Empathy is a virtue that is learned at home. Synchronizing emotions (EN)

Babies have the amazing ability to faithfully mimic the behavior of parents and caregivers. This is the premise that we must keep in mind when we act in his presence.

This is how they learn all our virtues and all our defects, becoming faithful mirrors of our personality, motivating us to cultivate certain qualities that we lack or that we wish to develop.

One of them is empathy, which is nothing more than the ability we have to connect with the emotions that others feel.

How to sow this quality in the little ones?

With the example. When are they ready to develop empathy?

Since they are born: when we put ourselves in their shoes, when we allow ourselves to be infected by their laughter, when we console them when they cry, when we carry them or bend down to look them in the eye and, especially, when we listen carefully.

Even if they don't understand the concept of empathy, children will soon learn that it's natural and healthy to synchronize emotions with others.

Today there are many older people with the first symptoms of Alzheimer's, and it is often seen how their children, despite their love, reacted nervously to their recurring questions, forgetfulness or insistence. And in other cases, patient children were seen who knew how to respond with understanding and patience to those same questions, oversights and insistence.

It may not have much to do with it, but we know that the parents who are more nervous, those who disrespect their children the most in childhood, are also the ones who receive the most disrespect in adolescence from their children.

These are all part of the same empathy we have with others. Studies indicate that patience, treating others well, and understanding is one of the things that children learn the most from their parents. More than culinary tastes, the way of speaking or hobbies. Be kind to your children.

Results: in the short term we will receive hugs and kisses when they notice us tense or sad, in the medium term they will listen carefully to everything we say, and in the long term they will accompany us as considerate and fair adults.

The same demand and intransigence that you have with your children will be the one that your children have with you one day. Be nice.