benefits of Lemon; *it strengthens the immune system; *it is also used as a treatment of throat infections, dental problems and fever; *it is considered as a blood purifier. Benefits of strawberry; *it fights against heart diseases; *it slows down aging process; *it lowers the risk of stroke and heart diseases; *it boosts the immune system; *it is a good source of vitamin C and also a good source of manganese. Benefits of Herb spice alcohol; * It reduces inflammation; * lower blood pressure; *it has antibacterial properties; *it is used in treating health ailments.

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Agape kind of love Good afternoon lovelies 😍,it's really good to be here again, just reflecting on somethings and I decided to come share it with you all here,so sit back grab a pop-corn and enjoy this interesting write up. Do you know the meaning of agape love?? It means unconditional love, God's kind of love, not breakable,I thought deeply about that kind of love,so I thought to myself to be motivated by that kind of love. You know loving without expecting anything in return, giving,out of pure love and not because you want to show that you can give,not doing it out of pride or selfish desires. It's better to let it go and not do it than doing it because you want people to see or know you,just because of pride , that's bad,"God gives grace to the humble". God's love is greater than any other thing in this world,out of the fruit of the spirit,love is the first and father of the remaining,if there is love in your heart you will exercise the remaining fruit of the spirit without telling you,if we love the way God wants us to love,we are bound to achieve so many things through it because God himself is love,so our Life is made perfect through it.1corin13vs13 says "And now this three remain faith, hope and love but the greatest of these is love". Another says LOVE EXTRAVAGANTLY. Extravagant means the extreme of something, doing something exceedingly, going out of bounds.Now you know loving should be out of bounds, extremely 🥰 going out of your way to love others,when it is convenient and when it is not convenient for you,that's God's kind of love. You know it's difficult to love when someone hate or betray you,yes it is but it's important to let love lead us ,still show that love when people hate you,when they betray you,when they hurt you, when they decieve you. Let us look at it this way, how many times have we offended God!?,we have betrayed him so many times,we threw his love away but yet he will still come back loving us, opening wide his arm to embrace us, always forgiving and always there for us,that's why we shouldn't hold any grudge against anybody,we should always let love lead. Love is patient, kind, forgives,endures and a lot more you can say. Trust me you will find joy in doing that. Thank you for reading 😍I love you all

Heads high When I looked through the window I saw a very high mountain,my heart skipped, thinking the mountain is too high for me,I feared thinking how will I overcome this mountain, a lots of heads , obstacles. Then I said in my heart how can I overcome this mountain,these heads, obstacles,then I looked carefully again this time to be sure of what I saw but this time I saw an illusion behind the mountain,I thought within myself that what could this illusion mean behind the mountain I realized that the mountain itself is an illusion,an illusion that placed itself to be real,it's because of the fear I had that made me think I can't overcome this mountain,it is just a Shadow that looks like a mountain, obstacles. Then I said within myself that not even the mountain, illusion of it's shadow can take me back,I will overcome this mountain,I trample upon fear and I move on,I saw so many things that looked like obstacles but am ready to overcome them with determination and prayer. You know what obstacles mean? It means something blocking you from moving forward or fulfilling destiny,so many times we tend to be engrossed in it,we let fear lead us and at the end because of fear we end up not overcoming the obstacles. We need to put our heads up high in the sky and our shoulders high up and walk majestically 😍 and say we will overcome this mountain no matter what,it shouldn't pull us down but rather pull them down and focus on the next thing we want to do. You have to understand that there is no mountain too high that can't become plain,it requires determination and prayer, determination has a lot to do in ones journey in life, Don't ever loose focus,a lot of lives depends on you . God said he's got my back,This time I looked through the window again with a smile😁 and do you know what I saw ? I saw an OVERCAME WORLD . BELIEVE YOU CAN AND YOU WILL, DON'T GIVE UP, NEVER 🙏