An Abusive Marriage Warning.

I'm a single mother of two(a proud one at that).I met my hubby sept 21st 2007.it was love at first sight we started our game of love and it was a wonderful one.In 2010 I got pregnant with our first child,I was bent on having DNC cos I had a project I was doing that period but he wasn't hearing any of it.he wanted the baby.after four months of going back and forth I later gave in to him.during the period I took in things were no longer rossy for him in short what I was seeing ahead wasn't funny.it got so bad he had to relocate to his dad's house(all this while I wasn't with him cos of what I was doing).God blessed me with a very beautiful statue no one knew I was pregnant till i was 7 months gone.his family went to meet with mine and two months later I had my first daughter.I had my baby in his family house(which my mum warned me against that to leave that house ll become very difficult). My hubby was the happiest man on earth the day I had my baby.he kept thanking me for months like I was a goddess(did I remember to say the baby is his carbon copy?).things got worse after the birth of my daughter,I was in charge of our upkeeps.he later got a job after a year of being jobless(you can imagine what I went through).his family are not the supportive type.Things got better after he got a job. I began to emphasis on our leaving his dad's house but he kept postponing our leaving. Not up to a year he lost the job again.I became the breadwinner again,this time it was very difficult because my daughter had started school.we kept praying and hoping for another job before I discovered I was pregnant with our second child.I didn't even know I was pregnant till almost five months.there was no symptoms that comes with pregnancy and I was seeing my monthly flow steady.he suspected I was pregnant when he saw I added weight.I quickly went for a scan and lo and behold I was four months and twenty six days pregnant. I cried an ocean that day.he kept consoling me that all ll be well.God being on my side the very next day he got a good job.all I needed and more was provided for.I had my second daughter in 2014,I almost lost my life while birthing her but all glory to God.all these while he never still agreed to leave his Father's house he kept telling me to be patient.a week after the naming he lost his job again.this time around I knew something must really be wrong.I went into serious fasting and prayers.God answered my prayers and a job came when my baby was five months.he wanted to refuse the job on the ground he couldn't leave me alone with Two kids.I cajoled him into accepting the job because I was tired of shouldering the family.not knowing that would be the beginning of my problems in my marriage.Money was no longer a problem, he provided well for I and the kids but never agreed to us coming to join him or even getting a house for I and the kids here .we began to have issues.i suspected he was cheating when he kept giving excuses for not coming home to check on us.he didn't come till our second child clocked one.when he came home he kept complaining that I wasn't looking good again.he even refused to sleep on the same bed with me not to talk of making love.he returned back to work after a week and I didn't lay my eye on him till after a year.he still refused to touch me.that was when I lost it and told him its either he takes us along to his working place or better come back home .he thought it was a joke till I started packing my things that I was leaving him.he called a family meeting so I could be pacified to stay.he later agreed to us coming to spend the kids holiday at his working place first before we finally relocate.even with all the going to his place of work ,he still didn't touch me.he will always give me one excuse or the other.I was gradually going into depression.there was never anything I could do to impress him.he was always complaining about everything I did.I decided to pay him a surprise visit alone without going with the kids so we could have time to talk alone.I left home to his working place on the13th of June last yr(the kids were on mid term break,I left them with his mum).I got to his working place at night(the journey no be here o)which made me appreciate his efforts cause we always go by air.I sent him a message when I was close to his house that I was at the gate.he never replied.when I got to the house he didn't allow me in.he locked his gate and left me outside. I was there till past ten before I called a friend who asked her driver to come pick me .I was waiting for my friend's driver till a quarter to twelve(all these was at night o).my friend called him on the third day to know the motive behind his action.he told her I am beginning to grow wings that she should tell me to return back to home. he later told her he was tired of me that he doesn't want me again.my friend succeded in planning a meeting between us and begged me not to outer a word no matter what he says.I had already made up my mind that am done with him since the night he locked me out.On the second day I got to his working place, I got a call from home to come for a job interview I never applied for(he never agreed to my going out to work since he got the job but instead he got me a shop).I and my friend met with him and he gave me the embarrassment of my life by shouting and calling me all sort of names in public. he even threatened to kill me if I don't leave his life.after ranting he threw my transport fare back to me.in all of these I never outered a word.I came back to home.the following day ,went for the interview and I got the job .my new job came With accommodation .I had to leave my kids with his mum because of their school(it was the toughest decision I had to take in my life.I cried everyday for months)I go to check on my kids every Friday and I stay with them all through the weekends.they come to spend their holiday with me .his mum really tried for me.he stopped communicating with me even stopped sending the kids upkeeps to me and started sending it to his mum(which wasn't a problem to me cos I was doing fine).I moved on and closed his chapter totallyIn couple of months it became difficult for people to recognise me cos I was looking very good .I added weight, did things that made me happy,made new friends,go to fun places with my kids.in all of this I came out better,stronger and wiser.am not where I want to be yet but am a lot better than where I used to be. He saw me last week and couldn't stop staring at me but am long done with him.In all of these God has been faithful